I recently lost my mom who had dementia for 12 years. My socialization was mostly with the workers at her alf every day. I don’t work outside the home, and am finding myself without any friends. Anyone else in this boat?
It gets very lonely staying home and not connecting with other people of your age or any age.
My suggestion to you is that you join a group in your own congregation. If you don’t have one , join a congregation that has single people meetings during the week or even weekends.
Another suggestion is that you volunteer your services to local charity organizations.
By volunteering you are bringing happiness to those in need and you ,yourself will find new friends and develop fulfilling relationships.
Either way , you must get out and socialize .
If you are familiar with the computer goggle local organizations near your home and join a number of them. Try yo keep as busy as you can.
If you follow through , I promise you will create and have a new and happy social life.
I am very sorry for your loss. She was so fortunate to have such a dedicated and loving daughter. I think that at a certain time in life we all reflect on who we are and who our friends are. I was just speaking about this today with a colleague. One of the things we can do is to experiement. Go out and do what you like to do again…or try new things, like a class….. and see how it feels for you. Take baby steps….once you find what you’re interested in, relationships can occur organically. First take care of you 🙂
You are not alone, not by a long shot. Whether due to situations like your own, unexpected divorce, or empty nest transitions, huge numbers of women and men find themselves feeling alone and without the social outlets/support they very much want. The types and numbers of friends you can start making right now are really unlimited, considering the various social media, online “meet up” groups based on niche interests or demographics. If we were working together, I’d want to learn what makes YOU tick, first and foremost. What are you all about, and what would you most like to attract? Shy? A bit daunted? No big deal at all! You can take teeny baby steps or giant leaps out into a world of kind, curious people who would love to get to know you. 🙂
Whenever we are fully committed to something or someone, we can tend to isolate ourselves from others and the outside world. It is difficult to spread ourselves out in many directions. Try to get out once a day and do something that will invite conversation with someone new. This can even be at a supermarket, department store, starbucks, etc…Take the initiative. Exchange emails, until you feel comfortable, find a common ground. Focus on what you can offer someone as a friend. Keep putting yourself out there and you will have new relationships in time.
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Andrea Warshaw-Wernick wrote on :
It gets very lonely staying home and not connecting with other people of your age or any age.
My suggestion to you is that you join a group in your own congregation. If you don’t have one , join a congregation that has single people meetings during the week or even weekends.
Another suggestion is that you volunteer your services to local charity organizations.
By volunteering you are bringing happiness to those in need and you ,yourself will find new friends and develop fulfilling relationships.
Either way , you must get out and socialize .
If you are familiar with the computer goggle local organizations near your home and join a number of them. Try yo keep as busy as you can.
If you follow through , I promise you will create and have a new and happy social life.
Best of luck,
Andrea Wernick
Fabatanyage.com
Debra Dennis wrote on :
I am very sorry for your loss. She was so fortunate to have such a dedicated and loving daughter. I think that at a certain time in life we all reflect on who we are and who our friends are. I was just speaking about this today with a colleague. One of the things we can do is to experiement. Go out and do what you like to do again…or try new things, like a class….. and see how it feels for you. Take baby steps….once you find what you’re interested in, relationships can occur organically. First take care of you 🙂
Mike Halsey wrote on :
You are not alone, not by a long shot. Whether due to situations like your own, unexpected divorce, or empty nest transitions, huge numbers of women and men find themselves feeling alone and without the social outlets/support they very much want. The types and numbers of friends you can start making right now are really unlimited, considering the various social media, online “meet up” groups based on niche interests or demographics. If we were working together, I’d want to learn what makes YOU tick, first and foremost. What are you all about, and what would you most like to attract? Shy? A bit daunted? No big deal at all! You can take teeny baby steps or giant leaps out into a world of kind, curious people who would love to get to know you. 🙂
Krista Watts wrote on :
I recently wrote a post about this! Hope it helps
http://retirementhomeliving.com/now-what-life-after-caring-for-your-parents/
Krista
http://www.retirementhomeliving.com
Rosanne Leslie wrote on :
Whenever we are fully committed to something or someone, we can tend to isolate ourselves from others and the outside world. It is difficult to spread ourselves out in many directions. Try to get out once a day and do something that will invite conversation with someone new. This can even be at a supermarket, department store, starbucks, etc…Take the initiative. Exchange emails, until you feel comfortable, find a common ground. Focus on what you can offer someone as a friend. Keep putting yourself out there and you will have new relationships in time.