Just when you think you’ve seen and heard everything, something else astounding happens.
She said she was my "angel"
Here’s the story. Someone offered to do something really nice for me; let’s say she was paying for a trip I wanted to take but couldn’t afford. I didn’t ask her to pay. She volunteered and told me she was “my angel.”
I thanked her 400 times and started moving ahead with my plans. She made a one-third deposit on the trip.
One week before I was scheduled to take my trip, she called to tell me why she could no longer pay for the whole trip and told me I needed to find someone who could pay the rest.
Her reason what flat-out lame. It was also concocted from whole cloth. I either had to cancel the trip or find someone else who could help me. I decided to call her and tell her I’d pay half of the difference (which I couldn’t afford) if she’d pay the rest.
I am waiting for an answer.
The above is a true story. I really wasn’t taking a trip, but I was planning something else. I used the trip as an example to protect the guilty.
This is not behavior befitting anyone, no less a FOF woman. My “angel” should be ashamed of herself. With angels like this, who needs enemies?
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Jo says:
Never burn your bridges behind you! Never think that there aren’t two sides to every story! Never think you are home free and clear!
A friend offers a gift, then does not follow through, that hurts. I’d be disappointed too, irritated, and question why she was not able to give you the honest reason (but be aware that your doubt of her ‘reason’ is also a story you are telling yourself.) I’m going to guess she is embarrassed.
She wanted to be generous, an “angel” but then something got in the way, and that’s what I’d be longing to learn now, in your shoes. Is the impediment a sudden financial crisis, or is it that she no longer wishes to support you- a wavering of confidence or good will? In other words, what is really behind her choice? If it is not the excuse given, what is it? That honesty from a friend would mean the world to me.
Trust between friends-that a friend will do what she says she’ll do- is very important to me. At the same time, I know they will not always behave perfectly.
Talking with her without blaming or shaming takes a lot of love and self control.
there’s a lesson in there somewhere…always a bit difficult when the FOF doesn’t see it coming as you ‘kinda’ figure you should be able to suss that thing out by now….more live and learn!
Probably not too difficult to figure out what the “trip” is all about…one thing is for certain….when you get FOF up and running, no tee shirt for her!!!
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Jo says:
Never burn your bridges behind you! Never think that there aren’t two sides to every story! Never think you are home free and clear!
Duchesse says:
A friend offers a gift, then does not follow through, that hurts. I’d be disappointed too, irritated, and question why she was not able to give you the honest reason (but be aware that your doubt of her ‘reason’ is also a story you are telling yourself.) I’m going to guess she is embarrassed.
She wanted to be generous, an “angel” but then something got in the way, and that’s what I’d be longing to learn now, in your shoes. Is the impediment a sudden financial crisis, or is it that she no longer wishes to support you- a wavering of confidence or good will? In other words, what is really behind her choice? If it is not the excuse given, what is it? That honesty from a friend would mean the world to me.
Trust between friends-that a friend will do what she says she’ll do- is very important to me. At the same time, I know they will not always behave perfectly.
Talking with her without blaming or shaming takes a lot of love and self control.
Geri says:
Thanks Susan.
Love your blog. Will link to it.
Geri
Susan says:
Whoa. I’m sorry.
Geri says:
Hi Heather,
I had my doubts along the way, but I often succumb to my trusting nature.
Geri
Heather Chapple says:
there’s a lesson in there somewhere…always a bit difficult when the FOF doesn’t see it coming as you ‘kinda’ figure you should be able to suss that thing out by now….more live and learn!
Maravonda says:
Probably not too difficult to figure out what the “trip” is all about…one thing is for certain….when you get FOF up and running, no tee shirt for her!!!
Geri says:
No tee shirt, for sure!