We all know that grown siblings aren’t always best friends, or even friends at all.
Just because you grew up under the same roof as your brother, sister, or both, doesn’t mean you’ll take pleasure in their company when you all leave the nest. But it’s a joy to see those who do, whether they enjoy weekends away together, occasional evenings out, or constant contact throughout the week. My dear friend, Elline, loves to visit her sister and her family upstate. My married friend, Richard, has maintained a close relationship with his single sister, Pat. There’s nothing my friend, Melanie, wouldn’t do for her sister, Candy. My sister Shelley works with me two days a week, which gives us a chance to share our lives like we’ve never done before. And while we don’t see our third sister often, we know she’s there for us.
It thrills me to see photos of my son
and daughter, and their respective partners,
enjoying each other’s company.
I don’t mean just at Thanksgiving, birthdays or weddings. I mean on a plain old Saturday, when they’ve gone to brunch together, along with the love of everyone’s life, two-year-old Primo, my daughter’s son (a.k.a. my grandson). Although my “kids” have different personalities, and interests, I think they respect each other’s uniqueness and greatly care about each other’s welfare. Nice, too, that my new daughter-in-law and daughter like each other for reasons other than having my son “in common.”
Mind you, it doesn’t excite me to see my kids together because I had any great part in it, other than the genes. I didn’t. But for whatever reason, it’s one of those things that makes me happy. Perhaps it gives me comfort to know they’ll likely be there for each other down the pike. Perhaps it’s because it adds a dimension to my grandson’s life, to have an uncle and aunt who adore him.
So many siblings have no contact at all. Never talk, text or visit. Although I understand how this can happen, I now believe they’re missing out on a pretty cool relationship. Maybe the genes really do play a big part.
I’d love to know:
How’s your relationship
with your siblings?