{Bedroom Confessions} Can she recharge her batteries?

Last month, we gave 12 FOF couples or singles the chance to win one of Sinclair Institute’s outstanding sex education videos. Sinclair has been helping people rev up their sex lives since 1991 and  is the leading source of sexual health products and videos in the United States.  Its Better Sex Video Series® has sold over four million videos in over 30 countries. Featuring real couples in loving and committed relationships, the videos explain and show us the stuff that turns them–and will turn you–ON!

We asked contest entrants which video they would most like to win. Then, we interviewed the winners–asking them to “bare all” about their sex lives. After they receive and watch the video of their choice, we will follow up and publish the interview here on the SEXcellent blog.

Below, is our seventh installment–an interview with FOF Harriet Samson.* (name has been changed to protect her privacy.)

“I have been without a partner for over 10 years and have not had sex or masturbated during this time. I used to do both, PLENTY. I don’t know what happened. Somehow, my sex drive went south and so did my list of eligible guys. I want to give it a go again. I love oral sex. I’d love to have that video and I guarantee I will write about it—and even find a willing participant. I need something to move the needle. I am 59.5 years old and tired of being outside a sexual life. It’s time to jump start the engine. Send me that video, please. I need it. I want it! See. I can make a move!”                                                                                                                      –Harriet Samson

How long have you been divorced?
I have been divorced for 15 years.

How long were you married?
Over 20 years.

How many children do you have?
I have two grown daughters.

What type of work do you do?
I’m a magazine editor.

Why did you divorce?
My husband was involved with a friend of mine. It was a tough break and it was hard to take the next step.

Has your ex-husband remarried?
Yes, but he didn’t marry my friend.

Have you dated?
Not really. I haven’t had boyfriends or any sexual interests.

Not at all?
I wasn’t a nun, but nothing was stimulating enough that I could have a sexual relationship. The longer it goes the lower it goes for me.

What do you mean by that?
I mean that the sexual drive goes lower.

Did you try online dating?
I did try one of the sites several years ago. I just didn’t find anyone who was sane or anyone I wanted to see. I got all sorts of crazy responses.

So, your husband was the last man with whom you had sex?

Yes.

Did you have a good sex life when you were married.
Yes, for most of our relationship. Yes.

Do you think the divorce was a reason for the lack of sex in your life now?
I’m sure it has something to do with it. My willingness to be open was tarnished.

You mentioned that you used to masturbate and you used the word “plenty.” Why did you stop?
Because I didn’t see a future in it.

What do you mean by this?
I adopted pets and they are in bed with me and I didn’t think the dogs would have dealt well with that.

So you’re saying you’re not comfortable masturbating in front of the dogs?
I think they would have attacked me.

How many pets do you have?
I have two dogs and one cat.

What do you like to do for fun? How do you spend your spare time?
I like to antique and refinish furniture. I like to garden, cook and go to the movies. I also enjoy reading.

Is there anyone who currently interests you?
Yes, I have a long-distance friend and we feel a yearning for each other. He’s divorced. He married when he was 46 and his wife had two children from a previous marriage. The older one, a daughter, died from anorexia and his wife was devastated, so the marriage unraveled.

What kind of relationship do you have with him?
We’ve only spoken on the phone and we e-mail. We’re planning to get together in a month.

Where does he live?
He lives 400 miles away.

How did you meet?
We went to the same college and his sister is a friend of mine on Facebook and she connected us.

What kind of relationship did you have with him back then?

I didn’t really know him. He’s a year older and graduated before I did.

Are you open to having sex with him when you meet him?
Probably not the first time. I first want to see him. We want to get to know each other. After that I’m open to everything.

You said you love oral sex. Would you be open to that with him?

I doubt it. I don’t just want to show up and give him a blow job.

What do you want?
I have been a very sexual person my whole life. I don’t want my sex life to be over. Finding someone I care about has been the biggest obstacle. To meet someone just to get laid is not what I want.

What do you hope the Sinclair Institute sex tapes will do for you?
I hope they will recharge my batteries. Open me up to be intimate with someone again.