Men Don’t Make Merry Widowers

If my mom had predeceased my dad, one of my sisters or I would have asked him to move in with us. He wouldn’t have coped well with being alone.  Emotionally or physically. I never even saw him boil water to make instant coffee, no less hold a broom or turn on the washing machine. He did use an electric knife in the 1970s, to slice roast beef, but the cord repeatedly fell out of the thing so it took longer to carve the beef than if he had used a regular knife. But that’s another story!


The Italian Beauty Secret Revealed!

I started learning about the intriguing beauty and fashion habits of European women, especially Italian and French women, when I was an editor at Women’s Wear Daily and W Magazine in the early 1980s.  

I say ‘intriguing’ because these ladies not only pay painstaking attention to the way they look and dress; they make no apologies for their femininity. An Italian woman is an “enchantress, an irresistibly fascinating woman, who exudes sensual, physical, emotional and intellectual beauty–qualities that Italian women have been associated with for centuries,” writes Raeleen D’Agostino Mautner, Ph.D, whose doctoral research focused on a cross-cultural study comparing Italy and the US on body image and other lifestyle factors.

“Italy’s ancient Latin culture has always encouraged the fairer sex to devote guilt-free time to their inner and outer well-being,” Dr. Mautner explains. “Even before the Roman Empire, a long soak in a thermal bath was considered as necessary to a woman’s psyche as beautiful clothes were for her social confidence.  Amiche mie, don’t wait for permission to dedicate a bit of time each day to your inner and outer bellezza.  You are worth it!” she adds.

Although you won’t find many Italian women today soaking in thermal baths, the modern Italian lady continues to meticulously care for her inner and outer beauty, including how she cleanses her body in the bath or shower. That accounts for the success of a product called Lubrigyn Cleansing Lotion, not only in Italy, but throughout Europe. “Lubrigyn is a creamy lotion that cleanses, lubricates and moisturizes, and can be used every single day, in the shower, instead of soap, which is terribly drying. You even can apply it with a tissue, without water, says Sara Olmo, the chemist who helped create it.

“Lubrigyn contains all natural oils, like jojoba and olive oil, to soothe, soften and refresh. And, it’s the only product of its kind with sodium hyaluronate, used in many of today’s skin care formulas. It’s considered the ultimate moisturizer for our faces, and also helps our vaginal tissue to stay supple, moist and keep its elasticity,” adds Sara.  

I’ve been using Lubrigyn Cleansing Lotion for the last two years, and my vaginal tissue became more hydrated after just a couple of weeks. 

So we created the video below to introduce this exceptional product to American women. I also use Lubrigyn Cleansing Lotion on my entire body. It’s so reasonably priced, I even make sure to keep a couple of extra tubes in my vanity drawer.  I’ll never again put soap or shower gel anywhere near my vaginal area.

This post is sponsored by Lubrigyn. To learn more and receive a coupon for this special cleansing lotion, click here. Scrap the soap!

How To Tell If Someone You Know Is A Pathological Liar

I once worked with a young guy who was a pathological liar. He was such a proficient liar that everyone in the office believed his stories for almost a year, and we all chipped in to help out one of his “young twin boys,” who was “ill” back in Kalispell, Montana. We later learned that he had no kids (his sister was the one with twins, and neither of them was ill.) Besides bilking his co-workers out of hundreds of dollars, this man repeatedly lied about work-related activities, which negatively impacted the company’s business.

Not all lies wound others, but when they do, what do you do about the liar?


Win A JeNu Plus Ultrasonic Infuser!

JeNu and I are celebrating our second anniversary together, and what a partnership it’s been.

Ever since my initial rendezvous with this nifty little Ultrasonic Infuser System, it has treated me gently and safely, visibly reduced my wrinkles and lines, and put a big smile on my face. Now the company that created the JeNu Infuser has launched its Most Powerful Ultrasonic Infuser yet— the JeNu Plus– and it outperforms the original that I had been using every single day–in absorption, improvement and satisfaction.

To celebrate my two years with JeNu, we’re giving away 14 JeNu Plus Infusers over two weeks (that’s one each day). We will announce all of the winners two weeks from today, as well as a special offer from JeNu for all the entrants. Keep reading and fill out the form below!


The new JeNu Plus Infuser is 25% more powerful than the original so your creams and serums can perform even better and faster. JeNu is proven to increase the absorption of leading skin care ingredients by 6 times, giving them the power to work 6 times better than just applying your products with your fingertips.

Our skin works so well as an effective barrier against external materials that it absorbs only between 1% and 10% of skin care creams and lotions, and the rest is wasted! No matter how many “active” ingredients go into creating our serums, moisturizers and creams, and no matter how much the products cost, the majority of them are not absorbed quick enough into the skin to live up to their promises to abolish crows feet, fine lines, and more. The vast majority of them just sit on our skin’s surface, before evaporating into thin air, and while we may see some improvement, it’s invariably short term. (more…)

Well, Are You IN Or Are You OUT?

I know a married couple  (she’s 68 and he’s 70) who go out practically every evening of the week. Non-stop dinners with friends and family; parties; events of all kinds, from art openings to Broadway opening nights. They’ve been going out at a frenetic pace for decades, with no signs of letting up.  I’m not talking about going on “date nights” once or even a few times a week, where just the two of them enjoy romantic dinners or take in a movie. This couple surrounds themselves with groups of people almost everywhere they go, mostly all the time.

I don’t see this couple any more, but if I were to ask them why they go out so much, they’d most likely tell me they love doing it. I don’t doubt that they enjoy the company, but why is it constant? Don’t they like being in the company of each other, with no one else around? Do they need others to make them feel “alive?”    


What’s Your Snacker Profile And How To Change It, Pronto!

Disclosure: FabOverFifty is a sponsored Meta Influencer, but all opinions are its own. Please see additional disclosures, below.

Think about all the times you reach the bottom of a bag of tasty chips, and scold yourself for being so undisciplined.

Or, you start devouring cookies and ice cream when you’ve had a stressful day at work. Before you tear into the next bag of goodies or dip into a new pint of chocolate chocolate chip, take this clever, quick Meta Snack ID Quiz on POPSUGAR, created by Meta Appetite Control and Jessica Fishman Levinson, registered dietitian and nutritionist.

The quiz will tell you which of six snacker profiles fits you best, from Break-Room Binger and On-The-Go Grazer to Late-Night Looter and All-Or-Nothing Nosher.  It also will offer sensible tips, no matter which profile reflects your snacking style, so you can make progress in leading a healthy lifestyle. (more…)

Let’s Start Reading Together: “The Nest”


Happy New Year!

The votes are in and The Nest, by Cynthia D’Aprix Sweeney, has been chosen as the book we want to read to kick off the FOForum For Books. The novel received 54 of the 190 votes cast, or 28 percent. Here’s the synopsis:

“The irresistible story of a New York family whose four adult siblings are still struggling to grow up (as they await a watershed inheritance that may never materialize), The Nest is filled with humor, warmth, and dishy behind-the-scenes gossip on the machinations of the publishing world, a trifecta that makes it nearly impossible to put down. An insightful, beautifully drawn portrait of a family on the brink of crisis, The Nest also perfectly captures the legendary (if sometimes elusive) charm of New York City.”– Barnes & Noble Reads

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How She Survived Auschwitz

I am inspired by vibrant and impassioned octogenarian women. It’s wonderful to see them lead meaningful lives, and they give me hope that I can stay active, even in my eighth decade (if I’m blessed to be alert and alive).

Some people let challenges stop them cold in their thirties; others wouldn’t dream of being thwarted by the challenges associated with aging. Grandma Moses developed arthritis in her seventies, making it hard for her to continue embroidering, which was her passion. Her sister, Celestia, thought that painting would be easier for her, so Grandma Moses began painting in her late seventies.

Renee Feller, now 85, was ordained as a rabbi when she was almost 70, but this woman’s life has been anything but conventional for as long as she can remember, and not always by choice.


The Essence Of Motherhood In 9 Words

“You’re only as happy as your least happy child!”

I’ve heard countless mothers quote this statement over the years, and although it’s nearly impossible to determine who came up with it, I think it’s one of the most insightful statements about motherhood ever uttered.

Madeline (not her real name), for example, was recently filling me in on her grown daughter and son.


Kids Do Say The Darndest Things

A man named Art Linkletter hosted a popular afternoon TV show from 1945 to 1969, House Party, and on it was a segment called Kids Say The Darndest Things. A few kids sitting at attention on the stage (as kids in the 5Os were trained to do) would field Art’s questions about everything from their parents to politics, and they’d invariably make funny, clever and insightful comments. Kids have unnerving observational skills, and, without filters, they don’t hesitate to speak their minds and unleash their creativity. (more…)