Baby boomers have been divorcing in unprecedented numbers for years, and we don’t seem to be letting up as we age. The divorce rate for 55- to 64-year-olds more than doubled from 1990 to 2012, while divorces for the over-65 crowd tripled, according to Bowling Green’s National Center for Family & Marriage Research.
“They are still making it up as they go along, inventing middle age pretty much the same way they made up adolescence and marriage, redefining the parameters of personal relationships and reinventing what different stages of the life cycle could look like,” Pepper Schwartz, sex and relationship expert, wrote on CNN.com.
“They are fighting fiercely to remain youthful, to stay employed and/or passionately engaged with life, sexually vibrant (particularly with the help of new medical interventions) and regard their 50s and 60s as every bit the opportunity for love and sexual attraction that their 20s and 30s were. At age 55 or 65, they look at spending 20 or 30 more years with the same person — and unlike their parents, whose sense of duty was stronger and opportunities to repair weaker, they are ready to walk if things aren’t up to their hopes, dreams or delusions about marriage.” Pepper explained.
As a group, we’ve loved ourselves enough to realize that we deserve more. We’ve had the strength to overcome heartbreak and disappointment. Now, we have the courage to start over and see what else life has in store for us.
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