See Life More Clearly In “Manchester By The Sea”

The movie Manchester by the Sea won’t only give you a gigantic lump in your throat; it will make you see life just a little more clearly than you did 137 minutes earlier. And that can be an especially good thing during these unsettling times all over the world.  

Casey Affleck hauntingly plays Lee Chandler, who returns to the community where he was born and raised when his older brother dies, and is shocked to learn that he is the sole guardian of his 16-year-old nephew. We don’t know much about Lee at this point, except that he’s a loner handyman for an apartment complex in Boston; he’s depressed, and he’s terribly angry. But, as the story unfolds, we learn about the unspeakable tragedy that made him leave Manchester by the Sea, and we struggle along with him as he is forced to face his deeply troubled past and decide where to take his future.

Every single character in the gut-wrenching film, as well as the dialog and storyline, are so unpretentious and realistic that it seems at times to be a documentary. I held my breath when Lee’s nephew Patrick (beautifully played by Lucas Hedges) visited the hospital morgue to see his dad, and cheered him when he was clumsily trying to hook up with a girlfriend before her mother knocked on the bedroom door. I sided with Lee’s wife Randi (played by Michelle Williams), when she confronted his rowdy and drunk friends to get out of the house in the wee hours of the morning. And my heart broke when Randi, this time as Lee’s ex-wife, apologizes to him, saying I should fuckin’ burn in hell for what I said” (after their tragedy.)  In the book of most memorable movie scenes of all time, that one definitely should be on page one.

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Meet Caris…With A Dash Of Pepper

Caris Vujcec is smart, savvy, and sexy. Yes, very sexy.

The American-born actress of Sicilian-Croatian descent recently celebrated a defining birthday, and knows well how the entertainment industry-at-large turns a blind eye to mature actresses. “The roles aren’t there. Our country, in particular, doesn’t think a woman is sexy after a certain age, or that anyone is interested in stories about women our age,” Caris says.

She references a five-minute comedy sketch with Amy Schumer, who stumbles upon Julia Louis Dreyfus, Tina Fey and Patricia Arquette while they’re celebrating Julia’s Last F**kable Day. “In every actress’ life, the media decides when you’ve finally reached the point where you’re not believably f**kable any more,” Julia explains to Amy. “It’s a humorous, sobering look at what the industry thinks of  women over forty” Caris adds. spacer (more…)

8 Ways To Keep Active This Summer

This post is sponsored by Depend.

If you’re one of the 65 million Americans who experience bladder leakage, you know that this common issue can inhibit you from leading the active and fulfilling lifestyle that keeps you moving and feeling good throughout the day.

Geri Brin, founder of FabOverFifty.com, has experienced bladder leakage since having a total hysterectomy at age 44, which led to sudden menopause.

depends-rev“I can tell you from personal experience the impact bladder leakage can have on your confidence, not to mention how it can hold you back from doing the things you love, including spending precious moments with family and friends or doing simple everyday activities like exercising or walking your dog,” said Geri. “Fortunately, there are options available, like Depend FIT-FLEX Underwear, to help you reclaim your life and reconnect with the people you’ve been missing.”

Depend FIT-FLEX Underwear is designed to move with one’s body and features a new technology to absorb leaks quickly. It’s made of breathable material with all-around leg elastics that provide flexibility.

“I’m thankful for Depend FIT-FLEX Underwear, which allows women (and men) to continue leading active lifestyles, without worrying that leakage will disrupt the things we love to do,” Geri continued. “You also can order these convenient and comfortable briefs on subscription from Amazon, so they’ll be delivered right to your door. I encourage all my FOFriends who experience bladder leakage to slip on a pair of Depend FIT-FLEX Underwear and enjoy a summer on the go!” (more…)

We Know What REALLY Pisses You Off

WE WERE CURIOUS TO KNOW ABOUT YOUR BIGGEST PET PEEVES

HERE IS A SELECTION OF SOME OF OUR FAVORITE COMMENTS.

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Trash-I hate trash! I go through trash bags like crazy.”–Sylvia Marie

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“People that when you open the door for them act like it’s their right-no acknowledgement or thank you!”Pamela June Diaz (more…)

The Women We Admire Most

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“My Mom-she loved her family. She was honest, sweet, caring and strong. She loved Daddy. She taught me to be my own person. She really could work all day, come home, clean the house, cook dinner and spend her days off taking us to the library, beach and museums. I miss her so much!” Cathy Justice

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“My grandmother Gladys Adams from Benson, NC. She died many years ago but I loved and admired her.” Beth Hall

“My big sister, Linda, love her with all my heart. I would not have made it without her.” Shelley Stellmach

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“My Aunt Estelle for her wit, love, kindness, and love of life!” Michelle Truffin Molloy

“To name just one is difficult. I had three very amazing women who gave so much for me and made me the person I am today. My trifecta of strong women. Today, a part of each of them lives on in me. Their strength guides me and has carried me through a life I am proud to have lived. They were my foundation.” Chris King Bent

FAMOUS WOMEN

“Jackie Kennedy was a great lady. She showed great strength and courage when her husband was killed right next to her.” Bonnie Trott

“Madame CJ Walker – first American female self-made millionaire. Plus, she was an African American woman. She used network marketing to make her first million.” Linda Jacob

“Princess Diana.” Belinda Rocha

“Margaret Thatcher, unbelievably strong woman! Super intelligent, I so admired her…” Mary Mosher

“Harriet Tubman and the women in my life…my grandmother, my mom, my sister , my daughter, and my granddaughters. Strong women with loving hearts.” Tula Smith

“Florence Nightingale.” Carol Collins

10 Ways To Bend The Rules

Life would be pretty dreadful if we did every single thing, all the time, by the book. Bending the rules occasionally can be downright liberating and thrilling. Get started today.

Give yourself permission to:

1. Go to a pretentious “black tie” wedding wearing what you want to wearwedding-outfit

2. Play hooky from work every other month and have a spa day, all by yourselfspa-day

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Dot Is ‘Dotty’ In More Ways Than One

Dotty Shealy is a middle-class widow living alone in a home in West Philadelphia in the play, DOT, at New York’s Vineyard Theatre.

Her single daughter, Shelly, often stays over because Dotty has been experiencing symptoms of dementia. Although Shelly, a lawyer, has a brother (a self-involved gay writer who is having marital issues) and a sister (a self-involved ‘diva’ seeking internet fame), she bears all the financial and emotional burden of taking care of their mother.

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When everyone gathers in Dotty’s house for the Christmas holidays, Shelly is determined to unburden herself to brother Donnie and sister Averie, and ask for their help. Donnie, however, can’t focus on mom’s problems when he’s fighting with husband Adam about their lack of intimacy. Averie, in the meantime, is oblivious to anyone’s situation but her own.   (more…)

Marlo Thomas Thrives In ‘Clever Little Lies’

What do you do when you (secretly) learn that your son is cheating on his wife?

You figure out a way to tell him you know, of course, if you’re can’t-keep-a-secret Alice, a well-to-do Connecticut woman, appealingly played by Marlo Thomas in Clever Little Lies, a new off-Broadway comedy.

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POLL: Tell Us About Your Relationship With Technology

It’s always enlightening to learn what other women in our generation are thinking and doing. Every Thursday, FabOverFifty asks members of our community a series of simple questions about pretty complex issues (and some not so complex issues), then we report the results back to you!

This week, we’re curious about your relationship with technology, at least when it comes to computers and phones.

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It Seems Like Only “Yesterday”*

Sally Ann Schmitz, of Paso Robles, CA, was born at 12:23 AM on January 1, 1965, reportedly making her the first baby of the new year in San Luis Obispo County, located about midway between Los Angeles and San Francisco.

If you’re out there,
Sally Ann, welcome to
FabOverFifty.

Welcome also to: Viola Davis, Diane Lane, Maura Tierney, Sarah Jessica Parker, Brooke Shields, Melissa McBride and J.K. Rowling, among the celebs who made their real debuts in 1965.

Twenty-five other notable, and not so
notable, events of that year:

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