I stared longingly at the enormous poster of a romantic young couple in the window of Banana Republic. They are wrapped in each other’s arms, their eyes are locked together and nothing else in the world seems to matter. Of course, they’re thin and sexy.
I’ve never been with a romantic man. Flowers, surprise trips to Paris, romantic dinners, holding hands in the street and breakfast in bed have not been integral parts of any of my relationships.
When Douglas got down on bended knee and proposed to me, I guess you could consider that to be romantic. When Edgar told me he loved me for the first time and gave me three pieces of jewelry that was romantic, too. And David did buy me flowers a few weeks after we met. But these were only gestures, perhaps not meaningless, but not indications of things to come.
Maybe the reason I’ve never connected with a romantic man is because I wasn’t interested. I don’t want to waste my FOF time analyzing why.
0 Responses to “Isn’t it romantic”
Helen says:
My ex husband was not romantic, nor were any of the men I dated after my marriage. I started to wonder if it was the type of man I was picking or was it me? I think I’ve always been so determined to be a strong independent woman that it was leaving the men in my life feeling that anything they did for me would be criticized and not accepted for the romantic notion it was meant to be.
So now, I let my current husband do all kinds of things for me, from making sure the car has gas in it to coming and picking up all my boxes at the store so I don’t have to drag them out onto the street. Sheryl is right, it’s the little things but we women who were raised during the feminist years need to allow the men in our lives to do these things for us.
Sheryl says:
Crazy as it may sound, some of the most romantic things my husband does for me are just simple…calling to say “hello” during the day and to see how I’m doing , or to tell me yet another hilarious situation he found himself in; requesting a hug for no reason; wearing those shorts that are so hideous and old that they’re actually sexy; bringing home a surprise dessert. It’s truly the simple things that count.
Duchesse says:
I’m married to a very romantic man. And ‘romantic’ does not mean he (only) gives you flowers or surprise trips. One of the most romantic things Le Duc did over the last 25 years is take our twin sons out when they were young, so I could have luxurious naps.
Geri says:
Hi Susan,
Send me an email at geri@faboverfifty.com and give me your phone and we will personally call you tomorrow and straighten this out.
Geri
Susan says:
How does one log on to FOF when they don’t except my password and sent me new passwords that don’t work. I sent an email for technical help and never got a reply. I have been trying to log in for at least a month. I even tried registering with a new email address and then the same thing happened. Won’t take my password. I’m frustrated. I kept a log of my passwords to different sites so I know I’m not forgetting my password. help! I don’t have this trouble with any other site I go to. I have my computer save my passwords. I even had my sons who are pros at this stuff say that it isn’t me. They tried and didn’t have any luck.