“Been there, done that,” you’re saying to yourself, about the last question. OK, so you’re not a sexual dynamo.
Not a problem. Bet you didn’t know, however, that sex ranks right up there when it comes to maintaining your general health. “Women who have regular sex have less depression, cancer, high blood pressure, heart disease. And those with poorer health have less sex. The two clearly are intertwined,” asserts Dr. Alyssa Dweck, a New York doctor who has dropped the obstetrical part of her obstetrics-gynecology practice to concentrate on the feminine sexual health of her aging patients.
One of a new breed of physician who is concentrating on treating women in perimenopause or menopause, Dr. Dweck is responding to women who now are opening up more about the dramatic physical–and mental–changes they’re experiencing, and turning to their doctors for advice and help.
“I’ll go into very big detail with my patients about sexual health,” Dr. Dweck explains. “ It’s a broad, but important subject. Libido, orgasm and pain issues are the three biggest patient complaints.”
Libido is complicated for women, and many issues can affect it, including a poor or strained relationship. Menopause and the hormone changes associated with menopause will physiologically change things for women; they’ll develop dry vaginas and sleep poorly, so they’re exhausted and their sex drive decreases. They may be stressed to the max. Diabetes, cancer, and certain chronic diseases also can affect libido. Diabetes can cause poor blood flow everywhere, including the genital area. Left untreated, it can cause loss of feeling in the vaginal area. Hypoactive sexual desire, which is a neurotransmitter imbalance with the brain, also affects libido.
rom a physical standpoint, certain (feel good) chemicals are released during sex, and the intimate contact during partner sex affects your well being. Neurotransmitters, such as oxytocin (the cuddling hormone) dopamine, and serotonin (the feel-good hormone), are chemicals that are delicately balanced in the brain and increase with sexual activity. What’s more, sex brings more blood flow to the vaginal area and vulvar, which helps keep the tissues pliable and moisturized.
Sex satisfies our overall physical, mental and spiritual health.
Menopause-related issues affect each woman’s physical and mental health differently. “Woman are so individual about this,” Dr. Dweck says. “One group of women couldn’t care less and aren’t interested in doing anything about it. Another group does very well on estrogen. The women who are anti-hormone (for medical reasons, or otherwise) can try over-the-counter products that are free of hormones and chemicals.
“I recommend stress-reduction exercises. I recommend the new Fiera Arouser for Her to my patients who are having arousal issues. It’s feminine, unobtrusive, and a great thing for doctors have in our war chest. I’ll make it pretty clear to patients how it works. You really have to guide them.”
What is Fiera?
Fiera is like no other tool to enhance intimacy on the market. It’s not a vibrator. It’s not a pill or supplement. It’s not a cream or gel. It’s a small, discreet and hands-free accessory that stimulates blood flow in the clitoris and encourages vaginal lubrication, helping get your body ready for a enjoyable sexual experience.
Anyone who has watched the popular Showtime series, Masters of Sex, knows that scientific data demonstrates sexual arousal by measuring changes in blood flow in the clitoris, a key physiological response that shows a woman’s body is ready for sex.
Fiera is shaped to fit comfortably inside the labia, atop the clitoris. Once the power button is pressed, the device softly attaches itself to the clitoris through suction, and then a trio of tiny vibrating stimulators gently surround the clitoris to provide extra stimulation and send blood into the area. Buttons on the topside of Fiera control the pattern and intensity of the stimulation vibes, ranging from soft and slow to harder and speedier (but not so hard or fast to cause any discomfort.) A soft, removable cover, called a SofSense ring, is snapped into place before each use, and washed in warm, soapy water between uses.
A great little device before sex or masturbation
It’s pretty easy to switch speeds and patterns, once you get the hang of it, and little lights tell you when Fiera is attaching, properly suctioned, or needs to be recharged. The settings, combined with the gentle suction, help you find the ideal combination to enhance arousal and desire. The clever little thing isn’t meant to give you an out-and-out orgasm, but to get you in the mood-physically and mentally-to have one, whether or not you have a partner. Using it before masturbation definitely enhances your orgasm.
The user guide explains that it can take three to four times before you feel that you’ve positioned Fiera so it’s most effective.
Fiera isn’t just for menopausal or postmenopausal women. Other stressors, including pregnancy, breastfeeding, or lack of sleep, can negatively impact sexual interest and response. You also can use Fiera to enhance an already satisfying sexual relationship.
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