As the cliche goes, “I am trying to find myself.” I’m 52 and for a large part of my life I was a caregiver to my mother who died 8 years ago. In those eight years, I was on dialysis for almost 6 of them and 3 years ago, received a kidney transplant and then 9 months after that, had a surgery to remove one of the bad kidneys.
I am now trying to figure out what I want to do with my new life. I feel like I’ve lost my sense of self. I am a creative person but have a bachelor’s degree in general business. I have always loved creative writing and actually wrote a blog regarding dialysis and the kidney transplant. After that, I got the worst case of writer’s blog and haven’t written another word. But my need to be creative has come out in other ways (crafting).
I guess I need help in some sort of direction because I feel like I’m glued to this same spot that I’ve been in for so long.
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Mike Halsey wrote on :
I can’t help myself from the cliché: You have come to the right place! It is just so patently true that great coaching is one of the most powerful tools available to “find ourselves”, whether we are in flat, gray boring place, a scary dark cavern, or on the edge of a thrilling-but-unknown precipice.
Suggestion: Peruse the list of fine coaches on the FabOverFifty roster and pick three or four who feel like they might be a good fit. Then just do yourself the favor and ACT: Contact those fine professionals and set up free phone consultations or sample sessions with them.
You will likely take away value from every conversation, and may just find yourself connecting with someone who can partner with you in some major, life-changing transformation. Good luck!
😀 Mike
Susan Tolles wrote on :
Hello!
Your story sounds so much like mine! You can check out my profile on the “find a coach” page to compare. I lost my identity as a parent and caregiver at the same time, and it was a very emotional time. It took some time of deep self-discovery and stepping out of my comfort zone to finally “find myself” and create the life that is so fulfilling now.
So many of my clients start out saying that they are “stuck in a rut,” and I read that in your words also.
If we were working together, I’d first start with your writer’s block. What has caused you to freeze up there? Is there some underlying conflict that is affecting how you move forward? If there is some weight that is holding you back, you must deal with that first.
Then, we’d take a look at the gifts, skills, and values that you treasure. What do you do best? What do you love to do? What do you NOT want to do in the future?
Most women in midlife begin longing for a deeper sense of purpose in their lives. It is vital to connect with that purpose, then create a plan to live in alignment with that purpose for a more focused, joy-filled life. Clearing the “clutter” from your mind and spirit, then embracing your gifts and desires are good first steps in the right direction.
I have blogged about my journey quite a bit, so you might find encouragement there as well on FlourishOver50.com.
Wishing you all the best!