Top 11 Things Women Over 50 Fear Most

“He who is not everyday conquering some fear has not learned the secret of life,” said Ralph Waldo Emerson. We couldn’t have said it any better, except
we’d change he to SHE.

1. Belly fat

2. Struggling kids

3. No retirement funds

4. A life-changing illness

5. Losing hair

6. Divorce

7. Unnatural plastic surgery

8. A wine shortage

9. The death of a loved one

10. Dying unfulfilled

11. Losing our sense of style

What do you fear most?

19 Responses to “Top 11 Things Women Over 50 Fear Most”

  1. Lori Hartsell says:

    My fear is we will all succumb to the beliefs that we should have all these dumbass fears! Live fearless and with purpose. Enjoy being alive and the freedom to finally not be judge by our beauty! Aging is a privilege and it is a time to love life and enjoy friends!

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  2. barb says:

    All of the above except running out of wine. Don’t care about that at all.

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  3. aislingthecraic says:

    I’ve spent/wasted most of my life in fear. NO MORE! The past is what it was. The future is not here yet. So, today, I get up, in spite of chronic pain issues, & I do something, especially if it can be for someone else b/c that takes the focus off my self. I am able to smile, listen to someone needing to talk, text a friend a ‘have a good day’ msg, optimize my husband’s laptop, scoop the litter box…Okay, you get the idea. No fear, just CARE!

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  4. Kelly Reynolds says:

    A Serious Illness to a me or a Family Member. Poverty! The US govement. Shall I go on?

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  5. Prudent says:

    I have so many fears that they are too many to mention, but I will try. I fear dying and leaving my only adult child who wasted a lot of opportunities, and at the age of 26 just now trying to get his act together. I fear leaving so many unfilled dreams despite being a very progressive hardworking woman. I am good at so many things, but because of fear and lack of confidence, I sat on the sidelines as my hopes and dreams perished. I fear not having enough useful years remaining to accomplished some of my unfulfilled dreams.

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  6. Danine Boszor says:

    I never had children and have been very ill for 12yrs. I have extreme fear of being alone and having no one to take care of me and my illness which cannot be healed

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    • Christina Aton says:

      I understand your fear because I am in end stage heart failure. My suggestion is to compile a list of potential resources (even if they seem remote at this time) that you can draw from as circumstances unfold for you. Ask your doctor about support groups, contact social services from your local medical facility for their suggestions, churches/synagogues may be able to assist you, food services such as Meals on Wheels may help; these are just a few things sitting on my heart as I type this. As far as not having children you need to remember that at this time in your life it doesn’t matter anymore. After 40 years in critical care medicine I can tell you it is a RARE child who has the resources and skill set required to care for an aging sick parent. This isn’t a negative opinion about people who are younger and healthier than we are but a sad reality. Nobody knows what tomorrow may bring but tomorrow isn’t promised to us anyway. Challenge yourself to think of as many things as you can that you still enjoy and what you can do to share it with others. When you focus on what you can do for others (priceless talents you have acquired throughout your life) your loneliness will be eased. You will also make connections with people who may become a more permanent
      part of your life.

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  7. Helena says:

    Since I never married I am in fear of living the senior life alone and just the choice of quality men is so few I may not find a suitable mate and that worries me.

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    • Kelly Reynolds says:

      IKR?

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  8. Jeanne Kent says:

    Loss of my parents, and God forbid, the loss of one of my children. One of our sons is a Marine so I worry more that he will be in harm’s way than our other three children for obvious reasons. I am told that worry shows a lack of faith, and if that’s true then so be it but I do worry about him a lot.

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  9. Peggy Pepper says:

    The fear of “marking time” rather than “making a life” … not having an ever-evolving sense of direction is what keeps my clients up at night. They believe that they are OVER and INVISIBLE and that it’s “Too Late”. What I fear is the kind of belief system that re-enforces these feelings. We work on “re-framing” these beliefs in order to feel the fear/jitters of something new and exciting to move into their best new NEXT.

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    • Geri Brin says:

      Hi Peggy,

      It sounds as if the clients with whom you work are lucky you are helping to redirect them.

      Best,
      Geri Brin

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  10. Wendy says:

    ~ For me right now..that’s mostly spot on…

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  11. Patricia says:

    At this stage in my life, getting more wrinkled!!

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  12. Diana Verner says:

    I fear the lost of my parents……

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    • Geri Brin says:

      Hi Diana,

      I don’t know the age of your parents, but I hope they live long, long lives and that you have many more years to enjoy each other. I lost my dad 26 years ago, when he was 69. My mom died a few years ago, at 87. Losing our parents is never easy, which is why it is so important to love them as much as we can when we have the chance.

      Fondly, Geri

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  13. Julie says:

    Winding up in a wheelchair

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  14. Donna says:

    You hit the nail on the head. I have been struggling with an drug addicted son for 6 years which makes me fear that if i don’t handle this correctly, it could lead to a divorce. It’s an extremely difficult struggle. Already been through the life changing struggle. This is harder.

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    • Geri Brin says:

      Hi Donna,

      I am sorry to hear about your son, and hope he finds the strength and proper professional guidance to help him see his way through his addiction.

      Fondly,
      Geri
      Please email me if you want another shoulder. geri@faboverfifty.com. I never want to see any mother or child going through anguish. I can’t help your son, but I can be an ear for you.

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