When his mother asked him to admit his greatest fear, forty-year-old British fashion designer, Alexander McQueen, said “dying before you.”
An odd and unnatural reaction for a grown man to worry more about his mother’s feelings than about himself.
Joyce McQueen died almost two weeks ago. Her talented and devoted son hanged himself the other day. He took to his bed after his mom died and stayed there. Apparenty, he was as distraught at losing her as he knew she’d be losing him.
It’s not supposed to work that way. Mothers are supposed to worry about their chidren.
As the FOF mother of a 30-year-old son, I couldn’t live with myself if I knew my death would affect him so profoundly. Sure, we’d want our children to miss us, at least for a brief time. Then we’d want them to remember us lovingly and to go on happily with their lives.
My dad died when I was 41 and it made me sad. I still think about him often. I am sorry for McQueen that he couldn’t have had similar feelings when his mom died. It is a great loss when one so young and so talented leaves us.
P.S. On another note, a mother in Georgia is mourning the death of her 21-year-old son, who had a fatal luge accident at the Olympic Games in Vancouver, Canada. My heart breaks for her–and for her son.