I cringe when I think of all the hours I used to spend (desperately) waiting for the phone to ring, thinking….
Am I getting the job?
Is he asking me out again?
Was the medical test negative?
Did she get my message?
Are they coming to the party?
Did they like my presentation?
Why didn’t he call me yet?
No more. When I want to talk to someone who is important to me, get the answer to a critical question or pursue an essential goal, I make the call, write the e-mail or press for a meeting.
And I don’t give up easily. It’s usually a chore getting someone’s attention in this crazy world. You’re generally not a priority unless you make yourself a priority. If I have to send a dozen e-mails to connect, I send a dozen e-mails.
And I try to do unto others as I would like them to do unto me. I believe in returning calls, answering e-mails and respecting that most of us have something we want to sell to someone else.
I’m FOF. I don’t get flustered, frustrated, angry or sad if someone tells me to bug off, says no or won’t respond. That is, after the dozen e-mails.