DrupalWomenQ-#8955

I finally found a dress for my wedding,sheath in shape,sleeveless,boat neck,gold colored embroidered sort of lace, just above the knee,scallop hem.I think that a wedding theme is planned around 1 of 3 ideas….the fantasy in your head,or the venue & season,or the dress style. Any theme ideas?Thanks

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  1. Marcia Robinson wrote on :

    I like dmhsny’s response regarding the table decorations themed or a different theme for each table. Since there will only be 30 people, I don’t think there will be more than 3 tables of 10 each), it shouldn’t be too difficult to theme the tables.

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    • Amber Lear wrote on :

      Actually we will have a single long table because we want everyone together. We are probably having family on one side and friends on the other so everyone will to get to know each other a bit more. But we can still incorporate the ideas into the table. Thanks

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    • Marcia Robinson wrote on :

      One long table makes it difficult for people at each end to talk to one another. You might try a “U” shape. Congratulations to you and your future hubby.

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  2. Dindy904 wrote on :

    Hi! and BEST WISHES TO YOU AND CONGRATULATIONS TO YOUR LUCKY GROOM! I really like the way your dress sounds…I think a small nosegay of deep plum and lighter plum violias woulld be so understated and right with your dress..you don’t want flowers that would ‘compete”…plus they are vintage-ish and elegant. My best advise for you is to decide if you would like a formal or informal affair…based on your dress, and chosen color theme you can do either..when that is decided the rest will easily fall into place…remember to take your chosen music into consideration…as I am sure you realize it is MAJOR IN CREATING THE “feeling”of your wonderful event…food then becomes easy to choose…carry color theme to flowers/table settings/coverings…adding small touches of gold…being careful to bring that into the picture but in a subtle way….example: new monogram in gold on various items…napkins..glass ware etc. I think it is just going to be a matter of the two of you deciding on your “favorites”…all of your ideas seem just great…the makings of a perfect, most memorable, and exciting day. Happiness ! DMH (dindy904)

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    • Amber Lear wrote on :

      Love the idea of a monogram, it is always elegant. My fiance will create our playlist, memorable for the ceremony, classic during dinner and fun for dancing. Thank you so much.

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  3. Norma (Torri) Cable wrote on :

    Best wishes Amber… hmmm, scallops on your dress? Sea shells, beach theme? Golden sand- love the plum and sage- color is so important. I like that you’re doing a non-traditional wedding. You’ve been given a plethora of ideas and I bet you come with a smashing event. Have a wonderful life!

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    • Amber Lear wrote on :

      I love how everyone sees things from a different perspective. I never put the scallop hem together with shells and golden sand. Thank you!

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  4. Kim Barnes wrote on :

    Where do you live? City? Burbs? Country?
    Love the style of your dress! Rooftop, beach, barn with lots of candles to reflect off your dress! White flowers everywhere. Send pics of your big day! Congrats!

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    • Amber Lear wrote on :

      Small town in Central California. I like different, I can make it beautiful. I would love a rooftop, our town says nothing is safe enough, but they say no to everything. We will find a place that makes us happy. I love white flowers, always elegant, and candles are so romantic. I will send pics, didn’t know I could. Thank you for the positive ideas.

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  5. Amber Lear wrote on :

    Entertaining is my creative fun.
    Family is my heart.
    Family, friends sitting around the dinner table celebrating life with laughter and love, music and food brings me joy.
    I believe that a wedding is a commitment of love between 2 people and God.
    But I also believe in celebrating life.
    We don’t take time to do that in this country.
    So our marriage is a beautiful opportunity to gather those we love and share our moment with them.
    I like a theme as a starting point, whether it is a color, a song, a photo, whatever.
    It gives a direction for decor, food, etc. and all the extras that you may want to include.
    I am organizing all my ideas and my fiance then will help choose what he loves.
    He is my priority, so there will be a few surprises for him.
    My dress is simple and sophisticated so burlap and mason jars would not work, nor would pink and lace for his tastes.
    Because marrying him is so important to me, I want it to be so special, I want teary eyes & passionate words, I want my daughters to see what it is when a man truly loves you, I want him to feel how grateful I am to have found him. This is what matters.
    But that doesn’t mean we can’t have a killer dinner party full of fun and memories to celebrate the most important day of our lives.
    So….ideas that you have seen that wowed you?
    Thank you all, every answer has given me something to consider.

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  6. Constance Snow wrote on :

    First of all, CONGRATULATIONS!!! It sounds like you already have sort of a theme going on. The dress perhaps? My humble suggestion: Golden, classic, elegant 50’s style cocktail party. I’m thinking of the beautiful party in the movie “Sabrina” with Audrey Hepburn & Humphrey Bogart.
    Good Luck!
    Connie*

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    • Amber Lear wrote on :

      Thank you! You understood my question. 50’s cocktail would be perfect, you gotta love that. We gave my stepmother a 70th birthday with a sort of ‘Frank Sinatra martini’ theme that was so enjoyable, everyone sent notes to myself and my 3 sisters about how much they enjoyed themselves. For my father’s 75th, we had another great party ending in gourmet s’mores around a fire pit into the night. I like having a place to start from and I agree with you that the simple sophistication of the dress would be what you suggested. Plus my fiance would love it. Part of this is I want him to have a party thrown for him (us) as my love for him. Thank you so much!!!

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    • Constance Snow wrote on :

      Whatever you decide, I can just tell, it’s going to be a beautiful day. Enjoy yourselves and have a wonderful marriage. Cheers!
      Connie*

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  7. Cheryl Wilson wrote on :

    Why any theme at all? The purpose of a wedding invitation is to invite people to share the joy of your day with you and your groom. It isn’t a luau, it’s a solemn occasion with great joy attached to it! Theme weddings can get very kitchy and cheap looking. I’ve been to some that made me gag! Beautiful & seasonal flowers in your favorite colors on each table are representative of you. A parting gift of your favorite cookies or chocolates, with a note saying how wonderful you felt that they would join you on this day, is great. Your “theme” IS the wedding and well it should be! Stop obsessing about your guests. When they leave, they should be talking about how much you and your groom appeared to love each other and how beautiful you looked. What they shouldn’t be talking about is a theme that overshadowed that! You will be saving yourself a lot of time and grief if you just concentrate on you and your groom and not putting on a show!

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    • Amber Lear wrote on :

      I like a basic theme, not overdone. Probably because I am not traditional. We are not cutting a cake, tossing a garter, etc.. I enjoy giving guests a fun dinner party, it is what makes me happy. The ceremony is definitely the most wonderful part, but I believe in celebrating life. In this country we never seem to take time to dance in the streets.

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    • Cheryl Wilson wrote on :

      So, form a conga line with your guests and go dance in the street outside your venue! Sounds wonderful to me! I am also not a traditionalist and I dislike all the hokey stuff at weddings. If YOU are having fun, your guests will too. That is really the key! Your wedding is definitely one that I would love to attend! Great music, great guests and good food and wine, along with the wedding couple being over the top about their joy all make for a great reception! Every party I’ve ever given in my life became a success because of my joy in being with my guests and talking with every single one of them. I gave a party in Paris, 200 guests, where the President of a large French oil company wanted me to sing everything Texan. I agreed but only if everyone else sang too. We sang “The Eyes of Texas are Upon You,” “Home, Home on the Range,” and many others. It was a grand night that began with dinner at nine but guests didn’t leave ’til three-thirty in the morning! There is a lot to be said for being unconventional! Have a wonder-filled wedding and a terrific life with your new groom!

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    • Amber Lear wrote on :

      Oh how fun! No one ever asks me to sing darn it, but I sing any ways. There is a dinner in Paris called ‘Diner en Blanc’ that I would love to sort of copy. If you google it you might like it also. I had never thought of a conga line but what a great idea. We are considering about half of our first dance and then jumping into the chicken dance to get the fun going. I also think singing could be very fun, maybe karaoke towards the end of the evening. Thank you so much, fun fun ideas.

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    • Cheryl Wilson wrote on :

      I am very familiar with the “white dinner” but it’s a bit inappropriate for a wedding reception, in that the guests have to bring their own food & wine to it. I don’t know how you “sort of” copy it, as it is spur of the moment, flash mob stuff. Your idea for your first dance with your groom is priceless! It sets the tone for the reception and what you wish it to be which is FUN!

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  8. Sandra Rittenhouse wrote on :

    Having read the prior responses I think that they all are pointing you in a great direction. Weddings are about the bride…so you should pick what you want to have your guests leave remembering special about you. Since you specifically ask about a theme…why not focus on the golden tone…Because gold can be so soft and radiant, you might be able weave this into a theme of golden love. If you do go with gold, make sure you stay on the soft side of it…and use pastels that blend with it…In any case have the most wonderful day..

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    • Amber Lear wrote on :

      Golden love, oooh sweet. Considering plum, sage and gold. Thanks

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  9. Jane Hardin wrote on :

    One of the nicest ideas I have seen is to have each table at the reception reflect an area that means something to the bride and groom. You can use a menu from a favorite restaurant, maybe with a picture of the couple, a postcard, a sea shell, etc. Jane

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    • Amber Lear wrote on :

      I just saw table numbers and each one was a day important to the couple with the explanation. So sweet. Thanks for more ideas

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  10. Karen Smith wrote on :

    Sounds like you’re trying too hard, Amber! Sit down with your husband-to-be and talk about what each of you envisions for a perfect wedding day. If you and he are smiling and enjoying yourselves throughout your special day, every one of your guests will be too!

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    • Amber Lear wrote on :

      I always try too hard. Entertaining is my fun. I am just getting ideas together and then he will help make the choices. The pre planning is not so fun to him. But I will have some surprises for him on the day.

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  11. Robin Richards wrote on :

    Amber my dear, I have seen women plan their weddings around all the things in your list. I think the true question should be what do you envision to be your ideal wedding. Is this your first wedding? If it is, plan it around how much satisfaction you, your-soon-to-be husband and all the guests will get out it. At the end, will you, your husband and the guests say that was the best wedding I ever attended? If so, plan your wedding carefully. Think and plan carefully and thoroughly. Also, always, and I mean always, have a plan B in place. When planning any type of event, something inevitably goes wrong.

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    • Amber Lear wrote on :

      Plan B. Hahaha. Yeah I know, good reminder. Our goal is a truly emotional ceremony & a kick ass dinner party so fun is the goal. Thanks

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  12. DawnMarie Helin wrote on :

    While I think this is a very personal decision, I would offer as a guideline, the following; the wedding dress and be symbolic or simply fashion, but it is bride centered. A wedding is bride and groom, so I feel that the event should represent the two of you. If that means a theme of your favorite lifestyle or culture then that would work no matter your choice. The veue and the season should reflect the very same objective; two lives joined together in love. Your guests are there to see this joining and celebrate; not necessarily to be entertained. I would suggest that rather than be creative for show, you treat your guests to a wedding that willr emind them forever of you. Traditional toasts, foods and table decorations themed to your culture (celtic, european, asian, american), themes of how you met and your favorite places while courting, or a bucket list of places you’d like to discover together represented at each table.

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    • Amber Lear wrote on :

      I couldn’t agree more, I believe a wedding is about 2 people and their commitment to each other & God. It was hard to pose this question because they only allow so many words. Entertaining is one of my very favorite things to do. If this was someone else’s wedding then I would pull it off quite easily. But because there is so much emotion tied in for me it is a bit harder. The dress is simply the beginning of inspiration of decor and food. The ceremony will be deeply meaningful, but I want a kick ass dinner party. There will only be 30 guests and New Years Eve is my hope. Entertaining and creative is who I am so it does matter for me because it is me. My fiance has chosen a vintage cake topper, will choose the music, and a few special touches for just he & I that he wants to do. He will help make all the choices, I just will have ideas for him to choose from. I like your suggestion regarding how we met etc..

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