Let’s say your children had lots of money and you needed or wanted some of it for one of the following: 1.) To make ends meet 2.) To take an around- the- world cruise you’ve always dreamed of taking 3.) To help you put the down payment on a new car.
Would you ask them to help?
My answer: A resounding yes, in all three cases.
I would not be self-conscious if I needed to/wanted to ask for my children’s help (provided I wasn’t being foolish or unreasonable.) I am financially generous to my children and I would hope they’d be the same to me. Money is just money. If my kids had enough of it, and it wouldn’t cramp their lifestyles to give a little to me–no matter the reason–I’d ask.
What’s the worst thing that could happen?
They wouldn’t give it to me.
I offered to help out my dad many years ago when he was struggling. I knew he was too proud to ask. It saddens me and my sisters that he died before we started making respectable livings. We’d be spoiling him rotten today.
FOF women don’t look at money the same way our folks did.