A single or unattached 22-year-old woman in the 1960s was about to enter “spinsterhood.” As the decades moved on, the entry point for spinsterhood moved up, so by 2010, a woman could enter her thirties without the spinster stigma.
But I see something else happening in our society today: Many women are entering their forties, fifties and beyond—successful, satisfied, secure and single. They aren’t embarrassed and ashamed to be man-less. They still look cool, sexy and confident, even without a man by their sides. They’re adopting kids on their own, giving birth to kids on their own (all you need is sperm!) and buying homes on their own. They know enough men they can call on to escort them to a party, event or come along for a movie. Even to have sex.
Granted, not all women feel this confident and relaxed about being sans man. Many still feel anxious and worry they’ll be alone for the rest of their lives and never have kids. Although I understand wanting to be part of a couple, married or not, I feel bad for women who become scared and desperate. That state of mind can be pretty big turnoff to a man. Personally, I think it’s better to never marry or marry later in life than to marry out of hopelessness.