When my gorgeous, outgoing, smart, no-nonsense FOF friend, W, found out her son’s girlfriend was pregnant, she wanted her to have an abortion. She thought her son and the girl, only 20, would ruin their lives if they had a child.
The young woman made an appointment for the procedure, but changed her mind at the last minute. W realized that’s what a woman’s choice really meant. “It wasn’t what I wanted that mattered,” she told me. Then W, a take-charge type, tried to convince the couple to give the baby up for adoption. She even called agencies to start the process.The girl refused.
“He screamed back, ‘What if it’s the best thing I did in my life?’ That stopped me cold and I had an epiphany, This isn’t about me. It’s about my son.”
W’s granddaughter is now 2 1/2 and the love of W’s life.”I’d rather play with her than go out. My son is a wonderful father and very happy. He takes care of his daughter during the day and goes to college at night.”