When You Read A Nasty Comment About Yourself on Facebook

Whenever I’ve heard celebrities publicly read nasty tweets or comments people wrote about them, I think:  “Good for you!”  Well, I’m no celebrity, but I’d like to share a nasty comment made about me. 

The backstory: Life Line Screening is an exceptional service that offers a battery of preventative health screening tests for a ridiculously low price. I’ve written about my experience with Lifeline on my website faboverfifty.com, and this post runs on our Facebook page: 

It’s always rewarding to read the comments from people who have had Lifeline’s tests or plan to have them once they see the Facebook posts. I’m not a saint either, but it pleases me to be able to recommend something that can help someone else.  Especially when it comes to their health!

Anyway, I was scrolling through some comments today and noticed one was hidden from a couple of weeks back, so I un-hid it and saw this: 

 

I know the world is spinning out of control in many ways, but what in God’s name would possess a woman to preface her comment ABOUT A HEALTH SERVICE with a statement about how “UNAPPEALING” I LOOK!!!!!!????? I actually think that’s a good photo, but, as they say:  “To each her own.”

It’s sad – and a little bit scary – to think about the anger millions of people harbour in their souls on so many levels. 

Now, please understand that I have no problem with people commenting about my hair, my weight, my fashion style etc. if, let’s say, I’m writing about one of those subjects. And, if someone like Doreen Caridi-Schmidt gets her jollies passing around my photo at a soiree she’s throwing for all her good (and obviously ravishing) friends in Florida, go to it sweetheart! 

But I couldn’t let Ms. Caridi-Schmidt’s comment go unanswered because it’s a perfect reflection of something deeply wrong in our culture today.  It takes a special kind of rage for a woman to gratuitously comment about how my photo looks on a post about preventative health screenings.

Anyway, I’m delighted Doreen was “very pleased” with Lifeline and got her results in a couple of weeks.

I wonder how she’d do on tests that measure kindness and joy.

 

Researching My Way to a Diagnosis

This post was developed in collaboration with Lundbeck

Sometimes your professional skills come in handy when it comes to your personal life. In the case of Bob, his lifelong job as a professor at a local university helped him understand which condition had confounded him with symptoms for so long.

Back in 2000, Bob began to feel lightheaded going up and down stairs or walking a long way across the university campus. Also, he would struggle standing up at different times, explaining that he felt like he had a weight on his head.

To compensate, he developed subtle techniques to hide the fact that he was feeling lightheaded. “I would lean back against a table or chair and try to look natural. I was embarrassed to talk openly to my colleagues about my symptoms and didn’t want them to be concerned, so I would often make excuses after we had lunch, telling them, ‘Go ahead. I’ll catch up.’ I knew that I needed time to stand up slowly and steady myself.”

Bob went to a lot of doctors to figure out what was wrong with him, including a neurologist, endocrinologist, pulmonologist and cardiologist. They each tried to fix individual symptoms, but no one put all the pieces together.

So, as any good professor would do, Bob began to do research on his own to figure out what his symptoms could mean. He learned for the first time about the nervous system disorder pure autonomic failure (or PAF). When he brought this up to his neurologist, who is also a movement disorder specialist, his doctor conducted additional tests and eventually confirmed the PAF diagnosis, as well as diagnosed him with an associated condition called symptomatic neurogenic orthostatic hypotension (symptomatic nOH). Bob’s doctor explained that PAF interferes with his body’s ability to control blood pressure and that when he stood up, his blood pressure would drop and remain low, which is what made him dizzy and lightheaded.

Bob finally felt like he was on a track to start managing his symptoms and began a treatment option for symptomatic nOH, called NORTHERA® (droxidopa). NORTHERA is a prescription medicine that has been shown to improve symptoms of dizziness, lightheadedness or the feeling that you are about to black out in adults. Please review the full Use for Northera and Important Safety Information below, including a boxed warning for Supine Hypertension. NORTHERA might not be right for everyone, and it’s important to speak with your doctor about what might be right for you.

In addition to prescribing NORTHERA, Bob’s doctor also recommended ways that he could help control his nOH symptoms, including drinking a lot of water, eating lighter meals with fewer carbohydrates (a challenge for pasta-loving Bob!) and adding more salt to his food. 

As a way to help others in similar circumstances, Bob became an nOH Champion for Lundbeck (manufacturer of NORTHERA). In this role, Bob is part of a network of patients and care partner ambassadors dedicated to educating and supporting others living with or caring for someone who has symptomatic nOH. By becoming an nOH Champion, Bob shares his story and lets others know that they need to be an advocate for themselves, starting by logging their symptoms and directing them to helpful resources, such as a symptom tracker.

Everyone’s situation is different, but Bob certainly can serve as an inspiration of persistence and fortitude when it comes to advocating for your own health. If you don’t feel that you’re getting the answers you need, don’t give up and keep doing your due diligence until you’re satisfied with the answers and treatment plan.

Always remember that you’re your own best support system.

USE OF NORTHERA (droxidopa) CAPSULES (100 mg, 200 mg, 300 mg)

NORTHERA is a prescription medication used to reduce dizziness, lightheadedness, or the “feeling that you are about to black out” in adults who experience a significant drop in blood pressure when changing positions or standing (called symptomatic neurogenic orthostatic hypotension (nOH)) and who have one of the following:

—    Parkinson’s disease (PD), a neurodegenerative disease that causes slowness in muscle movement as well as shaking in the hands

—    Multiple system atrophy (MSA), a Parkinson’s-like disorder with more widespread effects on the brain and body

—    Pure autonomic failure (PAF), a neurodegenerative disease that results in frequent drops in blood pressure upon standing

—    Dopamine beta-hydroxylase deficiency, a condition where the body cannot make enough of the hormones that help regulate blood pressure

—    Non-diabetic autonomic neuropathy, an inability to maintain blood pressure upon standing that can be caused by a number of rare diseases

—    Effectiveness beyond 2 weeks of treatment has not been established, and your doctor will decide if you should continue taking NORTHERA.

IMPORTANT SAFETY INFORMATION

WARNING: SUPINE HYPERTENSION (this is high blood pressure while lying down)

When lying down, elevating the head and upper body lowers the risk of high blood pressure. Check your blood pressure in this position prior to starting and during NORTHERA treatment. If you experience high blood pressure, talk to your doctor about your NORTHERA treatment.

  • Do not take NORTHERA if you have a known allergy to NORTHERA or its ingredients.
  • NORTHERA may cause high blood pressure when lying down, which could lead to strokes, heart attacks, and death. To reduce this risk of supine hypertension, take your late afternoon dose of NORTHERA at least 3 hours before going to bed.
  • Neuroleptic malignant syndrome (NMS) is a rare but potentially life-threatening side effect reported with NORTHERA. Call your doctor right away and go to the nearest emergency room if you develop these signs and symptoms: high fever, stiff muscles, movements that you cannot control, confusion or problems thinking, very fast or uneven heartbeats, or increased sweating. NORTHERA should be stopped immediately if NMS is diagnosed.
  • If you have coronary artery disease, irregular heartbeat, or heart failure, NORTHERA may worsen the symptoms of these disorders. Call your doctor if your symptoms become worse.
  • NORTHERA may cause allergic reactions. Stop taking NORTHERA and contact your doctor right away, or go to the nearest emergency room if you experience any signs or symptoms of an allergic reaction such as: fast heartbeat, nausea, vomiting, swelling, trouble breathing, hives, or rash. NORTHERA contains tartrazine (FD&C Yellow No. 5), which may also cause an allergic reaction, especially if you have had a reaction to aspirin.
  • The most common side effects with NORTHERA are headache, dizziness, nausea, and high blood pressure.
  • Taking NORTHERA with other medications may cause side effects. Tell your doctor if you take prescription or over-the-counter medicines, vitamins, or herbal supplements.
  • You should not breastfeed during treatment with NORTHERA.
  • If you plan to become or are currently pregnant, talk to your doctor as it is not known if NORTHERA could harm your unborn baby.
  • Take NORTHERA the same way each time, either with or without food.
  • If you miss a dose of NORTHERA, take your next dose at the regularly scheduled time. Do not double the dose.

For more information, please see the full Prescribing Information, including Boxed Warning for supine hypertension, or go to www.NORTHERA.com.

You are encouraged to report negative side effects of prescription drugs to the FDA. Visit www.fda.gov/medwatch or call 1-800-FDA-1088.

References

  1. Freeman R. Clinical practice. Neurogenic orthostatic hypotension. N Engl J Med. 2008;358(6):615-624.
  2. Mabuchi N, Hirayama M, Koike Y, et al. Progression and prognosis in pure autonomic failure (PAF): comparison with multiple system atrophy. J Neurol Neurosurg Psychiatry. 2005;76(7):947-52.
  3. Low P. Neurogenic orthostatic hypotension: pathophysiology and diagnosis. Am J Manag Care. 2015;21(13 Suppl):s248-57
  4. Heims H, Critchley H, Martin N, et al. Cognitive functioning in orthostatic hypotension due to pure autonomic failure. Clin Auton Res. 2006;16:113-120
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  7. NORTHERA [package insert]. Deerfield, IL: Lundbeck

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Time To Tell Him: “Show Me The Money, Honey!”

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Married at 19 years old, Sarah rarely stressed about money during the next 50 years. “My husband Rob was in charge of the finances from day one,” she said. A mid-level administrator at a printing company in New York, he was sensible and competent at everything he did. Sarah always turned her modest salary as a nutritionist over to him. 

But when Rob died at 74 after a short illness, Sarah’s money worries began. 

She had no earthly idea whether their mortgage was paid off, or if Rob kept his life insurance when their sons moved out on their own. She didn’t know a thing about their investments. And, she didn’t have a clue about their monthly expenses. Rob prepared their income taxes. He paid all the bills.

Sarah was beside herself with anxiety as she waded through mountains of files trying to get a handle on money matters. 

Halfway across the country in Chicago, Barbara had another type of distress when her ex died suddenly. Assuming their 17-year-old twins were still beneficiaries of his life insurance policy, Barbara was shocked to learn he left the money to his new – and much younger – wife. “I was counting on the inheritance to help pay the steep tuition bills when the kids went off to college in a year,” Barbara fretted.

Barbara is still kicking herself that she didn’t confirm the beneficiaries of her former husband’s insurance policy since their divorce. “I would have paid the premiums just as long as the money went to our children, but I had no one to advise me,” she groaned.

DON’T WAIT FOR DEATH OR DIVORCE

Stop right here. Are you like Sarah or Barbara? If your husband died or you and he split up, would you know if your and your family’s financial future were secure?

Or maybe you’re single and make a decent living, but haven’t done a thing to ensure you’d be in decent shape if you lost your job or could no longer work.  And what are your retirement plans?

You see a doctor about medical issues. Rely on a plumber when a pipe leaks. And make a mad dash to a mechanic when a warning light pops up on the car dashboard.

Isn’t it high time you met another expert – a financial expert – who can advise you about one of the most crucial components in your life: Your Money?

You may feel more comfortable letting your partner deal with the family finances. Or perhaps you’re embarrassed that you know next to nothing about investing and would feel like a jerk talking to an expert. Or maybe you think your “future” is too far away, so why start planning for it now!  But you should stop making excuses. If you start learning about your finances today you’ll help give yourself a secure tomorrow. 

“SHOW ME THE MONEY, HONEY”

“Even if you don’t control the money, a lot of ‘what ifs’ can happen, so at least learn where the money is and where it’s going,” said Joyce Streithorst, director of financial planning with Frisch Financial Group. “It’s a lot easier to gather this information over time than to be forced into it by a divorce or a death. 

“You’re not looking to take over control, but to educate yourself and be involved,” Joyce added. Get copies of your tax returns, investment statements, credit card statements, bank statements. Discuss where your money is invested. Go through the estate plan and the beneficiaries. Find out if your husband bought disability and long-term care policies. And make sure your home isn’t in his name only.

“Tell your husband that you want to be on the call when he next talks to the accountant or financial advisor so you can try to understand what’s happening. If the advisor talks over your head, ask him to go slower. If you think commissions, not your interests, are his priorities,  suggest to your husband that it might be a good idea to get a second opinion from another advisor,” Joyce recommended.  After all, you want to make sure you have the right person working for you. 

                      Pam Krueger

Frisch Financial is part of Wealthramp, a free online referral service that connects consumers with top independent, fee-only financial advisors who best fit their needs. After all, each woman’s financial requirements are as unique as her health or beauty essentials, stressed Pam Krueger, Wealthramp founder. 

Also co-host of Friends Talk Money podcast and creator and co-host of MoneyTrack on PBS, Pam spent three years personally vetting every advisor for her smart Wealthramp service. She had heard one too many tales of woe from women who suffered financially because they were horribly mismatched with advisors. Or they accepted the advisors their husbands chose, not meeting them even once.

THE WEALTHRAMP DIFFERENCE 

Sixty-something Carol discovered Wealthramp after she sold a building she owned for almost 30 years, and was searching for an investment advisor. Single and a construction management professional, Carol had always been frugal and lived modestly, putting most of  the money she earned from her job and tenants’ rents back into her house.  When she decided  it was time “to start enjoying life instead of fixing toilets,” she put the building up for sale. Her modest down payment had turned into a handsome profit, and she knew it was time “to grow up and have an investment portfolio.”

Discouraged by meetings with women from a Forbes list of top advisors, “who’d blab on and on about themselves without asking me a single question,” Carol was encouraged to hear about Wealthramp on Pam Krueger’s podcast.  “Pam was personable and seemed to care about her clients,” Carol remembered.

After submitting a two-minute Wealthramp survey, Carol had a 45-minute call with Pam, who recommended two advisors. Carol interviewed both of them at length and chose Joyce. “She created a detailed document explaining how she’d invest my money, what the businesses did and why she chose them,” Carol said.

Carol speaks to Joyce whenever she has questions or gets nervous if she sees the value of her investments dropping and needs reassurance. “Joyce gets back to me right away,” Carol said. “I’ve never felt that she put me on the back burner or pushed me off. She doesn’t talk mumbo jumbo and say things I don’t understand.”    

Working with Joyce for the last five months, Carol has seen a good return on her investments. “I never had my life so stress-free, EVER! I know my money is in good hands. And so am I.”  

The advisors in the Wealthramp network don’t require that you invest millions like Carol. As a matter of fact, you don’t need to invest at all; you can simply get a sound analysis from an expert about the state of your financial affairs.

FOR FINANCIAL SECURITY TOMORROW

Bravo Bombas!

You probably know Bombas as the brand that donates one pair of its socks to a homeless shelter for each pair purchased. This became the company’s social mission when the two founders learned that socks are the most requested item of clothing in shelters. 

Now the brand is carrying its social consciousness to its new underwear collection.  What’s more, the Bombas marketing mavens are conscious of another important fact: Women who wear underwear aren’t all Victoria’s Secret models. When I opened up one of the Bombas emails the other day, and started looking through its online shop, I was intrigued to see the panties on the bodies of ‘real’ women. Real women with thighs, hips, buttocks, tummies and legs that don’t resemble washboards, beanstalks, and pencils.

When I launched Figure magazine for plus-size women around 2004, the bodies of the larger models we used still didn’t have a bit of hanging or bulging skin. But younger women today champion body acceptance, not body shaming.

I’m not advocating that women should accept bodies that can wreak havoc on their health. “Obesity is a complex disease involving an excessive amount of body fat. Obesity isn’t just a cosmetic concern. It is a medical problem that increases your risk of other diseases and health problems, such as heart disease, diabetes, high blood pressure and certain cancers,” reports the Mayo Clinic website. 

But not all bodies with excess skin (let’s say after dramatic weight loss or pregnancy) or more heft are unhealthy or unsightly. We may not be used to seeing them on the pages of magazines and catalogs, but millions of women see bodies like this when they look in their mirrors.

I remember to this day heading to the “Chubbette” department with my parents when we went shopping for new school clothes around the end of August every year during my childhood.  I don’t think I read the copy in ads like this one in 1957, when I was 10, but reading it now makes me realize why I grew up thinking myself unsexy (I wasn’t, by the way, but it took years of therapy to discover that).

“If your favorite little girl is on the plump side, dress her in Chubbettes and see her blossom into a lovely lass – as happy and self-assured as her slimmer schoolmates. Chubbettes are created for the chubby-size young figure – a perfect combination of fit, comfort and slenderizing design.” 

The ad also offers parents “POUNDS AND PERSONALITY”,  a free booklet that will help them understand their child’s “problems, talent development, shyness, tactless remarks, the ‘game’ of dieting, etc.” And, it was written by a woman from New York University’s School of Education.

Those 1950s were quite a decade!

 

“Life, if well lived, is long enough”

At 5 am on a Friday in mid January a New York man in his 80s tragically took his own life.

I remember reading about this but learned a few days ago that the man was the husband of Barbara Tober, who I met many years ago when we were both editors. Editor in chief at the time of  phenomenally successful Brides Magazine, Barbara’s poise and elegance stood out in the heady and hectic world of magazine publishing.

I met Donald Tober only briefly when I dropped something off with Barbara at their stately Park Avenue co-op apartment. The handsome couple was getting ready to leave for one of the many events it attended throughout the year.

A Harvard law school graduate and successful businessman, Donald had taken over his father’s food distribution company, which helped make the Sweet ‘N Lo brand a household name.

Both previously married, Donald and Barbara, now 86 years old, had no children. Besides enjoying their active social and professional lives, the Tobers loved skiing, horses (they owned a horse farm), dancing, music, and entertaining. And, they were very philanthropic.

Married 48 years when her husband took his own life, Barbara talks about her shock in a moving tribute on a website she created to honor the love of her life.

A victim of mentally and physically debilitating Parkinson’s Disease, Donald had grown increasingly depressed being confined at home when Covid upturned our lives.

Without the constant stimulation of work and play, he began to talk often about ending his life, Barbara said in her online tribute. But she never dreamed Donald would do it, she added, choking back tears.

My heart goes out to Barbara for her grief. It is profoundly sad when someone says goodbye to a long-time love and best friend.

But, despite losing her intense physical, emotional and intellectual connections with Donald, Barbara’s independent spirit, world of friends and admirers, and deep interests will undoubtedly help sustain her.

Barbara is not a woman who is going to wallow in her sadness. She will bear it with her trademark poise and elegance.

While many may disdain Donald’s decision to end his life, I do not. A man who successfully maintained control over his life for nine decades (he died two months shy of his 90th birthday), he couldn’t let his disease take the reins.

“Life, if well lived, is long enough,” reportedly said the Roman statesman Seneca, who died in 65 AD.

Donald Tober knew he led a life well lived. Barbara knows it, too.

 

Spread The Word To The Women You Love About The Cancer We Can’t Afford to Ignore

This post was developed in collaboration with Eisai Inc. 

Fit, healthy and happy, my 54-year-old friend Deni wasn’t overly concerned when she noticed occasional spotting, about 15 months after what she assumed was her final period. “I felt anxious though when it became painful to pee. I was constantly bloated, and a strange pressure developed in my pelvic area,” Deni recalled.

A few months later – after finally talking to her gynecologist and undergoing a battery of tests and procedures, Deni’s ultrasound revealed an unusual thickening of her uterine wall. Tissue samples confirmed her fear. She had cancer, endometrial cancer. Before her diagnosis, Deni didn’t even know what that meant.

While many of us are aware of ovarian cancer, endometrial cancer is, in fact, the most common gynecological cancer in the United States, accounting for 90% of uterine cancer diagnoses. 

The abnormal growth of cells in the lining of the uterus, endometrial cancer most commonly occurs after menopause, although it’s on the rise among women between 20 and 49 years old.  

The causes of endometrial cancer are unknown, but some factors besides age that may increase a woman’s risk are obesity, family history, a high-fat diet, a lack of exercise, and a history of irregular periods. Overweight or obese women are two to four times more likely to develop this type of cancer than women with normal weights, according to the National Institutes of Health, National Cancer Institute. So, there’s a possible link between the rise of obesity in the United States and increasing endometrial cancer diagnoses and deaths. 

Fortunately for Deni, she was pronounced cancer free following a complete hysterectomy since the malignant cells were confined to her uterus. Thousands of other women, however, aren’t so lucky. Uninformed, they may relate painful urination to a urinary tract infection, bloating with using too much salt, and occasional spotting as just another nuisance after menopause. And, unlike Deni, they don’t seek help, or they wait until it’s too late! 

While 84% of white women have an overall five-year survival rate for uterine cancers, the number drops to 62% for Black women. Less likely to have health insurance and adequate access to doctors, only 53% of Black women with the condition get an early diagnosis.

Besides the symptoms Deni experienced, other symptoms can include irregular or heavy bleeding before menopause, and abnormal bleeding or a brownish discharge post menopause. Having an unpleasant discharge might embarrass a woman into silence, but knowledge empowers us to take control of our own health. While these are not all of the possible symptoms of endometrial cancer, recognizing and talking about them with our gynecologists or primary care doctors may help us spot the cancer early, when it may be more treatable. 

We all know that when one woman speaks up about her symptoms, other women are encouraged to follow. FORCE (Facing Our Risk Of Cancer Empowered), SHARE Cancer Support, Black Health Matters and Eisai have partnered to launch Spot Her, an initiative to help inspire all of us to know the signs of this serious cancer, spread the word, and speak to our doctors if we’re experiencing symptoms. Not next month. Not next week. But today.

“If you have symptoms, listen to your body and don’t be afraid,” Deni stressed. “Call your doctor. The sooner, the better. If I had waited any longer to speak to mine, the outcome may have been completely different.”

Join us in our pledge to #SpotHerForEC. For the women we love. For the women we are. Visit SpotHerForEC.com for information on endometrial cancer and on the important initiative. 

Meet my Friend, The “Menopause Whisperer”

I spent my 40s having uninhibited sex with E, a man from Mississippi (yes, Mississippi!) 14 years my senior. Thrilling sex. Sex that made me see stars – literally. Sex in all kinds of positions. Sometimes sex three times a night. Long drawn-out sex. Speedy sex. Sober sex. Inebriated sex.  No toys. No chains, whips and blindfolds. Just me and E. Up until our first sexual union I couldn’t have even imagined sex could be so intoxicating, 

Geri and the man from Mississippi many moons ago (BTW, that’s not ALL my hair. There’s a tree in the background)

E died 12 years after we met, when I was 53 years old. Although my sex life didn’t die with him, sex with new men didn’t come close to being as exciting.  I didn’t care. I had left corporate America two years before to launch my own business, an all-consuming endeavor.  

Then, year by year, sex has played a smaller and smaller role in my life. It’s not a big ticket in the lives of many of my FOFriends, either, whether or not they’re married. 

A vibrator is an acceptable stand in for E, even if it doesn’t have a southern accent. Frankly, the thought of having sex with an older man who doesn’t look like Liam Neeson isn’t especially appealing. Besides, it’s doubtful Liam would fancy my current physique. 

Enough about me. Let’s talk about you. If your interest in sex is diminishing weekly – but it distresses you – I know just the man who can help.

        Dr. James Simon

His name is Dr. James Simon, a prominent reproductive endocrinologist and certified sexuality counsellor in Washington, D.C. who has been called the “Menopause Whisperer” by Washingtonian Magazine. And, he’s just received the Distinguished Service Award from the International Society for the Study of Women’s Sexual Health, which recognizes an individual’s dedication and commitment to the fields of women’s sexual medicine and health.

As Dr. Simon treated women in their mid-40s who were fatalistically accepting their declining libidos, he was determined to step forward. That was 25 years ago, when he opened IntimMedicine Specialists, his Washington, D.C. practice.  

Now a preeminent authority on treating sexual, menopausal, and complicated gynecological problems, Dr. Simon explains there are “biological, sociological and psychological approaches to understanding low sexual desire and bringing couples closer together, rather than allowing them to drift apart.” 

What’s more, “women who have successful intimate relationships, including sex, are less likely to have sleep problems or other medical problems, and even live longer,” he asserts.

Since 1996, Dr. Simon has helped thousands of women, men and couples understand their waning sexual interest and take action to reverse it. “Women feel diminishing sexual desire is a fait accompli of aging, and nothing can be done about it,” he adds. “When it is exacerbated by menopausal symptoms, sexual pain, and fear of hormones, it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. If neglected, additional social and inter-relational issues predominate, making treatment far more complex.” 

The availability of pornography has had both positive and negative effects on sexual relationships, Dr, Simon believes. “It’s opened our eyes to new types of sexual encounters, which can help couples renew their sexual satisfaction. On the downside, explicit sexuality on the internet can raise unrealistic expectations,” he adds, “Patients ask me, ‘Why is sex so short?’ when they see it last an hour online,” he chuckles.

Dr. Simon and I have become friends, and we’re working together on an exciting initiative for mid age women – which we’ll announce later in the year. We’ve never discussed my sex life, but I’m certain that his intelligence, experience, wonderfully soothing style – teamed with his incredible ability to listen – will do wonders for yours.

You don’t have to live in Washington, D.C. or visit Dr. Simon’s office. Schedule a Zoom session and you’ll probably call him the “Menopause Whisperer,” too. You can reach Dr. Simon at 202-293-1000.

Maintain Your Strength and Stamina with Restorative Cellular Nutrients

     BY AMANDA EDWARDS/WIREIMAGE

I marvel at Betty White, as bubbly and zestful at 99 years old as she was half a century ago playing perky Sue Ann Nivens on The Mary Tyler Moore Show. Lucky lady. Betty’s energy inspires me. We all need as much vitality as we can get as we age.

So when my own signature high energy seemed to be decreasing about five years ago, I figured more lunges and less pizza would help get it back.  I’ve since learned a startling scientific fact of life: There’s a critical link between how and why we age and the health of the 30 trillion cells in our body.  Even if I walk 10K steps every single day and have an insanely healthy diet, my cells just aren’t going to work as efficiently as they did when I was 40 years old.

As a matter of fact, starting in our 40s, we tire more easily, become weaker, have reduced mobility and stamina, and are more susceptible to disease with each passing birthday. Known as Age-Associated Cellular Decline (AACD), it impacts the way we feel!

But now we can have more control over our health than ever before, thanks to phenomenol progress in nutritional science.  And the scientists at Nestlé Health Science have figured out that nourishing our cells with targeted cellular nutrients can help them function more like they did when we were young. That means more energy, strength and immunity, and an overall feeling of well being when we’re in our 60s, 70s, even 80s and beyond. 

CelltrientTM Cellular Nutrition, Nestle’s exciting new line of supplements and beverages, addresses multiple causes of AACD through the select cellular nutrients GlyNAC, Urolithin A and Nicotinamide Riboside.

KEEPING YOUR STRENGTH AND STAMINA AS YOU AGE 

My jaw muscles got a lot more exercise during the last 15 months than the muscles in the rest of my body. Now that I’ve started  to be more active after Covid confinement, I see how out of shape I’ve become. 

It’s bad enough that our overall strength is impacted by the combination of reduced muscle mass and energy production in our skeletal muscle cells when we’re older.  Being sedentary for over a year hasn’t helped. Walking up a hill leaves me breathing more heavily and feeling achy. 

Besides moving more, I’ve started taking Celltrient Cellular Strength to nourish my muscle cells with the nutrient Urolithin A (UA), which helps them renew their power plants and  promote healthy muscle function. “Cellular Strength complements our daily exercise routines and gives our cells an extra boost,” stressed Dr. Noelle Reid, a holistic family medicine physician in Los Angeles.

Even if you faithfully exercised during the last year, you should add Celltrient Cellular Strength to your health regimen. Remember, your muscle cells started slacking on the job when you were in your 40s. So they need all the help you can give them now!

AND USE CODE FABFIFTY10 FOR 10% OFF YOUR FIRST PURCHASE.

Revitalize Aging Skin Cells With Restorative Cellular Nutrients

This post is sponsored by Avenoir Cosmetics, which compensated FabOverFifty to write it. Regardless, we only recommend products or services that we believe will be helpful for our readers, as we’ve been doing for 11 years! 

I’m 73 years old chronologically, but my millions of facial skin cells are acting younger every week since I began feeding them a seriously spectacular serum packed with restorative nutrients.  My skin is firmer, brighter, smoother, and the softest it’s been in years, thanks to Avenoir Cosmetics’ Cell Repair Serum – Clinical Strength. There’s nothing remotely like it on the market. More on this in a minute. 

Cellular nutrition is a hot topic these days, now that scientists have uncovered a critical connection between how and why we age and the health of the 30 trillion cells in our bodies. And, it’s anything but a fad! 

Alas, the cells throughout our body start slacking off and producing less high-quality nutrients when we’re in our 40s. We tire faster and become weaker with each passing birthday; have decreased mobility and endurance, and are more susceptible to illness. The cells of our skin secrete less collagen and elastin, the proteins that kept our skin taut when we were young!  Older cells also hang around. We develop wrinkles, fine lines, redness and discoloration. Our skin sags, dulls and dries out.

Feeding targeted cellular nutrients to our cells can help restart and restore their processes as we get older, scientists have learned. And the precise ingredients we need to revitalize our aging skin cells have recently been discovered by biomedical engineer Dr. Ramon Coronado while he was researching stem cells in his lab.

 

The Authentic Avenoir Difference 

Combining powerful combinations of 2500 growth factors and proteins that help our skin cells perform like they did when we were younger, Dr. Coronado has introduced Avenoir’s Cell Repair Serum – Clinical Strength and Cell Repair Moisturizer. 

The concentrated serum is a cocktail for growing stem cells to help combat chronic inflammation that we all develop at some point in our lives,” Dr. Coronado explained. It stimulates the younger skin cells, so they grow faster and overcompensate the harmful effects of the older cells as well as environmental toxins entering our skin,” he added.

A friend of Dr. Coronado saw immediate results when she used his new serum on a skin problem she had for years. Another woman used it on her age spots, and two weeks later they were gone. Fine wrinkles began fading away on the  skin of a third woman. “Although each woman had a unique skin issue, it indicated that the overall health of her skin was suffering. By providing the nutrients their cells needed to be healthy and perform at their best, the serum cleared up their individual problems,” Dr. Coronado noted. 

RESULTS OF A FOUR-WEEK TRIAL OF AVENOIR CELL REPAIR SERUM

95%
of participants saw an overall improvement

 

95%
saw improved skin texture (smoothness/softness)

 

> 90%
saw improvement in general redness and irritation

 

>75%
reported a younger appearance

Avenoir Cosmetics is the only company in the world using Dr. Coronado’s proprietary Cell Repair Nutrient™, as well as his confidential formula that makes the clinical strength serum incredibly effective. Since use of the ingredients has traditionally been confined to laboratory settings, they’re harder to get and more expensive than those used in other skin care products. “But well worth it,” Dr. Coronado said. “It’s virtually impossible that the serum won’t benefit your skin,” he enthusiastically added.

The Dynamic Duo 

Avenoir’s Cell Repair Serum – Clinical Strength costs more than other products on the market, but it includes “molecularly sophisticated components and growth factors that you simply don’t find in other products,” Dr. Coronado stressed. Besides, it’s a great deal less expensive than laser treatments at the dermatologist. Meant to be used before bed, the serum will feed your cells at an especially  beneficial time – when your body is at rest. Only a small amount is needed to do the job.  

Avenoir’s Cell Repair Moisturizer has the same ingredients as the serum, but is less concentrated and can be used day and night. It penetrates deep into the layers of the skin to significantly increase elasticity and tone. Using it regularly will invigorate and nourish the skin, leaving it feeling smooth, supple and firm. The effectiveness of the moisturizer alone cannot be matched. 

I’ve been using both products for one month and, as I mentioned at the start, my skin is tighter, brighter and baby soft. As the editor of a trusted website for women, I’ve tried many excellent skin care products over the years. The science behind Avenoir is second to none. 

Avenoir expects to introduce a toner and products for the eyes and neck this year with the exceptional benefits of its serum and moisturizer. I can’t wait. Thank you, Dr. Coronado. 

And start revitalizing aging skin cells with Avenoir’s Cell Repair Serum – Clinical Strength and Cell Repair Moisturizer. 

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At Last, a Plant-Based Supplement for Incontinence That Works! It Really Works!

If I was dating, I probably wouldn’t tell a new man about my condition, but otherwise I’m upfront: I have incontinence. How can you ever hope to solve your problems if you keep them to yourself? Happily, the folks who are marketing an exciting new drug-free incontinence treatment invited me to try it after they read one of my blogs. More on that in a moment. 

Chances are pretty good that you also have incontinence, along with 43 percent of women 50 to 64 years old and 50 percent over 65. Yet, only about one-third of us talk to our doctors, and continue to suffer in silence. If you’re one of the embarrassed non-talkers, please learn from my experience and hopefully you’ll get relief, too. 

After taking a popular incontinence drug for years, I abruptly stopped in 2017 when I read that it increased my risk for dementia. I’d rather lose complete control of my bladder than my mind!  I refused to take another popular drug instead since that one would increase my risk for high blood pressure, among other side effects.  My pressure is normal. So, I began wearing special padded underwear.  Function over glamour, ladies!

Order Femaxeen For a Life-Changing Event

Femaxeen, the new plant-based food supplement that recently hit the market, seemed promising. Seventy-six (of 81) participants in a randomized, double-blind, placebo-controlled study reported “statistically significant improvements” in their incontinence after taking the supplement for 90 days.  (Note: Three participants didn’t follow up; and ‘treatment’ wasn’t started in two placebo patients.) 

The supplement is formulated with a proprietary cocktail of ingredients that work together to help the bladder function properly and support lower urinary tract health. Femaxeen is effective on stress incontinence as well as on urge incontinence associated with an overactive bladder (OAB),” said Oscar del Cid, whose company – DNA Biopharm – distributes it in the United States. Monaco-based Axeen Pharma produces Femaxeen. I wasn’t on a date with Oscar, so I talked freely about my bladder.  

“Before taking Femaxeen, i didn’t have a sex life. I was like Niagra Falls at night. Thank you for changing that.”  – Rhonda D. 

A QUICK LESSON IN BLADDER HEALTH

If you’re not versed in the types of bladder issues, here’s a quick lesson.

Stress urinary incontinence is the involuntary loss of urine during physical activity, such as coughing, laughing or lifting.  This happens when the pelvic floor muscles that support the urethra (the tube carrying urine out of the body) and the urinary sphincter muscle (controlling the flow of urine from the bladder) are weakened or damaged by events including menopause, childbirth, trauma and hysterectomy. (I fit into all but the trauma category.) Of the approximate 18 million people affected, women represent 85 percent.

OAB is a sudden, strong and frequent need to urinate occuring when the smooth muscle in the bladder wall (detrusor) destabilizes and involuntarily contracts while the bladder is storing urine. A normal detrusor muscle will relax during the storage phase and will contract when we pee. OAB may be associated with urine leakage if you can’t get to the bathroom in time.  Approximately 13 million women are affected by OAB with incontinence. The exact cause is unknown, but it’s thought that risk factors include vaginal birth delivery, age, obesity and chronic constipation.

“I had to call you. For the first time in over 10 years I wore skimpier shorts because I didn’t have to hide my diaper.”  – Donna B. 

Our urinary system does its job well when muscles and nerves work together to hold urine in the bladder and then release it at the right time. Nerves carry messages back and forth between the bladder and the brain to signal when the bladder is full and tell muscles when to tighten or release. If these nerves don’t work properly, your bladder won’t either. 

Made from UriCyTonin®AFU&I, an exclusive blend of purified pollens extracted from a flower found in Sweden, Femaxeen works with nerves and muscles to support bladder health. The formula also includes pumpkin seed extract for the health of the pelvic floor muscles that control urine flow, and Vitamin E to help protect cells against oxidative stress.

I’ve been taking one Femaxeen tablet daily for the last month – with absolutely no side effects – and can expect to see a marked improvement in my incontinence after about four months, Oscar told me. The results will take longer for women with more severe incontinence, he added. “Many of us want to see results overnight, but the benefits of the formula build up over time,” Oscar stressed. “It’s important to be patient. The outcome will be worth it,” he added. 

To inspire us to keep taking Femaxeen, even if we don’t see an improvement as fast as we’d like, Oscar is giving every woman who purchases one or two boxes an equal number of gratis boxes. Shipping and returns are free, too.

Femaxeen: For a life-changing event

(Enter Fab50  at checkout to purchase one or two boxes  and get an equal number of gratis boxes)