FOF gave 12 lucky ladies the chance to win one of Sinclair Institute’s inspiring and informative sex education videos. All the winners were interviewed, before and after watching the videos of their choice, about their sex lives.
Enjoy our “after” interview, below, with FOF Renee and her husband, John. We originally learned that they are an adventurous, loving couple but sometimes falls into a sexual rut.
“We can go three to four months without having sex at all,” Renee explained (and complained). Find out what they got out of the video they watched and why Renee says it “wasn’t what I expected.”
Which video did you watch?
Renee: Great Sex for a Lifetime.
Where did you watch it?
Renee: In our bedroom, in the evening.
Did you do anything special to prepare?
Renee: Yes, we made sure the kids weren’t home and that we were relaxed and in the mood.
Did you have any expectations?
John: I don’t think so. I think we were just curious to see if there was anything new that we might pick up.
Renee: I had no idea what to expect.
What was your first impression?
Renee: It wasn’t what I thought it was going to be. I thought the video would have more diagrams and voiceovers. Like, someone telling you what to do. But it was real people– couples. The instruction was by example. You watched what they said and did. I was surprised by how open they were.
John: I thought it would be more like Cinemax, where they don’t show any of the real stuff.
Renee: Yeah, like when they show you a position and then pan to the faces or something.
John: But this wasn’t like that—it really showed everything!
Renee: Everything!
John: You name it, they show it.
Did you like that it was explicit?
John: I thought it was very good. It’s nice that there’s something out there to give us real ideas for new things we can do.
What did you think of the real people?
Renee: I found them relatable. When you watch them, you don’t feel like you’re weird. They all have their own little quirks. They gave you ideas. And they also told us to communicate, which I liked.
John: You could tell that it wasn’t staged at all–just real people relating their experiences.
Was there anything you particularly related to?
John: To tell you the truth, we didn’t see anything we haven’t tried before. I mean, we’ve been together a long time and we’re pretty adventurous. But it reminded us of things that we’d put out of rotation.
Renee: Yes, little clues and reminders.
John: It put things back on the playlist.
Would you recommend this video to another FOF? Why or why not?
John: For sure!
Renee: Yes. I thought that there were a lot of good ideas there. And by using real people it gives you permission. If you’re not normally adventurous you might look at them and say, ‘It’s okay. These are good things to do.’ It would put anybody in the mood.
You mentioned that you have periods when you’re in a “sexual rut.” Is this something you’d use to help you out of it?
John: Yes.
Renee: Everyone looked like they were having a great time. It makes you think, ‘that looks like fun– let’s try that.’