I need your advice and analysis.
I have a close FOFriend who has lost over 45 pounds during the last eight months and looks marvelous. She decided to change her eating habits because a cardiologist linked her high blood pressure in part to her weight.
BUT…my FOFriend has become OBSESSED with her weight and she doesn’t eat a thing all day long. Not a thing, except coffee. She tells me she eats dinner, but any time I’ve been with her at dinner, she’s picked at the food. If she’s with a group of women, all enjoying a lunch (a light lunch, I might add, of chicken and poached salmon), she won’t touch a thing. It’s actually becoming a tad unpleasant to be in the same room with her, trying to enjoy a meal, while she nurses her coffee in the corner.
I love my friend, but think she may have adult anorexia and will become ill. (I had another friend, 20 years my senior, who had late-onset anorexia. She’d eat two French Fries at lunch and the white of a single sunny side egg. It was quite an experience watching her gingerly cut the white away from the yolk. For dinner, she’d have half a bowl of pasta and lots of wine. By the time she reached 75, she resembled a well-dressed corpse. But she fit into a size four, and that is what counted most to her.)
If I say anything to my friend about her newfound eating habits, she tells me she “eats everything.” She clearly eats nothing.
Here are my questions: Why am I “threatened” by my friend’s dietary habits? Do I really care if she eats nothing and eventually weighs 92 pounds or do I yearn to weigh 92 pounds myself (fat chance!) Do I try for an intervention or just grin and bear it?
It’s fun to sit around a table and enjoy nice food with nice company and nice conversation. My friend used to like food. Now she just likes making believe she still likes it.