I wish The New York Times had included a photo of FOF Leah Rozen’s gray hair when it ran her column in the other day’s Sunday Style Section (She’s Done With Washing It Away; June 23, 2013)? Then we could have seen the state of her “gray.” Is she lucky enough for it to be shimmering, silky silver or snow white, or it is salt and pepper and resembling straw? I use the distinction because gray hair–like blond, red, and brown hair—comes in many shades and textures, and while some of it looks sexy and spectacular, other gray hair looks ghastly. Coloring hair, for many FOFs, has less to do with looking “young” than with looking better. My gray hair, like my mom’s, is firmly in the salt and pepper straw category. While mom chose to go au naturel, I look brighter and perkier when my hair returns to the color it used to be.
“Most women my age, at least in the not-especially-rarefied circles in which I travel, dye their hair. It’s easier and less painful than a face-lift or Botox injections, those other popular weapons in the ceaseless battle for eternal youth. That’s a struggle from which I’ve opted out,” Leah writes.
Fiddle-faddle. I suspect Leah wears a bra to lift her FOF breasts, dresses in more than hopsacking to enhance her FOF body and might even pick out cute frames to help focus her FOF eyes. Why, then, doesn’t she think clothes and accessories are “weapons,” and a “struggle” with which to deal? Perhaps she should shed herself of these, too.
Leah also says she’s “cheap,” that it was costing her “north of $800 annually” to color her hair at her “neighborhood Manhattan hair salon.”
Fiddle-faddle. Home hair color costs as little as $8 a box (and even really good, custom-blended color from e-Salon costs $20 a box). So coloring your hair a casa would cost decidedly less each year than $800.
As a single woman, Leah says she doesn’t have to “ask my husband or significant other if he minded being seen squiring around an obvious incipient geezer.”
Fiddle-faddle. As an independent progressive woman, I trust Leah wouldn’t be kowtowing to a husband, if she had one. And to those women who do want to please their husbands, I say, “Nothing wrong with that.”
Leah said he mother advised her to “grow old gracefully,” which included not dyeing her hair.
Fiddle-faddle. Some of the most graceful FOFs on the planet dye their hair. Think Meryl Streep and Helen Mirren.
“I’m 57 but look like an old lady. That’s because my hair is gray,” Leah began her column.
I’m 66 but I don’t look like an old lady. That’s because I color my hair, had some work done on my face, wear makeup and think I look cool in some of the trendiest fashions.
It’s still me, only not gray.