7 deadly FOF sins




1Imitating a 25 year old by wearing your hair too long, your skirts too short and your shirts too revealing.

Even if you’ve had a facelift, and wear a size 2, you’ll never look 25 again, so change the clothes and hair.

2Speaking of size 2, the French say “10 extra pounds on your body equals 10 years off your age.”

You may think it’s cute that you’re 5’8” and a size 2, but it isn’t; it really isn’t.


Disrespecting your daughter-in-law.

She could be a monster, but it’s a no-win for you if your son loves her. So suck it up and be civil.


Gossiping about your girlfriends.

We left high school decades ago.


5Making sure that your clothes, shoes and accessories are gorgeous, but not doing anything about your thinning hair.

If your scalp is showing, they won’t look at the clothes. And forget all the advice about wearing your hair short. Short thinning hair doesn’t look better than long thinning hair.


Hair by LeMetric.

Being unable to walk in the stilettos you’re wearing.

The shoes may be stunning but your gait is anything but.


Shamelessly and publicly bragging about your children–in front of them–after they’ve turned 10.

Just don’t do it.


0 Responses to “7 deadly FOF sins”

  1. carolyn says:

    My mother-in-law gave me all her 4″ & taller heel when she turned 50. Which I did as well. Saved me a lot of pain. Smart woman that.

  2. Sue Smith says:

    I was glad to see many of us “Long-haired Lovelies” chime in. I’m wearing mine about 4 inches longer (but still layered) than I did in my 40s, simply because I like to wear my hair up and even in ponytails (at least when I’m working around the house). I say “if you’ve still got it, flaunt it” …. just be sure you get a second opinion 😉

  3. kate60 says:

    Janice Dickinson is a living(?) plastic surgery nightmare !

  4. Victoria says:

    Here we go again with the “no long hair” rule. The hair on the woman in the first photo is the only thing that looks good on her. If you changed the outfit and covered up those horrible looking legs, she would look fine. There is nothing “wrong” with long hair on an older woman if she takes care of it, whether that means coloring, keeping it trimmed up, or whatever one needs to do. I have long hair and I do have to treat it like fragile antique lace, but I love it and I know it looks good. The last thing I need is one of those “old lady” hairstyles. The point is to be realistic about one’s looks and to make the necessary adjustments. Following rules is just stupid.

  5. Susan says:

    I do not care for the comment about long hair being only for younger people. When I was twenty-two I remember getting my hair cut short to try to “look older” and it didn’t work. So now that I am older, I am supposed to cut my hair to “look younger”? Short hair just doesn’t look good on me. I have thick straight blondish hair with natural highlights that I had trimmed and styled two days ago. I am very comfortable with my longer than shoulder length “wash and wear” hair. It is very nice to be able to French braid my hair or put it up in a bun when our weather has been 90 degrees here.

    I also disagree with recommending gaining ten pounds. I am 5’4″ and I have weighed less than 110 the past twenty five years at least. I like to exercise, dance, keep busy, and eat healthily and think keeping muscles toned not only makes you feel good, but keeps me looking better too. I don’t think gaining ten pounds would help me at all.

    • Mick says:

      Hair within a reasonable length (and texture), and not in combination with a too-short skirt and massive cleavage with a business look outfit (Really?!). The woman in the picture has wrinkled legs – why on earth would she wear a bare-legged mini when a pair of pants or an at the knee length on the skirt with stockings could oh-so-polish her appearance? As for her mane: without the other distractors, it’s her best feature, but you don’t see it because from the neck down, she is an aged faux pas. Mon dieu!

      • Jan says:

        Mon dieu- Indeed!

  6. Reese says:

    Okay. I’m just having a really hard time getting past the fixation on short hair. I’ve know women in their seventies whose hair is long… and stylish! And they wear it well. Why the discriminatory “long hair is just for younger women” mentality? That’s no better than saying African American are not as smart as Whites or women are not emotionally/physically/biologically able to do “men’s work”.
    WHAT A CROCK! (And you can put whatever you want in that crock.)

    The other bigotry oriented point is those danged stilettos! If you can’t walk in them, it really doesn’t matter if you are 24 or 54, you are still going to look pretty stupid stumbling and waddling down the street in them. I am well past the twenty/thirty-something age but have been wearing those spikes for years. I have no problem with them. It is a matter of balance, equilibrium. And a little shoe shopping trick. When you are shopping for those shoes, put them on and wander around the store – not just back and forth once or twice. Put them on and browse the rest of the shoes on display. If you are in a department store, head over to the dress department or menswear. Really walk around in them. Get a feel for how you are going to feel wearing them. If you are uncomfortable in the store, chances are it’s not going to change when you get them home.
    But, again, that has nothing to do with one’s age and everything to do with one’s basic sense of balance!

    And another absolutely age UN-related point… the mil syndrome. Are you suggesting some forty-something can be bitchy with the daughter in law and it’s different, somehow? Well, of course it’s not! But you are actually addressing a larger issue here. It’s about integrity. Either you have it or you don’t. Treat everyone with respect, regardless of how you feel about them. It doesn’t hurt them any if you treat them badly but it does diminish you considerably. Treating others with respect is more about respecting yourself than others. And that’s not limited to in-laws.

    Lastly: Not bragging on your kids? Really? I hope you don’t mean to suggest that, once a child reaches the ripe old age of ten, they no longer need to hear that their parents are proud of them?! We never get over the need/desire to know that others recognize and respect our work. Even adult children are warmed by knowing their parents are proud of them. And, believe it or not, that praise comes off feeling more genuine when it is not directed to the praised but only secondarily so. Seriously. Wouldn’t you feel warmed to have someone tell you, “Oh, gosh. Your… (pick a person) was just telling me about what a wonderful job you did on… She thinks you are just the best!” Sure, you don’t want to ‘over-the-top’ gush about your kids in front of their friends and a little goes a long way sometimes. But everybody… repeat, EVERYBODY needs to know they are appreciated. And, with kids, it’s a way of giving them the confidence they need to fail as well as succeed.

    • Mick says:

      The fastest way for me to hit ‘delete’ on an email from anyone is seeing the 20 minute attachment of karate competition, ballet, gymnastics, etc., with parental commentary. People smile and remain polite while you natter on endlessly about mommy’s little darling, but walk away at the first opportunity, laugh, and roll their eyes as they tell others how boorishly you behaved. Save your lauding for the one-on-one with the kid – the rest of us REALLY don’t care if s/he went poopie.

      • Jan says:


        • Geri says:

          HI FOFriends,

          We want to set the record straight. We said wearing your hair “too long or your skirts too short.” Even if you have the most gorgeous hair and legs in the world, the hair shouldn’t be flowing half way down your back, and the skirt stopping half way down your thigh, as if you were 25.


          • Patti says:

            Just because you might not look good with hair halfway flowing down your back doesn’t mean other women don’t look good that way. Who died and left you in charge?!! Last time I checked it was still a free country.

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