Love Potion #9*

Nick and Nora Charles didn't need any love potions

FOF friend Deborah told me about a husband and wife who have a sensual little nightly ritual. They take turns hiding a small Buddha-like statue in their bedroom. The purpose isn’t to make it hard to find, but to establish a symbolic connection between them. I love it.

When I heard the story, I started thinking about other ways to keep intimacy alive, even though we’re so busy with our lives:

1.   Kissing every night before bed, no matter how you feel.

2.   Calling unexpectedly to say, “I’m thinking of you and love you.”3.   Suggesting you drop everything to get away for two days.

4.   Inviting your partner to have sex, even if you’re a.)exhausted b.) have no desire c.) had sex a week ago.

5.   Telling each other what made you happy/sad during the day.

6.   Putting aside 15 minutes to spend together every (or most every)morning–over coffee, tea, yogurt–no matter how much you have on your schedule for the day ahead.

7.    Stopping to actually look into each other’s eyes at least once a day, even if for only a 5 seconds.

8.   Finding something funny to share every day. Laughing with someone you love is sexy.

9.    Wearing something a tad sexier than flannels PJs.

Any ideas?

* 1959 song, The Clovers

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4 Responses to “Love Potion #9*”

  1. Geri says:

    Hi Duchesse,

    Great suggestion. I was just about ready to put on my flannels (I swear) but decided not to.
    I’m not wearing silk, but chose a bit more appealing top than flannel. I am going follow your suggestion, but first I have to buy it. 🙂


  2. Duchesse says:

    I love your suggestions, Geri.

    I was having a pedicure and the esthetician mentioned that she slept in tee-shirts. I took her hand (she is about my age) and said, gently and (I hope) tactfully, “Try an experiment. Buy a silk or satin nightie and tell me what happens.” The next month, well! She couldn’t stop smiling.

    If we want to keep romance alive, we have to present ourselves as desirable. Not wrinkle free or super-fit but looking like we care-about our partners and ourselves.

    I’ll add: Remembering not only to appreciate him (or her) but to say it out loud.

  3. Geri says:

    Hi Toby,

    Will you send your husband to my apartment? 🙂

    Happy weekend.


  4. Toby Wollin says:

    My husband rubs my feet. He puts a certain amount of effort into it, using whatever cream is available that actually smells nice (hemp based body butter is probably much better for things like cracks and so on but the smell is awful).


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