I’m going to come right out and say what few women would publicly admit: MASTURBATION CAN BE TERRIFIC.
It can be terrific when you do it alone. It can be terrific when you do it with a partner, or to a partner. I’ve experienced it all three ways for many years, and I wholeheartedly endorse the practice.
I grew up at a time when no one (NO ONE, I repeat) uttered the word masturbation. As a matter of fact, it was such a verboten subject that I felt as if I was doing something “dirty” when I masturbated as a teenager. Didn’t stop me, however.
When I grew up, and fell in love with a highly sexual man from Mississippi, he taught me how to have sex in lots of new ways. One way was more thrilling than the next, especially because I was intensely attracted to him. But, one of the most exciting methods was to simply masturbate simultaneously. After all, a woman knows how to achieve orgasm better than any man, even one who desperately wants to please us.
Well, the Mississippian died 15 years ago, and my decreased level of estrogen has definitely put a damper on my desire to masturbate, as well as on my ability to achieve a satisfying orgasm. Some vibrators worked satisfactorily, but masturbation just wasn’t what it used to be.
Then, as founder of FabOverFifty.com, I started learning about the importance of sexual health to our overall well being, another subject that was never ever discussed publicly, or even privately, for that matter.
But it makes complete sense. Consider what Dr. Bat Sheva Marcus, director of the Medical Center for Female Sexuality in Purchase, NY. says: “Having a sex life is important, whether you’re married or not. It’s important for your sense of self, whether you’re having sex with someone else or with yourself.”
While sex is an important release for pleasure, it’s also important for your health. “Your genitals, your vulva, your clitoris, your vagina, those are parts of your body that also need to be exercised,” Dr. Marcus explains. “You need blood coming into the area. You need the muscles to be stretched.”
Just because you’re single doesn’t mean your sexual health needs to suffer.
Dr. Marcus recommends that a woman masturbate at least once a week if she doesn’t have a partner or doesn’t have regular sex with her partner. “Sex toys,” as they’re often called, can make sex easier and more fun for many, many women, both with their partners and by ourselves, Dr. Marcus explained.
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“Your genitals, your vulva, your clitoris, your vagina, those are parts of your body that also need to be exercised,” ……wow,,,didn’t know that!
Only I know how fantastic masturbation can make me feel, how often I want to masturbate and when to do it. Being on the cusp of menopause at 51, I find that lately I have been on the perpetual “period” loop. I ask myself and my BFF of many years, “Will it ever stop…Am I dying…Is this normal… Am I going to bleed out…” add this to the pee factor or lack of control there of, ever present– I am a hot mess. Do I want to be touched? Go ahead…try it.
Less contact with my significant other is the only way for me right now, and I think at this point, we both understand one another. Masturbation is my friend, confidante and great hope. Ridiculous, yes. Honest, yes.
Great article Geri – thank you very much for starting this conversation!
Geri Brin says:
Thanks so much, Margaret, for your comment. I just wish more women would join the conversation publicly.