Making her marks

Let me get a confession out of the way: I just read about Mark Zuckerberg’s recent nuptials to his long-time girlfriend,  Priscilla Chan, and I am a bit envious of her.  This girl is only 27 and she appears to have her act supremely together.

She married one of the richest, most connected men on the planet, but isn’t letting his fame or money take over her life. She has her own life and accomplishments. A Harvard alum, she recently graduated from medical school and wants to be a pediatrician. She shuns the spotlight and didn’t turn her wedding into a publicity extravaganza.

When she and Mark reunited after a separation a few years ago, she made him agree to spend at least 100 minutes a week with her and go on one date,  without distractions. She also chose to live in her own place.

Only a secure woman could act like this. Instead of anxiously waiting for Mark to call for a date, and then getting upset because he was too busy to make time to see her, she demanded what she deserved: his undivided attention, at least for a brief time each week. Only a secure woman would pursue her own passions, spending grueling hours studying medicine, instead of making lots of money working at her boyfriend’s high-profile company.

Priscilla also asked Mark to agree to take a two-week overseas trip each year. How cool is that!

She must have a terrific body image, as well. Not a small woman, based on the photos I’ve seen, she didn’t starve herself for her wedding day, like countless brides do.

When I was 27, I didn’t have one tenth of Priscilla’s  self-worth. That, plus her seeming adoration for the man she married, is what every woman should have. (It doesn’t hurt that he’s a billionaire, cute and pretty smart,  too.)