I don’t know many FOF moms who want their adult kids to live with them. We may have had empty nest syndrome when they went away to school or got their own places, but we got over that pretty quickly when we realized how peaceful it was to be on our own again.
Now the unemployment crisis is playing havoc on the housing situations for many adults in their twenties, and even older. Without jobs, they simply cannot afford to leave their parents’ homes. Even when they find jobs, their abysmal salaries won’t let them get their own apartments. A neighbor, whose son graduated from an Ivy League school, is still living at home because the young man can’t find a job. He and his folks love each other dearly, but they’d rather love a little less closely. A FOF friend is sharing a one-bedroom with her daughter because the young woman doesn’t make enough to go it alone. No wonder they are starting to get on each other’s nerves.
I watched a riveting segment on TV last night about Ohio couples, with children, who have lost their jobs and are forced to return to their parents’ homes. One extended family of 14 is living together in a four-bedroom home.
I remember the first apartment in Manhattan my husband and I rented when we married in 1968. It was a big studio for $135 a month. I made $105 a week and my husband made $115, and we could easily afford the rent. We were 21. Today, that apartment is probably $1,700. A couple would need to have a joint income of at least $60,000 to live there, as well afford electricity, phone and food, since the cost of living also has skyrocketed during the last forty years.