I always thought people would do unto me as I did unto them. If I was a generous friend, my friends would be generous back. If I was a hardworking boss, my employees would work hard, too. If I was an honest vendor, my clients would be honest.
I became horribly upset, even angry, when someone disappointed me, which invariably was the case. If an employee didn’t live up to my standards, my patience ran out. I fired far too many people back in the day. If I thought a friend was acting selfishly, I defriended her. If a client lied to me, I was beside myself.
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Geri says:
Hi Nomi
I am happy to know about Gretchen’s Happiness Project. Thank you for your comment.
Best,
Geri
Nomi says:
Gretchen Rubin wrote about this on her “Happiness Project” blog. See http://www.happiness-project.com/happiness_project/2006/12/in_which_i_cont.html . She made “No calculation” one of her “12 personal commandments.” We don’t realize just how much scorekeeping we do every day and how much unhappiness it brings. I’m a prime offender there…
Geri says:
Hi Maureen,
Thank you. It’s a shame we can’t be born as smart as we are now. 🙂 But I guess better late than never, right?
G
Maureen@IslandRoar says:
Really well put.
But you’re right; it’s a lesson learned with age.
In youth, we think we have the right to all these expectations of people.
And we really don’t.
Geri says:
Hi Claire
I am FOS too, but we are also FOF 🙂 I get disappointed as well, but it passes quickly.
G
ClaireOKC says:
Even though I’m FOF (or rather FOS-ixty), I still get disappointed…what’s up with that? And I still believe that if you deliver more than you’ve promised that it will come back to you, with the opposite being true – that if you cheat (and lie and steal too), it will also come back to you. I might not live that long, but I’m happier with myself in the end and can hopefully pass the karma onto someone younger.
Geri says:
Hi Toby,
“Disgust factor” concept is totally clever of your kids. Thank you for your comment. Have a good evening.
Best,
Geri
Toby Wollin says:
There really is not way to put some sort of point values on stuff – this is like when my kids used to bid for household jobs and used to value cleaning the bathroom higher than washing dishes because of the ‘disgust factor.” I gave up long ago trying to deal with scorecards because I always felt on the short end of things..wasn’t worth it and no one else seemed to understand why I was upset.
Geri says:
excellent way to put it LPC
G
LPC says:
True dat.