I am going to a 40th high school reunion. I am not fat but have saggy arms UGH! What would be good to wear? I cannot find a top that I like. Do you think I’m making too much of a compulsive thing?
I am going to a 40th high school reunion. I am not fat but have saggy arms UGH! What would be good to wear? I cannot find a top that I like. Do you think I’m making too much of a compulsive thing?
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Amber Lear wrote on :
I have found that a bit of sun does wonders, but I love loose knit cardigans in beautiful yarns. Besides, we are humans as is every other person who will attend. A big smile and warm heart are beautiful always. Have a lovely time. You will own the room.
Belinda Boyles wrote on :
Just wear something that makes you feel fabulous. You don’t have to impress anyone but YOU. If you feel great in it, you won’t worry about yourself and will be free to concentrate on others instead. Be open, happy, excited and most of all, be INTERESTED IN OTHER PEOPLE. If you are spending your time listening to them and being loving and open, NO ONE is going to be spending time looking at your arms. Everyone there is thinking about THEIR OWN flaws and imperfections and how time has taken its toll on them. You are special and precious and not defined by your arms, so just put on something that you feel great in and GO. If you can’t find a top, look for a dress, or wear a shrug or sweater or a light jacket. Put on a big smile and HAVE FUN.
Loie Docter wrote on :
I attended my husband’s 45th a week ago. I knew no one. I received numerous compliments on my attire. I wore favorite items that I always feel great in – a charcoal cotton/lycra knit EF dress, 3/4 length sleeve, slightly fitted bodice, flow-y w/ irregular hem (longer on sides) at knees. A black sheer thigh length sleeveless flow-y black vest/jacket (superb) added the extra layer w/out camouflaging the dress or adding bulk. I added flat pearls at neckline, classic but artsy, and a pair of open toed, comfortable heels. The evening was all about relationships and the communal history of the attendees. At this age and stage, no one seemed to be judging looks, just appreciated seeing each other and sharing stories. Cover the upper arms, choose a flattering neckline and wear comfortable, stylish shoes. Enjoy! I did, immensely.
dolores maykis wrote on :
I would try to find a nice top or dress with a three quarter sleeve. Another cover up for the arms could be a wide shawl tie the ends create like cocoon look. I don’t think you are being compulsive.
Mamavalveeta03 wrote on :
I’d wear a colorful sheath dress (Wait! Don’t tune out right here because it’s sleeveless…I’m not done!). Pick out your most flattering color and then find one from a store (online can be great if you know which brands fit you best) that you know and knows you back. Then, find a cute little shrug (I love this one: http://www.6pm.com/kenneth-cole-new-york-plus-shrug-sweater-w-cable-detail-aquamarine or this one is super-lightweight: http://www.6pm.com/splendid-melange-loose-knit-cocoon-wrap-almond
Then, get yourself a gorgeous “statement” necklace, so all eyes will be on your beautiful face, and finish off your look with nude pumps (whatever height you are comfortable in!) to lengthen your gams! You will look STUNNING! And remember, everyone has changed and grown-up. Have a blast!
Sheryl Eastridge wrote on :
I just returned from my 40th high school reunion. It was wonderful and the first one we have had. So many of my class mates that I barely knew were really happy to see me. What a surprise. I moved away shortly after graduation so had not seen most of them in 40 years. I wore a top with fluttery short sleeves that worked for me. It was also a light material that had a cami underneath. That way any other bulges or bumps didn’t show either. Above all enjoy the time together. It’s great to reconnect and remember those times spent together.
mhold wrote on :
Go naked and happy to be alive! Just kidding. But that visual image probably jump started your mind into the realm of whatever you decide to wear will be perfect! Now that my sense of humor has been exhausted, I want to say that there is a color I’ve noticed which seems to flatter just about everyone in our age era and that is a kind of turquoisey blue. Why is that?
Mamavalveeta03 wrote on :
SO right about that!
Cheryl Wilson wrote on :
If you are going to your 40th reunion, you will definitely be in the company of women who have the same problem area(s) as you do! Don’t fret over it and go with the intention of having a good time and laughing to yourself over how OLD you all have gotten! Drapers.com (Draper’s & Damon’s) have an outstanding collection of tops that you could fall in love with. I find their catalog more helpful than online and just a call will have their catalog straight out to you. Also, ColdwaterCreek.com has a marvelous selection and their online site is outstanding. Please enjoy yourself! The next reunion will find many of your classmates not there and you will regret not finding out about each one and what they’ve been up to. When you walk in, the first minutes will be all about how everyone looks; however, as you talk with everyone, you will discover that some have been through terrible tragedies, some have gotten successful while some have not, but you all have those carefree high school days to look back on and remember.
I’d like to suggest you read this before you go. It’s Suzanne Sugarbaker’s (Designing Women) speech at her high school reunion. It always makes me cry but it will put everything in perspective.
http://www.tv.com/shows/designing-women/they-shoot-fat-women-dont-they-4730/
cindy stachowski wrote on :
Thanks, I needed that.
Cheryl Wilson wrote on :
You are quite welcome! Next year, I will go to my 50th high school reunion. So many are gone now and it grieves me so. The beautiful & oh so talented young man who nominated me for homecoming queen died of cancer last year. The homecoming queen was killed by a drunk driver. The list is endless… Open your heart and your arms to everyone you see again. You can be the queen of your reunion by asking each person about their lives. Tell them one thing you recall about them that you always liked. Even those you didn’t like have been through stuff you are not aware of. Remember that. Your not so perfect arms can be immensely comforting without your even knowing it. I’m no Pollyanna but, at our ages, we can certainly be kinder, more forgiving and gentler and remember all the good things from that time so many years ago. Have a wonder-filled time!
cindy stachowski wrote on :
Wow, you make me feel good just listening to you….. You must be a great friend to someone!
suzi51 wrote on :
I don’t think you are being compulsive but I do think that as women we all feel pressured into being perfect. Who among us, except those lucky enough to be genetically blessed and/or have a personal trainer, does not have a little sagging somewhere on our bodies after a certain age? So that being said my recommendation is the ever faithful 3/4 length sleeve or a sleeve that is longer than a cap sleeve. If you are just dying to wear your favorite sleeveless item, don’t despair; cover up with a shrug or light cardigan. Before you leave for your reunion, look in the mirror and wrap your arms around yourself and give yourself a big hug with your arms that maybe arenât as pretty as they once were but still work great!
cindy stachowski wrote on :
Well said – thank you