The good news:The daughter of a FOF friend married into a wealthy family, and her husband is successful, too.
The bad news: The rich in-laws call the shots. The young couple are expected to go to their house for the holidays, had to move to their town and buy a big house (that they couldn’t afford), and well as vacation with them.
The even worse news:My friend’s daughter goes along with it all, which wouldn’t be so bad if the rich in-laws didn’t treat my friend and her husband like second-class citizens. “They barely acknowledge us if we’re somewhere together,”bemoans my pal. What makes this funny at the same time is that my friend’s husband is one of the leading professors in the country, and she is no slouch herself. There’s more, but I figured this was enough for you to get the point.
What’s a mother to do? If my daughter was happy and the guy she married treated her well, I guess I’d let them go their merry way and try to stay as far away from the nasty in-laws as possible. That’s not always easy in my friend’s case, since grandchildren are on the scene. Of course, I question how the daughter can be so unthinking of her parents.
My friend is considering seeing a professional who can advise her how to best talk to her daughter about how she feels. Whenever she brings it up now, her daughter poo-poos her. Back in the day, our parents demanded respect. I think I Iiked that way better. Too many of us walk on eggs with our kids today.