So if Shelley prefers feminine, white gold jewelry with gemstones and I prefer chunky silver pieces, it’s white gold with gemstones. If Heidi loves Hermes scarves and the last scarf I bought for myself was in 1998, Hermes here I come! If Max loves jazz, I don’t buy him a new Rap CD. If I knit a sweater as a baby gift, I always ask about the new mom’s favorite colors.
I have received countless gifts that had nothing to do with me. Clothes in colors I would never go near; jewelry I found downright ugly; books about subjects that completely disinterest me. Once, someone gave me a silk blouse, wrapped in a Lord & Taylor box. It had a slight, but noticeable, stain on it and was definitely not from L&T. I gave it away immediately.