See Life More Clearly In “Manchester By The Sea”

The movie Manchester by the Sea won’t only give you a gigantic lump in your throat; it will make you see life just a little more clearly than you did 137 minutes earlier. And that can be an especially good thing during these unsettling times all over the world.  

Casey Affleck hauntingly plays Lee Chandler, who returns to the community where he was born and raised when his older brother dies, and is shocked to learn that he is the sole guardian of his 16-year-old nephew. We don’t know much about Lee at this point, except that he’s a loner handyman for an apartment complex in Boston; he’s depressed, and he’s terribly angry. But, as the story unfolds, we learn about the unspeakable tragedy that made him leave Manchester by the Sea, and we struggle along with him as he is forced to face his deeply troubled past and decide where to take his future.

Every single character in the gut-wrenching film, as well as the dialog and storyline, are so unpretentious and realistic that it seems at times to be a documentary. I held my breath when Lee’s nephew Patrick (beautifully played by Lucas Hedges) visited the hospital morgue to see his dad, and cheered him when he was clumsily trying to hook up with a girlfriend before her mother knocked on the bedroom door. I sided with Lee’s wife Randi (played by Michelle Williams), when she confronted his rowdy and drunk friends to get out of the house in the wee hours of the morning. And my heart broke when Randi, this time as Lee’s ex-wife, apologizes to him, saying I should fuckin’ burn in hell for what I said” (after their tragedy.)  In the book of most memorable movie scenes of all time, that one definitely should be on page one.

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Learn A New Language In A Fun New Way

Remember memorizing hundreds of verb conjugations when you were learning a foreign language, and racking your brain to recall whether a noun was feminine or masculine? Even if you aced every test, you wouldn’t exactly have called yourself fluent. And, if someone gave you a book to read in the language, you barely made it through the first chapter. What’s more, everything you learned seemed to evaporate from your brain once you graduated school.

You’d love to be able to speak a second language now, but aren’t motivated to start memorizing verbs again. Although you’ve been tempted to buy Rosetta Stone, it’s so expensive. Besides, you’d probably use it only a handful of times, kind of like the treadmill that collected dust for years. And wouldn’t it be nice to converse in Spanish with your 10-year-old grandson or granddaughter, who started learning the language as a new fifth grader?

Now you can do both with a revolutionary program, called My Language Town, conceived by Carmen Herrera, a 40-something Spanish instructor at the prestigious Dalton private school in New York City. Born in Cordoba, in southern Spain, Carmen has been learning and teaching foreign languages ever since she was young.“My father was a school superintendent and my mother was a kindergarten teacher, and we always had exchange students from all over Europe staying at our home, which shaped how I see people,” Carmen told me. “Learning someone else’s language gives you more empathy to them.” (more…)

What Do You Most Miss About Life Before The Internet?



“We have lost face-to-face interaction or talking on the phone; it’s now messaging or texting. If I had a choice of going back to how things were in the good old days, or having them stay as they are today, I would go back.”
Gail Sampson

“I miss really feeling the love with smiles and laughter of my whole family with the attention focused on each other. We had some really good times back in the day!” Rhonda Berry

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This Free Online Course Could Change Your Life

It may be a long time since you’ve set foot in a classroom, but today you want to learn as much as you can, as fast as you can, to be successful in our dynamic world.

You might be on embarking on an exciting new challenge. Perhaps you’re changing jobs or your career. Or maybe you’re going back to work, after years, now that the kids are far from kids.

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[POLL] How Do YOU Spend The Holiday Season?

It’s always enlightening to learn what other women in our generation are thinking and doing. Every Thursday, FabOverFifty asks members of our community a series of simple questions about pretty complex issues (and some not so complex issues), then we report the results back to you!



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{Frocks of Gibralter} Choosing The Perfect Gifts For Our Favorite FUFs (Fab Under Fifty Women)

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My daughter-in-law is Casual Cool, so it’s a pretty safe bet I’ll score if I buy her something from brands like Madewell or The Gap. Check out our suggestions for your favorite gals, from your Modern Boho daughter to your Preppy Chic colleague.