Remember when you were so intensely attracted to a man (or woman), the simple touch of his fingers on your neck or bare arm would make you come close to orgasm?
Sometimes, just thinking about him was all you needed. Well, that was then, and this is now. And now, it takes a great deal more than fingers fluttering up your arm to get your heart racing and your blood flowing down below. As a matter of fact, “loss of desire is the most common sexual problem for postmenopausal women, as they lose testosterone,” says Sheryl A. Kingsberg, PhD, in a conversation titled Sex, Lies & Menopause: How Menopause Affects Your Sex Life, part of a DVD series called Menopause Talks.
“The length of a relationship can impair great passion. Once that fades, you have to find other ways to engage,” adds Dr. Kingsberg, who is Chief of Behavioral Medicine, University Hospitals of Cleveland. As desire loses spontaneity, a woman often needs to first get aroused before she develops desire.
Achieving orgasm also takes much longer, and women often want to know if that can “be fixed,” notes Dr. Alan Altman, considered among the top experts in menopausal medicine in the United States. “One patient told me her ‘orgasms are no longer the Rocky Mountains; they’re the Blue Mountains.’ This is a natural change over time,” he explains on the Menopause Talks DVD he shares with Dr. Kingsberg. There is an infinite number of ways to experience sex. Not every woman is orgasmic, Dr. Kingsberg adds.
Contrary to what millions of women believe, intercourse is not a reliable way for women to reach orgasm.The majority of them–70 percent–are not reliably orgasmic with penetrative sex, especially when the man is positioned on top, Dr. Kingsberg says.
The difficulty in obtaining orgasms, whether it’s the length of time it takes or the loss of desire, can be stressful, the doctors agree. There are ways to help, including directed masturbation therapies, exercises to tighten the vaginal muscles, and a new laser treatment that can help tighten the vagina and improve its lining, which stretches out and thins, especially after vaginal childbirth.
Today, FabOverFifty would like to introduce you to Fiera Arouser for Her, like no other tool to enhance intimacy on the market. It’s not a vibrator. It’s not a pill or supplement. It’s not a cream or gel. It’s a small, discreet and hands-free product which enhances arousal and increases desire, helping get your body ready for an enjoyable sexual experience.
Fiera is shaped to fit comfortably between the inner and outer labia, atop the clitoris. Once the power button is pressed, the product softly seal itself to your body with gentle suction, and then a trio of tiny vibrating stimulators gently surround the clitoris to provide extra stimulation and send blood into the area. Buttons on the topside of Fiera control the pattern and intensity of the stimulators, ranging from soft and slow to harder and speedier (but not so hard or fast to cause any discomfort.) A soft, removable cover, called a SofSense ring, is snapped into place before each use, and washed in warm, soapy water between uses.
A great little product before sex or masturbation
It’s pretty easy to switch speeds and patterns, once you get the hang of it, and little lights tell you when Fiera is attaching, properly suctioned, or needs to be recharged. The settings, combined with the gentle suction, help you find the ideal combination to enhance arousal and desire. The clever little thing isn’t meant to give you an out-and-out orgasm, but to get you in the mood-physically and mentally-to have one, whether or not you have a partner. Using it before masturbation definitely enhances your orgasm. The user guide explains that it can take three to four times before you feel that you’ve positioned Fiera so it’s most effective.
By the way, Fiera isn’t just for menopausal or postmenopausal women. Other stressors, including pregnancy, breastfeeding, or lack of sleep, can negatively impact sexual interest and response.
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