When I was a magazine publisher, one of our biggest advertisers was a prejudiced man. By the time he revealed his dark side, we had become friends. He was cultured and smart, but he was prejudiced against anyone other than Caucasians. Learning this made me feel less friendly towards him, but I never told him that I found his racial slurs offensive. His advertising meant more to me than his friendship, so I kept quiet. I’m a bit embarrassed to admit this, but nevertheless, it’s what I did. I was in my thirties.
What does Rush Limbaugh’s fourth wife, 34-year-old Kathryn Rogers (he’s turning 61) think about his attitude towards women? Is she offended, but keeps quiet because she’s A) afraid of him?B.) likes his money too much to disagree with him? C.) loves everything else about him? Or perhaps she agrees with his portrayal of a Georgetown University law student as a “slut” for thinking contraception should be made available through health plans.
Sometimes it takes years to see a person’s true colors. We may not like what we see, but we do we throw out the whole box of crayons because we hate the dark green and purple? Or do we work with what we love and keep that which we don’t under wraps?
Some things aren’t as black and white as we’d like them to be.