A FOF woman sitting across from me in the subway had such thin hair her scalp was visible. She was impeccably dressed and had a trim figure, but her hair (or lack of it) detracted from her over-all appearance. At least, that’s what I thought. Clearly, she didn’t seem to mind at all. I don’t care whether I have the same amount of hair I had when I was 20, but I’d prefer not to see my scalp.
Funny how we all concentrate on different things and can also be full of contradictions:
One FOF is happy to let her hair go gray, but she colors her eyebrows.
Another buys a limited selection of expensive clothes and doesn’t mind wearing the same sweater, shirt or slacks twice in one week, but she owns more eyeglass frames than Lenscrafters.
A third FOF doesn’t lose sleep about her under-eye darkness…
…but she goes crazy when she breaks a nail or chips her polish
One FOF must wear feminine nightwear…
…but her daytime outfit of choice is sweats and a tee.
A fifth hasn’t changed her hairstyle in years, but she changes her fashion style every season.
I wonder if the woman I saw on the subway ever sees her hair the way I saw it. And is she more secure than I because it doesn’t bother her the way it would bother me? Then again, I’m heftier than she was, so maybe she looked at me and thought: “That FOF should lose some weight.”
0 Responses to “Which would YOU prefer: Thinning hair or at thickening waist?”
Kate Line Snider says:
I am in good health, am able to exercise some, and I have nice skin, and look younger than my age. I don’t dwell on the not-so-perfect stuff! Since my ex-husband, and a number of people I knew when I was young are dead, I feel lucky to be here, able to enjoy it all. What a blessing!
When I feel a pang about waist or hair etc. I only need to think of beloved friends who are no longer alive, lost to breast cancer, aneurysms etc. That stops my self-pity.
I pay attention to things I can affect, like a manicure or decent attire and let go of obsessing about what I cannot, or what is very difficult to change much, like body shape. And… I think “a limited selection of expensive clothes” is just how I’d love to live.
I’d musch rather prefer the thickening waist line. Although I love my body now, I would rather not lose anymore hair. Plus my daddy used to always say. The best part of steaks is the fat! lol
My eyes do not look that bad and my nails are fabulous!