“FOFs tell me they want to get married, they want to find love... but first, you need to be open to dating and having fun,” says expert Cheryl Savage.”
Cheryl warns against going somewhere with the sole purpose of meeting “the one.” Instead, she has this sage advice: “Go for fun, go for adventure and if you see an interesting man...go talk to him!”
Here are her top picks for places where single FOF men congregate...and where FOF women have the best chance of meeting them!
1. Golf Course Bars and Restaurants
- After finishing up a round of golf on a Wednesday or Thursday night, many FOF men will unwind at the restaurant at the 18th hole. Many of these men might be married, but there certainly will be some singles amidst the group. Recruit a married girlfriend to accompany you. Married or happily-in-love friends can often be quite encouraging.
2. Car shows
- Here’s a spot FOF men, many of them single, gather. Similarly, they gather at car races and sport races. Grab a girlfriend and carouse around. Approach a man you find interesting... If you don’t know much about cars or sports, use it to your advantage. “What do you think is the best car at the show?” is a great conversation starter.
3. A restaurant with bistro tables
- Don’t hide in a booth in the back. Sit at a tall table or at the bar. It’s okay to go alone. It is easier for men to approach you when you are at eye level and by yourself. They won’t approach you if they have to bend down to a table or if you are engaged in conversation with someone else. If you're in a group, turn away from them periodically. I call this, "separating from the herd."
4. Sports Bars
- Especially during big games, men congregate at sports bars. Go with a girlfriend, not another man, even if he is gay or your brother, because a man who wants to approach you may not know that.
5. Bike Riding Groups
- Many single, professional FOF men go cycling on Saturday mornings and then head to coffee shops after.
Are there any places FOF singles should avoid? “Sitting home on your couch cuddling two men by the name of Ben and Jerry!” says Cheryl. “My best advice is to get out and have fun. The chances are better than when you don’t.”
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