“It’s like he’s 16 again”

During the last few months, we gave 12 FOF couples or singles the chance to win one of Sinclair Institute’s outstanding sex education videos. Sinclair has been helping people rev up their sex lives since 1991 and is the leading source of sexual health products and videos in the United States. Over four million videos in Its Better Sex Video Series® have sold in over 30 countries. Featuring real couples in loving and committed relationships, the videos explain and show us the stuff that turns them–and will turn you–ON!

We asked contest entrants which video they would most like to win. Then, we interviewed the winners–asking them to “bare all” about their sex lives. After they receive and watch the video of their choice, we will follow up and publish the interview here on the SEXcellent blog.

Below is our “after” interview with FOF Connie, who watched “The Joy of Erotic Massage.”

What was your overall impression of the DVD ‘The Joy of Erotic Massage’?
At first we thought it was a bit unusual. I didn’t want to watch people doing sexual stuff.

It’s a sex video, so weren’t you expecting to see a couple having sex?
Yes, but I thought it would be more arousing or erotic, instead of instructional. There is a guy with a sexy voice giving instructions.

Did you follow through with it?
We went on a getaway and brought our laptop and watched it in the hotel. We did what we learned.

Did you use the massage oil?
We tried the oil. It’s a little messy, but it was good.


Did the video impact your sex life in any way?
Yes. My husband has become really interested in sex since watching it. It’s like he’s 16 again.

In your first interview you mentioned that your husband was raped as a 14-year-old and didn’t like to talk about sex. Is he more open about it now?
He carried this burden and he never wanted to discuss it. I think the video helped free him up a bit. He definitely talks more. He’ll now ask, ‘do you want to try another position?’ He never used to do that. He also wants to have sex every day. The person who molested him forced him to give him oral sex, so my husband never liked having it done to him. Now he does and has a pleasurable reaction. He’s definitely more sensual now.

Did the video have any impact on your desire to have sex?
I’m not as interested in having sex as frequently as he is, but it makes me happy that he’s becoming better at it and I enjoy it with him more. It was mechanical before and it didn’t take long, now there’s more pleasure to the sex.

What is the overall message of the Erotic Massage video?
The overall message is that you don’t have to have intercourse to have a sensual experience. Knowing how to touch and feel each other can be very sexual. It’s also very important to pay attention to your partner.

Are you happier since watching the video?
Yes. It did have a positive impact on my husband and improved our sex life, but it didn’t do much to change my libido. Sex isn’t as spontaneous after I went through menopause.

Click to see how Connie’s story started.