{FOF Friends} These women say, when you’re FOF, you’ve got to have friends.

FOFs Leslie Saunders, Marquita Olive and Cynthia Anzaldua are longtime friends with a passion for helping children. This year they launched KitchenKids!, an “edu-tainment” resource for children ages 5-12, that promotes knowledge, self-esteem, healthy eating and relationship building. The women all credit their friendship for keeping them successful, strong and sane through the tumultuous FOF years. Here they describe how one great friendship can be an FOF’s greatest asset.

How did the three of you become friends?

Leslie: I guess I’m the central piece here. My career (management consulting) has afforded me the opportunity to move to several different communities. I met Cynthia in 1986, when I moved to Dallas. We became friends immediately. Two cities later, my career moved me to Memphis, where I met Marquita in 1996. We also became fast friends, and when I introduced the two of them, it was like the three amigas.

What draws the three of you together so tightly?

Cynthia: I think a love of young people has kept us young, and has been the driving force in our friendship. I’m a 31-year veteran art teacher. Leslie used to work for Girl Scouts of America. Marquita has a 12-year old daughter, Grace, who’s been growing up right in front of us as we work together. It’s a love for children, and helping children – that commitment.

You all enjoy mentoring young people.

Cynthia: Exactly.

Marquita: Leslie and Cynthia are the big sisters I never had. They have helped me to grow up, and to be a better mother. Leslie is my daughter’s godmother, and Cynthia is my daughter’s god-aunt, and we’re just one big happy family.

Leslie: I think one of the big pieces of glue that holds us all together is that we like to laugh. Whenever we are together, life becomes hilarious, even though we may be dealing with personal dramas. Over the years, we’ve had so many wonderful encounters together that when we get together, we spend half the time laughing about the crazy stuff that we’ve done in the past. Like Ethel and Lucy: ‘How did we get here again?  And aren’t we glad that we’re all here together?’

Can you each describe how your friendships has helped you in life, though the years?

Leslie: These friendships helped ground me as my professional life took me from community to community.   Sometimes it’s very difficult to get to know new people. As our friendships have matured, we’ve lost parents, and our lives have changed in many ways. But these are the same two sisters who hold my hand through it all.

Cynthia:  I lost my father not long ago, and he was my world, and they have been here for me through thick and thin, through my depression, through everything I had to go through and they’ve made me a stronger person. They’ve made me appreciate life and friends, and friendship more. I know there’s nothing that I can’t tell them. I know that they’re always there for me. We speak to each other one to three times a day. We might start the conversation crying, and then we end up laughing.

Marquita: I’m going to use a quote from A Return To Love by Marianne Williamson: ‘Every encounter is a holy encounter.’  And that’s how I feel about Leslie and Cynthia. When I met them both, we had a spiritual connection, that, as a wordsmith myself, I can’t find the words to describe!

What gets the friendship through trying times?

Leslie: We’re able to be very honest with each other. And we don’t expect perfection. We expect honesty and truth and we know that none of us intentionally does anything to hurt the others. Even if it takes months for someone to say, ‘You know, you hurt my feelings last year, when you said such and such,’ we are still quick to apologize and explain ‘that’s not what I meant, and I need you to understand, because you are more than my friend, you really are my sister.’

Marquita: The three of us love each other unconditionally. There’s no competition here. There are no egos here. There’s just genuine love.

Cynthia: We realize it’s sometimes necessary to say something to one another that might be hurtful. But we’d all rather it come from us than from the outside.

Do you think that level of trust is something you can build, or does it have to be there originally?

Leslie: It’s both. We liked each other, and we wanted to be friends, but friendship has to be tested, nurtured, and well managed.  Those are the things that you work on. Although the three of us have many things in common, we are three distinct individuals, with unique talents, interests and experiences, and we don’t try to outdo each other or compete. That keeps our friendship fresh. There are times when two of us will experience something, and we’ll say, ’Oh Lord, we better call so-and-so and get her take on this!  We know she’s gonna have something hilarious to say about this.’

Marquita: I follow Dr. Wayne Dyer on Twitter. And the other day, he said, ‘Your friends are God’s way of apologizing for your family.’  That’s how I look at these two ladies. They are my family. They are not relatives.

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11 Responses to “{FOF Friends} These women say, when you’re FOF, you’ve got to have friends.”

  1. Colette Victor says:

    Great article on what friendship at 50 loos like among women. These three women are fortunate and blessed to have each other. The fact that distance still knows intimacy is the spirit of God working between and through them. Cynthia Anzaldua was my best friend in college. I located her through the wonderful world of the computer age and time and distance meant nothing. We picked up as if we had seen each other last week. I envy the connection you three share. Cherish each moment of the sisterhood that you have for each other. May God bless each of you.

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  2. Shirley S Gladney says:

    Great story, Marquita!!! You were always gifted with creativity. I’m excited about how you’re being blessed with this project!!! Looking forward to exploring it more and sharing it with others.

    Love you more!!!!
    Your cuz, Shirley

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  3. BARBARA WILLIAMS says:

    Thank God for Friends like these friends. It so good that I consider you to be sisters to one another. Even better than sisters.
    I have a friend just like that GOD has placed in my life and we have been friends ever since. She is alway encouraging me just like my best friend has and does. I believe this: Sacrifice is the estasy of giving the best we have to the one we love the most. Thank GOD for Jesus and for HIS example of LOVE of friends with you all.

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  4. Debra Meeks says:

    Fantastic! Congratulations Ladies,I enjoyed reading about KitchenKids as well as the great relationship between women succeeding together. WOW!

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  5. Marquita Olive says:

    Thank you Geri, Colby and everyone at Fab Over Fifty for featuring KitchenKids! Co-Founders on your fabulous website! Leslie, Cynthia and I appreciate you sharing our Business FOF Friends story with the FOF Community.
    Appreciatively,
    Marquita Olive
    Co-Founder
    KitchenKids!

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  6. Keily Potter says:

    Marquita,

    Great job and want a neat story. You are really luck (blessed) to have these ladies in your life but I hope they know how lucky they are to have you too… Very nice job!

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  7. Leslie M Saunders says:

    Thank you everyone at FAFBOVERFIFTY.com! We love the article and we love FOF! The KitchenKids! Core Crew is comprised of 20 wonderful people and 10 of us are FOF members too! We love being a part of the FOF Community. Who knew 50+ would be this much fun!

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  8. lahoma says:

    Great write-up, Marquita! Enjoyed learning more about the “glue”/brains behind Kitchen Kids! Congrats to all!

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  9. Leslie Saunders says:

    Much Thanks to everyone at FabOverFifty for sharing our story with the FOF Community. Of the 20 members of KitchenKids! Core Crew, nine of us are FOF members and all of us LOVE this amazing resource just for us! The women who comprise the FOF Community are all so phenomenal and inspiring. Like the card I saw recently, “We put the ‘us’ in fabulous!”

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  10. Marla Jackson says:

    Wow what a wonderful article about three best friends
    these friendship has been tested through time.What a gift from God.

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