I always thought people would do unto me as I did unto them. If I was a generous friend, my friends would be generous back. If I was a hardworking boss, my employees would work hard, too. If I was an honest vendor, my clients would be honest.
I became horribly upset, even angry, when someone disappointed me, which invariably was the case. If an employee didn’t live up to my standards, my patience ran out. I fired far too many people back in the day. If I thought a friend was acting selfishly, I defriended her. If a client lied to me, I was beside myself.
Now that I’m FOF, I know relationships aren’t always balanced. My expectations were completely unrealistic. Sometimes you give more than you get, or the other way around. If you know the people in your life are good, loving and honest, you don’t keep a scorecard on their every move.