What if you were married to your college sweetheart and loved him dearly, but had different ideas how you wanted to spend your FOF years?
You’d like a low-key life, enjoying the fruits of your labors with your family. You’ve traveled all around the world more than once and would prefer to stay close to home, entertaining friends, catching up on your reading or puttering around the garden. You want to exercise more, eat better and socialize less. You want to reflect on the past, live In the present and not worry about the future.
Your husband still craves parties and being the center of attention.He rarely turns down an invitation to an event, and can go nonstop into the wee hours. He eats and drinks with abandon, debates about anything with anyone and doesn’t stop to smell the roses. He still needs to prove something to someone, apparently not to you. He’s always looking for approval.
You’ve discussed your future together, but the scenario never seems quite right. Although you can’t imagine your life without him in it, you’re pretty sure you won’t be happy if he is. So you both decide to go it alone and see what happens.
I’m just guessing this is the story of Tipper and Al Gore after four decades together. It may be more comfortable and convenient for them to keep forging ahead, but it’s pretty courageous to take a step back and change direction.
My best to both of them, at least until all the facts come out.