Could You Fall For A Much Younger Man?

When we asked on Facebook whether you could fall for a man 25 years younger (like 64-year-old Brigitte Macron, the wife of the new 39-year-old president of France), we were amazed (and delighted) by the big response. The post received almost 42,000 views, and 250 women weighed in. While many FOFs said “no way,” others weren’t quite so definitive. We love Melanie’s comment!

I taught my son to love with his heart, and to be open minded. Race, religion, same sex, disability don’t matter. Loving the person you’re with, that’s something to explore. And being happy is a treasure. I’d hope I could think the same way.”
Priscilla Witt

Guys date/marry much younger women and no one blinks. I say, good for her! Next.”
Barbara Winslow

“No. I was married to someone for over 32 years, together for over 33, who was five years younger, and there were always subtle differences, throughout our years together. In the end, I think it made a difference, to him.  

“I could not fathom being with someone who could be my son. About all you would have in common is sex. And that only goes so far.”
Jan Nielsen

“You do not really know if you could, unless you are put in this situation. I had a good friend 13 years younger, when I was married. Once in awhile people would talk about us being more than friends. I said hell no, he is way too young, that is nasty. After we were both divorced, we met up again, as friends. After awhile, we just grew closer. Now we’ve been married for six years, I cannot imagine my life without him. Sure, there are some situations that come up because of the age difference, but we just work them out. Am I scared this relationship will not work out because of the age difference? Hell yes! But for now, he is the best thing that ever had happened to me and I am going to enjoy it.”
Kim Wilson Hoekwater

  • Marina Reeree C

    I’ve been seeing a man 20 years younger for about 6 months and I’m quite smitten. Though I’m not planning on marrying anyone, I love my life just as it is!

  • Liza Plaisted

    i was married for 28 years then met a 23 year old from africa and im 46 and we both love each other

  • Genna L

    My husband and I met in a Master’s Program and I ignored him for the first week. He wasn’t in my age range.

    However, he was the coolest, techy-est, most edgy guy in the class and I have eccentric tastes. And…this 25-year old kept sitting next to me, talking to me, and joking with me. I laughed so hard from his jokes. Turns out we shared a lot of the same values, and tastes…with plenty of divergence, too.

    I was 43 at the time and newly divorced. Not looking to get married again…EVER!

    Did I mention he is Chinese from Hong Kong, 4″ shorter than me, 18 years younger than me, and I outweighed him by 30 lbs?

    All true. I’m curvy-slender, tall and of mixed European ancestry. Both of us Americans. We’re so different, but if you wear a blindfold and just listen to us…it’s clear we enjoy each other very much…and laugh a lot.

    We ended up being randomly grouped together for several project. Honest to God, it was truly random! I found out here how organized and responsible he is. It was exactly like dating a peer. We’re both first-born children in our families…so go figure.

    We’ve always related like peers. Although I have certainly educated him about stuff my generation knows, and he’s educated me about stuff.his generation nows, there was never any incestuous-driven stuff about us. Not our schtick. I’m a huge anime and manga fan thanks to him. He’s become a huge bourbon and wine connoisseur.

    There was never any age-related issues…except older men assuming he and I couldn’t possibly be together weren’t and chatting me up while he and I sat at a table. This was very odd. I set them straight. We loved the surprised looks.

    We met for tea and coffee on campus to discuss the projects, and ended up with some epic visits..and some work got done, too. Had it ever dawned on me that we were “dating” I would have run away screaming. My husband DID considered it dating…I just couldn’t wrap me head around it…so I didn’t engage my head at all about it; just went with the flow.

    So…after there months I kissed him and took the plunge, with great fear of rejection, but he has been so worth it. I knew I’d regret it the rest of my life it I didn’t try. My family loves him and my nephew, who are his age, think he’s so cool. His coolness has rubbed off on me.

    Very soberly, we never expected it to last, yet we loved what we’d found.

    After five years of living together, we got married. He had to talk me into it.
    Best decision I have made in my life. We’ve been together for 10 years this year.