Sex and the FOF Woman!

Hi FOFriends,

Last week we launched a partnership with a company called Sinclair Institute, knowing that many FOFs lack desire, satisfaction, or otherwise in their bedrooms.  Sinclair was found in 1991 “for adults who want to improve the intimacy and sex in their relationships,” said Kathy Brummitt, who produces the company’s well-done, educational sex films. “We saw the need to give our customers honest, straighforward, accurate sexual health information, to and frankly, permission to enjoy pleasure. We put together an amazing team of sexual health advisors from the professional community who could help bring our passion to those who needed information and inspiration.  As a FOF woman myself, I know that most of us never received a proper sexual education.  I’ve been with Sinclair since its inception and I can honestly tell you that I’m still learning!” Kathy added.

And this is what happened…

Since launching our new section, SEXcellent, we’ve received comments from many FOFs, assuring us that our new partnership with Sinclair Institute certainly needed to be formed.  Read what a FOFriend—from another continent—emailed to me:

“Dear Geri,

“I will mention that I am a woman in my late 60’s, and my health professional  [husband] is in his 70’s. I am of the generation where many people aren’t comfortable discussing their personal intimacy issues. (None of my friends ever discuss sex.) So, I was extraordinarily pleased to visit your web site and see that you have taken sexual intimacy issues for the ‘mature’ on board. You have actually opened up a new window of hope for women who have given up hope of enjoying sex with their partners and who are too embarrassed to discuss the issue with their family physician, friends, etc. Many women will love you for it, because you have given them ‘permission’ in a way to go where they otherwise wouldn’t. I know that I would NEVER have purchased items relating to sexual fulfillment over the Internet or from anywhere else for that matter if it hadn’t been for FOF.

“Most young people are positively disgusted at the though of ‘fossils’ ever having sex. So, a very special thank you, Geri, for giving me ‘permission’ to come out of my sexually empty closet. My husband has a few health issues that have made intimacy just too difficult for him to bother about. I am hoping to change that.”

–H

Bravo to H! If you’re anything like she is, give yourself “permission” to have the pleasure you deserve Sinclair’s  quality how-to sex videos and sexual health products (aka the greatest “toys” an adult can play with) will help show you how to enjoy great sex.

So many of us entered relationships and marriages thinking oral sex (no less anal sex) were “dirty,”  “yicky,” “disgusting,” “embarrassing,” “never on your life would I do THAT or have THAT done to me.” Many of us wouldn’t even discuss sex with our husbands.  And how many FOFs could outdo Sally (played by Meg Ryan in the movie When Harry Met Sally), when it came to faking orgasms?

As for masturbation, we thought we were abnormal for doing it.  And the thought of doing it with a man would have sent me into fits of embarrassed laughter.

Well, my dear FOFriends, it’s never too late to start talking about your sex life, more importantly, to start doing something about it, if sex doesn’t give you pleasure, joy, ecstasy, or any other nice feeling. You don’t need a sex therapist to tell you that sex shouldn’t be a chore.

Each month, for the next six months, Sinclair is offering complimentary videos to FOF couples or singles that want to experience the best sex lives possible. There’s no place for shyness and embarrassment here. We want FOF men and women who are willing to be open and try new things. And have a sense of humor about it all.

Our goal is to feature people each month who view the video of their choice, personally apply what they learned and talk about the results openly and honestly.  The review can appear anonymously.  We’ll change your names for the article and we won’t show your photos if you’d prefer to be completely anonymous.

Kathy from Sinclair told me this is the one question they most often hear: Is my sex life normal? “Since no one talks about their sex lives, they don’t know what normal is,” Kathy says.

Let’s change that, starting now.  I invite you to explore Sinclair’s website and comment below about which of these educational videos you’d like to watch and make sure to add WHY.



Twelve FOFs will win. (See all our past winners, here.) (See official rules, here.) Contest closes March 28th, 2013 at midnight E.S.T. Contest limited to residents of the continental U.S.

16 Responses to “Sex and the FOF Woman!”

  1. sac longchamps says:

    I won’t count on getting mugged to the headphones immediately after I purchase for them and i am seen making use of them.

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  2. dawna says:

    Well, I think it’s GREAT that you’re taking on this subject! There needs to be more frank, friendly talk about sex among women “of a certain age.” I remind myself when I feel awkward about sex that since women have the ONLY body part devoted strictly to pleasure, that there must be extremely powerful reasons why it’s healthy for women to experience sexual pleasure.
    :^) Personally, I’d love to check out several of these videos, but I’d totally like to start with G-Spot pleasures…I had just about made up my mind that the G-Spot is either mythical, or my own is acting so much like an M-Spot (M for missing) that I can’t find it!

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  3. Robyn says:

    While all of the videos are of interest to me, if I had to choose only one, it would be 12 ways to boost your libido. My husband and I have been together for twenty plus years. I’m newly 51 and he will turn 50 later this year. In our time together we have experienced the full roller coaster ride of life and love, in and out of bed. While we love each other and do not want to be without the other, many factors have come into play, not the least of which was an early menopause for me, that have reduced my desire for physical intimacy-with him our anyone else. I miss having that desire, as well as giving and receiving the pleasure and satisfaction that results from it!

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  4. Jacqueline says:

    I feel SO fortunate to finally have the sexual satisfaction that I lacked when I was younger because back then, it was always about pleasing my partner. I’m a 53 y/o woman, dating a soon-to-be 40 y/o man and my sex life has never been better. I’ve found someone who places my satisfaction as high as his; we are two people who are able to mutually please each other and have FUN doing it. We incorporate toys, sexy texting, PDAs, and sex in “taboo” type places…you have to keep it hot AND have the right partner.

    I used to have conversations with my Mom (yes, my Mom and I actually talked about sex…A LOT, and my 18 y/o daughter and I talk about it as well) and I remember her telling me that there were more important things in life than sex. I say…if I’m satisfied sexually, all other things in life are made better. I pray to God that my libido never wanes for this great partner of mine!

    And I hope that those of you using these tapes get the satisfaction you deserve! Sex is a beautiful, fulfilling gift meant to be shared.

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  5. Paula B says:

    the ben wa balls sound interesting and my partner would love to see the twinkle in my eyes

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    • Paula B says:

      oops! ben was balls along with boost your libido, help can always be fun

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  6. Lauren says:

    Of course I would love to try something that would bring enjoyment to my marriage…new twists and takes on an old subject!! I’ll try the Kama Sutra tonight, thank you! lol!

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  7. Marcia says:

    I think the whole topic is disgusting. You’re not young anymore, so get over it. Life goes on without that boring and tedious time waster of an activity. I get more enjoyment out of a good book. Love really isn’t about sex, it’s about respect and care. And just being good friends. I refuse to fall for all those perverts out there telling me how “fulfilled” they are, or I should be, in my golden years. Hang it up and use the time more wisely volunteering or doing good for others.

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    • Louise says:

      Obviously, this section is not for you Marcia. Sorry you think one of the most fundamental experiences any human can have is disgusting to you. In a loving relationship, sex is part of the relationship as is respect and caring. You are missing out on so much. Enjoy your books.

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  8. Lilly says:

    I think this whole topic is a wonderful idea! I am a very healthy and active 50 year old woman. I married my husband of the same age as I last year. He has literally NO desire for sex or sexual play! He seems to be more interested in the dog, television or food! I am getting very frustrated and tired of his lack of intimacy. I have tried to explain to him that it doesn’t have to be intercourse, that intimacy comes in various ways. I like the Kama Sutra idea because it is more about focus and feeling rather than responding. It requires the FULL attention of both parties and the receiver has to be able to receive without touching back. I found this very difficult the first time I tried it. I am thinking that if my husband were to view this video maybe he’d get aroused by the concept and allow us to try it!

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  9. mary says:

    Last year, the love of my life died of cancer…he was only 69 years old. We had so many wonderful years together and I miss him so…Our sex life was as good or better in our 60’s as it was in our younger years… continuing until 6 weeks before he died. He taught me to let go and enjoy my body and I will always be grateful to him for giving me such an unbelievable gift.

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  10. Sandy says:

    Great Oral Sex — it’s a beautiful, intimate gift to give one’s partner, and a very intimate gift to receive. It’s a delicate balance to feel comfortable giving feedback to a partner, whether giving or receiving. Knowing techniques that are proven to work helps take the embarrassment and tentativeness out of the exchange and can make for a very sexy encounter, and one that’s extremely bonding and satisfying.

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  11. Nancy says:

    My husband and I had great sex for many years but now that we’re older ( 62 and 72) he doesn’t seem interested at all. I’d like to know how to revive his interest and how to talk to him about it. I agree that we are not comfortable, like so many of our generation, discussing sex

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    • Lilly says:

      Maybe try Kama Sutra…..it does not require any talking, just eye contact and touch.

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  12. Cynthia says:

    The better sex-just would like to know more facts about sex now that I’m FAB!

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  13. Joni says:

    There are many of us who, out of physical challenges/damages, have had to find many other ways to attain intimacy, and personally I have found those ways to be much more fulfilling and lasting then a roll in the sack. Just saying. 😉

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