This is a momentous weekend for my FOF sister, Shelley. She and Russ celebrated their FORTIETH wedding anniversary, and their youngest son, Adam, became engaged to his girlfriend, Nicole.
The 2005 movie, Monster-In-Law, was named after Shelley’s mother-in-law, as well as after countless mothers-in-law back in the day. But Shelley, like millions of FOFs, are giving new meaning to the words mother-in-law because she is going to treat Nicole like a daughter, rather than a son snatcher.
Shelley is thrilled that Adam met a lovely woman who loves him, even his numerous quirks. 🙂 She thinks Nicole is warm, beautiful, hard working and smart. She’s thrilled Nicole is not afraid to stand up to Adam but knows just when to go along with him.
Shelley doesn’t think she’s competing with Nicole for Adam’s attentions. Adam and Nicole only spent a couple of hours with our family on Thanksgiving because they were going to be with Nicole’s family in Boston. If Adam thinks it’s more important to be with Nicole’s relatives for a specific holiday, Shelley doesn’t fret about it. She knows she and Russ will have plenty of opportunity to spend time with them throughout the year.
I don’t believe mothers-in-law in days gone by were as personally fulfilled as they are today. They put too much emotional investment in their adult offspring, hence they criticized daughters-in-law who didn’t toe the line. Shelley has a wonderful marriage, two wonderful sons and two fab sisters. She had a great career as a school nutrionist and now loves working with us on fab over fifty.