Last week we launched a partnership with a company called Sinclair Institute, knowing that many FOFs lack desire, satisfaction, or otherwise in their bedrooms. Sinclair was found in 1991 “for adults who want to improve the intimacy and sex in their relationships,” said Kathy Brummitt, who produces the company’s well-done, educational sex films. “We saw the need to give our customers honest, straighforward, accurate sexual health information, to and frankly, permission to enjoy pleasure. We put together an amazing team of sexual health advisors from the professional community who could help bring our passion to those who needed information and inspiration. As a FOF woman myself, I know that most of us never received a proper sexual education. I’ve been with Sinclair since its inception and I can honestly tell you that I’m still learning!” Kathy added.
And this is what happened…
Since launching our new section, SEXcellent, we’ve received comments from many FOFs, assuring us that our new partnership with Sinclair Institute certainly needed to be formed. Read what a FOFriend—from another continent—emailed to me:
“I will mention that I am a woman in my late 60’s, and my health professional [husband] is in his 70’s. I am of the generation where many people aren’t comfortable discussing their personal intimacy issues. (None of my friends ever discuss sex.) So, I was extraordinarily pleased to visit your web site and see that you have taken sexual intimacy issues for the ‘mature’ on board. You have actually opened up a new window of hope for women who have given up hope of enjoying sex with their partners and who are too embarrassed to discuss the issue with their family physician, friends, etc. Many women will love you for it, because you have given them ‘permission’ in a way to go where they otherwise wouldn’t. I know that I would NEVER have purchased items relating to sexual fulfillment over the Internet or from anywhere else for that matter if it hadn’t been for FOF.
“Most young people are positively disgusted at the though of ‘fossils’ ever having sex. So, a very special thank you, Geri, for giving me ‘permission’ to come out of my sexually empty closet. My husband has a few health issues that have made intimacy just too difficult for him to bother about. I am hoping to change that.”
Bravo to H! If you’re anything like she is, give yourself “permission” to have the pleasure you deserve Sinclair’s quality how-to sex videos and sexual health products (aka the greatest “toys” an adult can play with) will help show you how to enjoy great sex.
So many of us entered relationships and marriages thinking oral sex (no less anal sex) were “dirty,” “yicky,” “disgusting,” “embarrassing,” “never on your life would I do THAT or have THAT done to me.” Many of us wouldn’t even discuss sex with our husbands. And how many FOFs could outdo Sally (played by Meg Ryan in the movie When Harry Met Sally), when it came to faking orgasms?
As for masturbation, we thought we were abnormal for doing it. And the thought of doing it with a man would have sent me into fits of embarrassed laughter.
Well, my dear FOFriends, it’s never too late to start talking about your sex life, more importantly, to start doing something about it, if sex doesn’t give you pleasure, joy, ecstasy, or any other nice feeling. You don’t need a sex therapist to tell you that sex shouldn’t be a chore.
Each month, for the next six months, Sinclair is offering complimentary videos to FOF couples or singles that want to experience the best sex lives possible. There’s no place for shyness and embarrassment here. We want FOF men and women who are willing to be open and try new things. And have a sense of humor about it all.
Our goal is to feature people each month who view the video of their choice, personally apply what they learned and talk about the results openly and honestly. The review can appear anonymously. We’ll change your names for the article and we won’t show your photos if you’d prefer to be completely anonymous.
Kathy from Sinclair told me this is the one question they most often hear: Is my sex life normal? “Since no one talks about their sex lives, they don’t know what normal is,” Kathy says.