My former husband was one of the first househusbands in the United States. Douglas quit his job in 1981, when our son was two, because A.) We discovered that the nanny left Colby lying in the crib all day B.) My husband preferred to stay home with Colby than to work at a job he disliked C.) I made more money anyway.
Douglas was quite a novelty around the neighborhood, especially with the moms in the playground. Many of them became his good friends. Parents Magazine even asked him to write a diary of his experiences. I was thrilled was the arrangement. It was a relief to know that our son was in good hands. And I could stop stressing about needing to leave work to be home by 6.
My goodness, things have changed. Consider these statements from an article in today’s SundayStyles section of the New York Times:
Wives are now the primary breadwinners in 22 percent of couples, up from 7 percent in 1970.
..as men take on more housework and women earn more outside the home, divorce rates in the United States have fallen. In states where fewer wives have paid jobs, divorce rates tend to be higher.
Women who no longer need to marry up educationally or economically are more likely to pick men who support a more egalitarian relationship.