alexw SAID:

I have been divorced for over 25 years. My focus has been to raise my kids and now I feel interested in dating. How would I even begin? Thanks!

4 Answers

  1. Mike Halsey wrote on :

    Begin where you are, perhaps? If we were working together, I might suggest we start by gently but playfully poking around in your values and imagination to learn what really great dating could look like for YOU. If this new adventure were to be fantastic, what would the key pieces look like? Are there any “must haves”, “show stoppers” or maybe even little fears to get out in the open? Once your heart and head are beating strongly to the same “Why” tune, there are a ton of new, safe and fun ways to meet great people out in the world. What a great way to reward yourself for so many years in “awesome Mom” mode!

  2. Rosanne Leslie wrote on :

    To answer this question correctly would depend on your personality, likes and dislikes and temperament. I would start by focusing on what you enjoy to do with your spare time and position yourself in an environment that feels comfortable to you. If you like to dance, find a salsa group. If you like to read, go to book discussions. I believe if we do the things we love to do we will find the company/date/relationship that we desire. Focus on yourself and your own growing and what you are passionate about. Then you wll attract into your life, not only that special someone, but a host of wonderful people and then you will naturally create the life you want.

  3. Betsy Karp wrote on :

    It’s so great that you are taking time and interest in your life and in what your needs are.

    Dating is fun, and it’s a great way to meet other people. Try to go and be involved in fun environments and do thing you enjoy doing. The first step you should take is to make a list of all of the things you love to do in life. Do you like to run, jog, elk, bike, do yoga, swim, golf????

    Any of these fun activities are a way to get fit and meet men and other people. Do you enjoy art, movies, cultural events, join a meet up group. go to your local church or synagogue and meet others through spiritual experiences. Many people have good luck on line so you might want to try on line dating. I find the bests way to start dating to to just GO out …. Go to Starbucks, take another route to the dry cleaners or the local grocery store. The best place to meet someone is when you are NOT looking and just being you and enjoying your life. Ask your friends to fix you up, maybe someone they know is single and wants to date. That truly is one of the best ways.

    Be happy, wear color, color attracts people and Be you…. I hope this helps. Betsy Karp ,The Colour Coach

  4. Diane Danvers Simmons wrote on :

    Good for you …you need attention too, so I’m really happy yo hear you’re making that “Leap of Faith”!
    I say, Leap of Faith ,because that is what you’re doing and it’s certainly a different dating scene than when we were younger.
    First thing I would recommend is you make sure that you FEEL connected to YOURSELF, because knowing who you are and feeling confident about yourself, will attract others. We’ve all heard the old saying , you have to love yourself before you can love someone else …well sister, It’s true!
    Be clear about your intentions and what you want from a relationship right NOW. If you step out into the world with an open mind and heart , you will find someone.
    On a HOW TO NOTE , I would suggest simply meeting people through friends, if at all possible, they know you the best and will always try and introduce you to someone they know rather than a complete stranger.
    Secondly ,I would look at meeting people through common interests. For example, if you enjoy cooking join an evening class ,if you like to cycle join a cycling group. I recently heard from a friend about a group called MEETUP….it helps groups of people with shared interests, plan meetings and form offline clubs .I cannot vouch for them as I have not participated, but my point is, to take safe baby steps and look at online opportunities such as the aforementioned or the lunch time dating concept.
    By taking a step by step approach you’ll work out what FEELS right for you , and that my friend is the key…listen to your gut, your instincts, they never lead you astray.
    Now go out and LIVE IT !

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