Peri (not her real name) has just spent the last two weeks leaving a man she’s been with for two and a half years. They shared a house together in the county and an apartment in the city. His pre-teen children spent every weekend with them. Their lives were intertwined, but she could no longer stand his verbal abuse, although she still loves him. Even the man’s own mother told Peri to head for the hills. “His mom told me he won’t change until he gets ‘serious help’,” Peri said.
A beautiful and successful woman, Peri left the man twice before, but believes this will be the last time. “I’m a happy, content person,” she told me, “but he would try to bring me down whenever he felt insecure.” His first wife took their kids and left him in the middle of the night when she had enough, Peri explained. “That destroyed him and he’s never gotten over it.” Peri is divorced and has no children.
Almost FOF, Peri didn’t want to wake up in her fifties and realize she wasted so many good years with a man like this. “So smart of you,” I said. “You deserve to have a man who adores you.”
Although Peri feels uneasy being single (“it’s not easy being alone after being with someone seven days a week”), she knows she has to start meeting someone new and took my suggestion to call a mutual friend, who could probably introduce her to lots of available men. In the meantime, she’s thinking of getting away to somewhere warm for a few days.
I think Peri will meet someone in 15 minutes, once she’s in the mood. Someone who deserves her.