Your Priciest Purchases Of 2016

One FOF did something wonderful for 50 of her dearest friends and relatives. Another is treating herself to the same thing, 12 times! We asked about your most expensive purchase of 2016, and the answers were as varied and interesting as you are!

“I retired and bought myself a horse, brand new truck and horse trailer so we can travel together! All told $62k. Aaarrggghhhhh!”

Shannyn Scassero

“2 puppies @ $300 each. In my defense it was also my dumbest purchase! One would have been enough work but nooooooo, like a genius I had to double that.”

Jodi Smith Rasar

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What’s Your Favorite Pair Of Shoes?

You may not be able to judge a book by its cover, but can you judge a woman by her shoes? And when a woman talks shoes, she can be pretty funny.

“LOL any! However, I love TOMS and what they stand for.”
Cheryl Caperchione

“Stilettos, but my age has caused me to choose wedges
Connie Kincannon

“Any shoes, boots! I feel like Imelda Marcos
Karla Anderson

“Homypeds…sadly, .my old feet don’t want fashion anymore.
Carine Munro

“Comfortable! Good looking doesn’t matter anymore if they kill my feet!”
Susan Stompf

“Wedges, but anything really. Can’t do more than 4″ heels though (unless they’re platforms!)”
Sandra McIntyre

“Dansko clogs”
Wendy K Hahn

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Why You NEED To Update Your Style

Is your closet filled with clothes you seldom, if ever, wear?

Do you try to keep your wardrobe au courant with the trends, but wind up looking silly?

Are you wearing the same style of clothes you wore 20 years ago, maybe even the exact same clothes?

Have you stopped caring about looking really good, and prefer to stick with sweats and tees because they’re comfortable, and besides who do you need to impress?

Does shopping intimidate, frustrate or depress you?

If you’ve answered yes to even one of these questions, you might want to give Terry Gibralter a call and learn how to choose clothes that make you look–and feel–absolutely terrific.

I was enchanted by Terry’s style the moment I first laid eyes on her–in the elevator of the building where we both lived. She’s what my grandmother used to call a stylish woman: “Put together!” And, if you go shopping with Terry, she’ll help put you together, and she “promises” that the experience will be“more creative, inspiring, quicker and more fun than you can possibly imagine.”

A former stylist for Elle Magazine, and then an advertising executive for many years, Terry realized how much she missed working in the fashion business when she recently helped a friend, who is a “remarkable jewelry designer,” to style models for a couple of video and print shoots. You can learn more about Terry here, and take a “stroll” through her fab online boutique. But first, read about her philosophy of dressing for FOFs and about why her
H*O*T* new shopping service might be the answer to your dressing doldrums.

PLEASE EXPLAIN HOW YOUR SHOPPING SERVICE WORKS AND WHAT MOTIVATED YOU TO CREATE IT

“It was sort of a no-brainer because it’s something I’ve done before. The service takes into account every aspect of shopping. We start with your closet and understand what you need, what you don’t need, then you go from there and shop. You shouldn’t go shopping with without a mission. I’ll help you figure out who you are, style wise, and how to build a wardrobe based on that. The process will make it easier to dress in the morning.

“I recently helped a woman in her early fifties. who is the head of account management at an ad agency. She’s always dressed up for work, and is now feeling ‘dated’ in an office where young women dress in pieces like jeans, tees and sweatshirts all the time. She wanted help around her ‘casual’ wardrobe so she could look ‘effortlessly casual.’

“We spent a couple of hours together where I asked her 10 questions about how she sees her style and her life, how she shops, and her budget. I then created style mood boards showing her what to wear with what, and how she could incorporate updated, casual pieces into her wardrobe.

“For another client I spent from 9 to 5 helping her redo her closets because she wanted them to look like mine. OMG, did I throw out stuff. That was easy because I had no emotional attachment to her things.”

CAN AN OLDER WOMAN DRESS YOUNGER?

“No matter how important a young woman’s job is today, she often just throws on jeans and tees and can still look good. When you’re young, you think you’re pretty damn perfect. Things are more forgiving when you’re in your 20s. Young people don’t even realize it when they don’t look good, but because they’re young, they get a pass. When you’re older, dressing becomes more challenging. You might have put on weight, for example, and you can look crazy if you throw on the same type of clothing that young women are wearing.

“Not everyone knows how to make new styles work and how to successfully update their wardrobes. That’s where I can help.”

DO YOU THINK WOMEN IN THEIR MID FORTIES, AND UP, SHOULD MAKE THE EFFORT TO CHANGE THEIR STYLES WITH THE TIMES, EVEN IF THEY’VE STOPPED WORKING?

“You won’t look good if you’re wearing the same clothing and hairstyle that you wore 20 years ago, and don’t update your style.  Styles change. I see women in their eighties all the time who still care. It’s life affirming. One woman had nicely cropped white hair, and was wearing a simple white, crisp shirt, a beautiful big necklace,  narrow trousers, great sandals and a great little bag in her hand. She looked like she stepped out of a fashion shoot. I understand it’s harder to change your style  if you don’t live in an urban environment, and you spend a lot of time in your car and aren’t seen as much as women in big cities.

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“I see older women either stop caring about the way they look, or just keep doing what they’ve done for years.  Their lives may be difficult and they don’t have the spare time to devote to fashion. I think fashion is very important. It’s how we face the world. It’s what people see before we open own mouths. We’re being judged by how we look.  It does matter, even if we say it doesn’t.”

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Finding Your Signature Fragrance

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It took me decades to find a perfume that I’d love and love and love. It’s Une Rose by Frederic Malle.

And how nice it is that we have a plethora of fragrances from which to choose. Each of us “wears” a scent differently, so when we find one we adore, we truly can call it our own. We asked you to tell us about your favorite perfume. Here’s a selection of our favorite responses and a rundown of the top five FOFragrances.

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Top 10 H*O*T Shopping Hacks

When it comes to shopping, she’s “the GOAT (Greatest Of All Time),” unabashedly says my fabulously stylish FOFriend, Terry Gibralter, whose online vintage shop sells many of her own possessions.

new terry“We’ve never met a shopping challenge we didn’t slay!” she says. Consider Terry’s 10 rules for buying behavior and you could become savvy in the stores, too.


This is the most important step before doing any kind of shopping, ever. You’ll be able to see what you own and know what you need. Separate your clothes by type of garment, and maybe even by color. Use hangers designed especially for shirts, skirts, and pants because they will make everything easier to hang, as well as help you keep your wardrobe in tip-top shape. Shelves make excellent handbag organizers, and sturdy, sizeable shoe racks will save you lots of time when it comes to finding the perfect  pair for your outfit. Once you have a closet that works, you’ll never go back to closet clutter again.

Often we wander into stores without a real plan in mind, which contributes to grabbing those horrendous mistakes that wind up in the back of the closet, forever! Starting with a list will make things infinitely easier, keeping you focused on the items you actually need. It also will help save you time and keep you from making impulse purchases. (We can’t guarantee this, however!)

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We’re In Love With These Tops For Fall & Winter!

Whether you want to hide your tummy, slim your waist, or show off your shoulders, Covered Perfectly tops will do the job to perfection. Styled in completely natural MicroModal, with just the right amount of Spandex, these lovely pieces feel so luxuriously soft and light, you’ll almost forget you’re wearing them. And, they look absolutely amazing with everything from jeans to skirts.
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What Decade Suits YOUR Style?

TerryIs there one era that really speaks to you when it comes to your personal style? Are you a roaring 20s flapper or a 70s boho chic princess? My fashionable friend, Terry Gibralter, is a bit obsessed with the mod mod world of the 60s. But whatever your style, she has the jewelry to express it in her oh-so-fab shop, H*O*T.

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20s

The years after World War I ushered in a new mood in design based on clean-cut architectural looks, which came to be known as art deco. Influenced by geometry–circles, squares, rectangles, and triangles — 20s jewelry really made a bold statement! This Etro geometric faux emerald cocktail ring is a perfect example.     (more…)

Which Sunglasses Look Best On Me?

I’ve never owed prescription sunglasses that gave me a clear view of the world. But Gregor, at Anne Et Valentin, in New York, reassured me that the lenses he was recommending would provide the clarity I wanted.

“You’ve probably been getting polarized lenses, which work best if you’re often around the water, which reflects a great deal of sunlight,” Gregor explained. I am not a beach or fishing person, so he said that I wouldn’t need them. (more…)

Which Accessories You Chose To Go With 5 Of Shelley’s Outfits

Accessories are like the icing on the cake; they make a beautiful outfit even more beautiful. When we asked you to match five of Shelley’s outfits with five accessory groups, over 300 women entered their selections. Here are the results of the poll.

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Which Accessories Should Shelley Wear?

Besides loving heels, Shelley adores accessories like no one we know.

And she makes absolutely certain that the bracelet(s), ring and necklace she wears each day complement each other, in terms of colors, shapes and materials (she doesn’t mix gold and silver, except if it’s white gold).

Above are photos Shelley’s accessory options and below are five of her outfits. Tell us which accessory group would look best with each outfit.

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