“It would put anybody in the mood.”

FOF gave 12 lucky ladies the chance to win one of Sinclair Institute’s inspiring and informative sex education videos. All the winners were interviewed, before and after watching the videos of their choice, about their sex lives.

Enjoy our “after” interview, below, with FOF Renee and her husband, John. We originally learned that they are an adventurous, loving couple but sometimes falls into a sexual rut.

“We can go three to four months without having sex at all,” Renee explained (and complained). Find out what they got out of the video they watched and why Renee says it “wasn’t what I expected.”

Which video did you watch?
Renee: Great Sex for a Lifetime.

Where did you watch it?
Renee: In our bedroom, in the evening.

Did you do anything special to prepare?
Renee: Yes, we made sure the kids weren’t home and that we were relaxed and in the mood.

Did you have any expectations?
John: I don’t think so. I think we were just curious to see if there was anything new that we might pick up.
Renee: I had no idea what to expect.

What was your first impression?
Renee: It wasn’t what I thought it was going to be. I thought the video would have more diagrams and voiceovers. Like, someone telling you what to do. But it was real people– couples. The instruction was by example. You watched what they said and did. I was surprised by how open they were.
John: I thought it would be more like Cinemax, where they don’t show any of the real stuff.
Renee: Yeah, like when they show you a position and then pan to the faces or something.
John: But this wasn’t like that—it really showed everything!
Renee: Everything!
John: You name it, they show it.

Did you like that it was explicit?
John: I thought it was very good. It’s nice that there’s something out there to give us real ideas for new things we can do.

What did you think of the real people?
Renee: I found them relatable. When you watch them, you don’t feel like you’re weird. They all have their own little quirks. They gave you ideas. And they also told us to communicate, which I liked.
John: You could tell that it wasn’t staged at all–just real people relating their experiences.

Was there anything you particularly related to?
John: To tell you the truth, we didn’t see anything we haven’t tried before. I mean, we’ve been together a long time and we’re pretty adventurous. But it reminded us of things that we’d put out of rotation.
Renee: Yes, little clues and reminders.
John: It put things back on the playlist.

Would you recommend this video to another FOF? Why or why not?
John: For sure!
Renee: Yes. I thought that there were a lot of good ideas there. And by using real people it gives you permission. If you’re not normally adventurous you might look at them and say, ‘It’s okay. These are good things to do.’ It would put anybody in the mood.

You mentioned that you have periods when you’re in a “sexual rut.” Is this something you’d use to help you out of it?
John: Yes.
Renee: Everyone looked like they were having a great time. It makes you think, ‘that looks like fun– let’s try that.’

FOFs rollicking in Toyland

I didn’t start playing with toys until I was FOF. Yep, but these toys aren’t Barbie and her “Dream House.” They’re vibrators, dildos and various other sexual stimulators to pump up my sex life, literally and figuratively. I promise you, they’re as much fun for me now as my mini kitchen was when I was 10.

I read that one of the first vibrators was invented in France in the 1700s (you can always count on the French when it comes to romance.) The American company, Hamilton Beach, patented the first electric vibrator available for consumers in 1902, making it the fifth domestic appliance to be electrified, after the sewing machine, fan, tea kettle, and toaster. As a matter of fact, the electric vibrator predated the vacuum cleaner and electric iron by about a decade (I guess that’s when women really stopped having fun.)

The reason why this simple device has stood the test of time is simple: It works. It stimulates the right parts of our body in ways that fingers, hands, tongues, and even penises, can’t always do. And there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that. How is it any different than using a sewing machine to stitch together fabric faster and better than your fingers? If it makes the process more enjoyable, go for it.

Most sex toys are quite reasonably priced, so you can experiment with different styles and functions. You might find that a rabbit-style vibrator (for stimulating the clitoris and vagina simultaneously) is more effective than a bullet shape vibrator one week but that the opposite is true another time. Variety is definitely the spice of life when it comes to sex toys.

These toys also take some of the pressure off your partner to fully satisfy you, which comes in mighty handy when you’re feeling in the mood but your better half is having some issues. And if he hasn’t used any of the toys made expressly for men, why not think about getting him one to try on for size (again, literally and figuratively!) There are rings to help keep his penis erect, devices to help him satisfy himself and penis pumps that do just what their name implies.

“I couldn’t get him to put it down,” Fran told us when we interviewed her about her husband, Patrick’s, experience with the Sinclair penis pump. “I actually had to grab it away from him to keep him from hurting himself. The instructions say not to use it for more than 30 consecutive minutes if you have issues with your heart,” she said.


It doesn’t matter whether you even have a partner when you use many sex toys.

I also recommend having a lubricant in your nightstand at all times, to assure that everything that should be moist is moist. There are scads of lubricants on the market, but just make sure the one you choose is completely free of petro-chemicals and parabens, which have been proven to be harmful to our body’s delicate tissue.

I’m pleased to tell you that our friends at Sinclair Institute are offering FOFs 40 percent off anything you order from their site, through August 31. And that’s on top of the low prices in Sinclair’s current blowout sale that runs through tomorrow/Friday the 26th. That makes great prices even more spectacular.

I urge you to start playing with toys. Feel like a kid again, at least a 30-year-old kid.

 

Enter code 40FOF at checkout for your 40 percent off.

*Photo source: http://www.fanpop.com

“It’s like he’s 16 again”

During the last few months, we gave 12 FOF couples or singles the chance to win one of Sinclair Institute’s outstanding sex education videos. Sinclair has been helping people rev up their sex lives since 1991 and is the leading source of sexual health products and videos in the United States. Over four million videos in Its Better Sex Video Series® have sold in over 30 countries. Featuring real couples in loving and committed relationships, the videos explain and show us the stuff that turns them–and will turn you–ON!

We asked contest entrants which video they would most like to win. Then, we interviewed the winners–asking them to “bare all” about their sex lives. After they receive and watch the video of their choice, we will follow up and publish the interview here on the SEXcellent blog.

Below is our “after” interview with FOF Connie, who watched “The Joy of Erotic Massage.”

What was your overall impression of the DVD ‘The Joy of Erotic Massage’?
At first we thought it was a bit unusual. I didn’t want to watch people doing sexual stuff.

It’s a sex video, so weren’t you expecting to see a couple having sex?
Yes, but I thought it would be more arousing or erotic, instead of instructional. There is a guy with a sexy voice giving instructions.

Did you follow through with it?
We went on a getaway and brought our laptop and watched it in the hotel. We did what we learned.

Did you use the massage oil?
We tried the oil. It’s a little messy, but it was good.


Did the video impact your sex life in any way?
Yes. My husband has become really interested in sex since watching it. It’s like he’s 16 again.

In your first interview you mentioned that your husband was raped as a 14-year-old and didn’t like to talk about sex. Is he more open about it now?
He carried this burden and he never wanted to discuss it. I think the video helped free him up a bit. He definitely talks more. He’ll now ask, ‘do you want to try another position?’ He never used to do that. He also wants to have sex every day. The person who molested him forced him to give him oral sex, so my husband never liked having it done to him. Now he does and has a pleasurable reaction. He’s definitely more sensual now.

Did the video have any impact on your desire to have sex?
I’m not as interested in having sex as frequently as he is, but it makes me happy that he’s becoming better at it and I enjoy it with him more. It was mechanical before and it didn’t take long, now there’s more pleasure to the sex.

What is the overall message of the Erotic Massage video?
The overall message is that you don’t have to have intercourse to have a sensual experience. Knowing how to touch and feel each other can be very sexual. It’s also very important to pay attention to your partner.

Are you happier since watching the video?
Yes. It did have a positive impact on my husband and improved our sex life, but it didn’t do much to change my libido. Sex isn’t as spontaneous after I went through menopause.

Click to see how Connie’s story started.

{Bedroom Confessions} It worked for them!

During the last few months, we gave 12 FOF couples or singles the chance to win one of Sinclair Institute’s outstanding sex education videos. Sinclair has been helping people rev up their sex lives since 1991 and is the leading source of sexual health products and videos in the United States. Over four million videos in Its Better Sex Video Series® have sold in over 30 countries. Featuring real couples in loving and committed relationships, the videos explain and show us the stuff that turns them–and will turn you–ON!

We asked contest entrants which video they would most like to win. Then, we interviewed the winners–asking them to “bare all” about their sex lives. After they receive and watch the video of their choice, we will follow up and publish the interview here on the SEXcellent blog.

Below is an interview with FOF Julia of Atlanta, who entered with her husband, Sam.

How long have you and Sam been married?
Fifteen years. It’s my third marriage and Sam’s first. He’s a bit younger than I am. He’s 51 and I’m 62.

Do you have children?
Neither one of us has any kids.

How did you meet?
In 1985, before I married my second husband, we bought a condo. Sam was the contractor who came to paint the walls. He became a family friend.

When did you become a couple?
Thirteen years later–in 1998. My second husband and I had just divorced, and I moved in with my sister. She was looking for a contractor to do some work on her place, so I called Sam. We started dating soon after.

Had you always had chemistry with him? Even when you were married to your second husband?
Yes. When I met him in 1985 he was a kid–just 38. I was a good bit older. But he was a very handsome young man. There were some sparks then. And I never stopped thinking of him that way. We saw each other reasonably often through my 17-year marriage, and it was always that electricity between us. I knew he felt the same way. It was pretty obvious.

When you called him after your divorce, do you think you were hoping something would happen, or did you just need a contractor?!
I was hoping. I mean, I could have just picked up the phone book and found anyone to fix our roof, but I called him.


How long did you date before you got married?
Seven years.

Did you have good sexual chemistry once you started dating?
Oh yes. Always.

Were you nervous about the age difference?
Not in the beginning. I’m more nervous about it now. I’m a health nut. I run a lot. I used to lift weights. When we met I was in the best shape of my life. But about five years ago, my body started changing. I’ve got wrinkles. I can’t keep up with him in some ways. It bothers me. I don’t want to be a burden on him.

Do you talk to him about it?
He always insists I’m being silly. My family has longevity and his does not, and he’s convinced he’ll die before I do.

Do your concerns affect your sex life?
Every once in awhile I feel ugly, and I feel like my body is not as pretty as it was. It affects how open I am in bed.

What do you hope to get out of these videos?
I’d love to boost my libido a bit. I do everything I can to keep my sex drive up, including taking HRT [hormone replacement therapy]–estrogen, testosterone and progesterone–and exercising. But still, reaching climax during sex takes more time and effort than it used to. It’s so easy just to say, ‘I’m tired.’ We work hard to keep the romance in our lives, but sometimes I fear the loss of libido.

When you say you “work hard”–what do you do?
A lot of little things. I ‘sext’ him, and he does that to me also. We call each other during the day to say ‘I’m thinking about you.’ I buy and wear a lot of lingerie that he likes. We tell each other all the time how much we love each other. We always hold hands–like when we’re sitting in the car. There’s not many times that we’re not touching each other when we’re together. And we have a date night which is really important to me. We make it a big deal, and we both get dressed up and leave our phones at home.

Are there specific things you’d like more of during sex? Things you’d like to try or do?
We’re both very adventuresome and don’t have a lot of barriers. We like to experiment. We’re open and willing to try anything, so I can’t think of anything I want more of.

What about Sam? Are there things he would like to change?
He’s been having some problems with ED [erectile dysfunction] for the last year. And he’s having difficulty facing those problems. I’m encouraging him to go to a doctor. He has no problem with getting excited, but has trouble maintaining an erection. It had gotten to the point where he was nervous about having sex, and I thought, we have to do something. I found this ring [a penis ring] online, and it helps. But I’ve got to get him to the point where he can admit the problem and get it taken care of.

Do you talk about these issues with each other?
Yes–we’re very open. I’m probably the more adventuresome one. But he says he’s so happy. Many friends our age tell us they don’t have sex anymore. Sam always says, ‘can you imagine?’ We still have sex a lot.

What’s ‘a lot’?
Three or four times a week. Sometimes more if our schedules are clear.

When was the last time you had great sex?
Saturday morning.

You two seem to have a very active sex life. Do you feel the need to keep it at this level forever? Would you be okay with less sex?
I would like to keep it at the same level as long as possible. I know age might slow us down, and if that happens, it happens. But as long as we can, we’re going to work on it, because we both love each other and love sex with each other.

How would you compare your sex life with Sam to your sex life with your other husbands?
He is by far my most sexually compatible husband. My first husband was a sexual addict and he kind of put me off sex . . and then he died, so that’s another story. And my second husband was very controlling, so I ended up not wanting him to touch me. With Sam, we love each other, we respect each other, and we are in love with each other. Sam is my companion, my friend–and that’s really what it takes.

What would you tell other FOFs about being with a younger man?

I think that I did it the right way. I think a lot of women marry older men, and it’s more difficult to keep the energy flowing that way. Over time, you can feel like you aren’t desirable and desired anymore. For me, the key to keeping a good sex life has been using HRT. I can understand how women who don’t use it would have a tough time keeping up their sex lives.

It seems like, despite some concerns, you still have a pretty fulfilling sex life at 62.

Yes, it’s not a huge issue yet, but give me another 10 years. Ten years ago I would have said there’s no problem, and now I’m starting to see the issues.

AFTER WATCHING THE VIDEO, 12 WAYS TO BOOST YOUR LIBIDO AND BECOMING ORGASMIC

“We are the most adventuresome, sexual people we know,” says Julia. “We have sex three to four times a week. It’s a very important part of our lives.” But in her “before” interview, Julia said she was concerned that she’s losing her libido a bit–especially since she’s older than Sam. Here, the “after,” she reveals what they learned.

How did you watch the videos?
We watched them together, in bed.

Any thoughts before you watched it? Were you nervous? Excited?
We weren’t nervous. We are very open about anything sexual, so we were interested to see if we’d see something we could take away from them .

What was your first impression?
It’s very well done. I was impressed that is was very erotic, but not pornographic. I have no problem with pornography, but my husband I both didn’t feel like we were watching pornography. That said, we didn’t see anything that was very new for us. As I said, we are very adventurous, sexually, and we didn’t think that these videos really pushed our limits.


So you thought they were a little tame?
Well, not that it was tame. I mean, it ‘s really right for most of the women I know. I have so many friends who have walked away from sex as they’ve gotten older. They don’t touch themselves…they don’t have orgasms. I have a friend who told me she wished her husband would hurry up and lose his testosterone so she could stop having sex! She dreads Friday night because that’s their “sex night.” I think these films are very important for people who have lost their lust.

Did you learn anything about how to have a better orgasm?
The biggest thing I got from that video was to communicate. You have to be able to tell your partner what you need. Sex is such a normal part of life—I mean, most of us are doing it. But if you can’t open up to the person you’re having sex with, who can you open up to? There was some very good technical information. It could help you figure out exactly what works for you.

You mentioned that you’ve struggled with low libido. Did the libido tape help you with that?
Yes, well, it can take me longer to reach orgasm because I have some hormonal issues. I had a complete hysterectomy. The libido video really showed you how to have oral and anal sex and how to enjoy it. I enjoyed watching it. It was erotic and stimulating . . . although a lot of it was stuff we already do.

It sounds like you’re already pretty knowledgeable when it comes to sex! Is there information in the videos that you agreed with? Stuff you think other FOF women need to know.
For me, the most important thing it told you was that you need to know how to bring yourself to orgasm. I’ve spoken to women who say they’re ‘not sure’ if they’ve had an orgasm. That breaks my heart. You need to experiment and find out what works for you. Buy a toy!

Also, the video stressed how important it is to tell your partner what you need. I grew up in the Bible Belt south, and when I was a kid–and still, now–sexuality was considered a dirty thing. It was a huge taboo for women to talk about sex. I was brought up to be correct and proper, and it took me a long time to get over those inhibitions. The video really gets at that…you need to learn to enjoy your sexuality.

So you’d recommend it to other FOF women?

I would surely recommend it to other FOF women. I also plan on sharing it with a few younger people. Even though Sam and I are pretty experienced, even we got a good reminder to appreciate each other’s sexuality. It reinforced our need to flirt with one another other. There’s more to it than touching bodies. It’s about touching souls.

Anything else you want to add?
I just want to say that I loved the little BonBon vibrator they sent along with the movies. It was powerful and very fun. We just put it between us and it’s like added stimulation for both. Like having a threesome!

So what did you do after you watched the video?
We had a fun night! We didn’t have to build up to it, because the video had built us up already!

 

Great chemistry, bad rut

FOF gave 12 FOF couples or singles the chance to win one of Sinclair Institute’s outstanding sex education videos. We asked contest entrants which video they would most like to win. Then, we interviewed the winners–asking them to “bare all” about their sex lives. After they receive and watch the video of their choice, we will follow up and publish the interview on the SEXcellent blog.

Below is our “before” interview with FOF Renee and her husband, John. They reveal how often they have sex; how often they want to have sex and exactly what makes Renee unhappy.

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“I wouldn’t have touched anything like this when I was younger.”

A few months ago, we gave 12 FOF couples or singles the chance to win one of Sinclair Institute’s outstanding sex education videos. Sinclair has been helping people rev up their sex lives since 1991 and is the leading source of sexual health products and videos in the United States. Its Better Sex Video Series® has sold over four million videos in over 30 countries. Featuring real couples in loving and committed relationships, the videos explain and show us the stuff that turns them–and will turn you–ON!

We asked contest entrants which video they would most like to win. Then, we interviewed the winners–asking them to “bare all” about their sex lives. After they received and watched their videos, we spoke to them again to find out what they thought, and did.

FOF Lucy* and her husband, Richard* (names have been changed to protect their privacy) watched 12 Ways to Boost Your Libido, and here’s what they had to say!

Did you watch it right away?
No, we didn’t. He was out of town again. We waited until we had a time where we could sit down and focus on watching the tape itself.

How did you feel about it?
It was very well done. It was nice to see that there were regular everyday couples, not actors. It was very comfortable, nothing odd or out of the ordinary, nothing embarrassing to make me blush.

Did you watch it all at once?
Yes.

How long was it?
90 minutes

Did you watch it once or more frequently?
We watched it only once. That’s all we had the time for, but we’re hoping to watch it again this weekend, because he’ll be back in town.

Do you think it’s necessary to watch it more than once?
Yes. I’m looking forward to watching it again. This time we’ll watch it piece by piece, rather than watching it like a movie, which is what we did the first time.

Was it helpful? Did it educate you about things you didn’t know?
It educated me about other ways of doing things, other than just having flat-out sex. I loved learning about the G-spot a little bit. I think we’ll focus on that right now. We’re going to pick one thing at a time and work on that.

Did it you find the tape arousing?
Yes, for both of us.

Did you try anything you learned yet?
Yes, we have. We practiced! We learned how to slow down and to take it easy and that you don’t have to rush right into this [sex] or necessarily even have intercourse. Richard also focused on the G-spot during our practice, without me really knowing it, and then I focused on it.

Did it cover oral sex, too?
Yes.

Was there anything in the tape that has potential to change your attitude or your actions?
The potential of anal arousal, although maybe not anal intercourse.

Did it help Richard regain any libido?
I think so. It takes more time these days. And carving out the time is what we’re looking to do.

Do you use sex toys?
Yes, I usually use the egg to stimulate the clitoris. It’s always helped me. Richard will satisfy himself. Now I want to try different types of vibrators. As I’ve gotten older, I need it. I wouldn’t have touched anything like this when I was younger.

Did this entice you to get other Sinclair tapes?
Yes, it did. I’ve been on their site quite a bit lately, looking around, because it’s an interesting site and very well done.

How did their story start?

{Bedroom Confessions} Their bed is rocking!

Months ago, we gave 12 FOF couples or singles the chance to win one of Sinclair Institute’s sex education videos. Then we interviewed the winners, both before and after they watched the videos of their choice, to find out if what they learned helped them in the bedroom. We first spoke with winners FOF Sandra, 53, and her husband Mark, 60, in April, and again a few days ago.  Here, in their “after” interview, they reveal the new techniques that are rocking their, well, bed. They also explain why they’ve already recommended the videos to two family members.

We highly recommend that you read this entire interview.  If you don’t want to buy these videos when you’re done, you either have a sex life that’s second to none or you don’t care about sex at all.

We applaud Sandra and Mark for their refreshing honesty and forthrightness. After all, sex isn’t a dirty word!

FOF: Which videos did you try?
Sandra: The Better Sex Video Series.

FOF: How did you prepare to watch it?
Sandra: We just sat together on the couch. We have a 12-year-old son at home, so we had to wait until he was at soccer practice, when we could watch the videos together.

Did you watch all three videos at once?
Mark: We watched them all, a few days apart.

How did you feel about watching them? Any concerns? Excitement?
Sandra: I was a little nervous about it. I didn’t know what to expect, but I was pretty ok. I felt comfortable and safe with my husband.

Mark: I felt the same. As soon as we watched the first one, I felt at ease. It features real couples. The filmmakers interviewed them, and you felt like you really got to know them before they actually showed them having sex. The couples talked about how they met, how long they’d been married, what their relationships were like. And then, boom, they’re naked!

Sandra: (Laughing). They do it in a very fun way. I really related to them. Although their bodies were in very good shape. We’re not quite there yet, but it was nice to look at!

Mark: To be honest, I thought it was refreshing to see a variety of people–a woman with small breasts and an older couple. Shy women and not shy women. It’s kind of neat to see that. Everyone is represented.

Tell us about what you learned.
Mark: Most important, it really got us talking. It stimulated a lot of good conversation about sex techniques. What we were and were not comfortable with.

Which sex techniques?
Sandra: Well, since we’ve only been married three years, some of the things that were in the video we had talked about but not done…like role playing, spanking. It opened the door for us to talk about that. I’m not shy in the bedroom, but I also don’t talk much in the bedroom. It made it easier for me to talk about what works better for me.

Mark: It definitely encouraged us to go slower during foreplay. To create more arousal in each other.

Sandra: It was nice to see that the women would sometimes laugh when they tried new things. It made me feel like, it’s okay to laugh at first. You don’t have to be really serious… It’s play.

What sort of “role play” did they show?
Sandra: They talk about being dominant and submissive. Dressing up like a school teacher and stuff like that.

Mark: They encourage you to be creative and do whatever is best for you.

Sandra: It really helped me to hear women talk about what works best for them. Several women talked about needing clitoral, vaginal and anal stimulation all at once. To have a really good orgasm, that’s what they need! But I always thought that was weird. When I heard all those different women talking about their needs, I felt better. Everyone needs something different. I’m not strange.

Mark: They were very clear about the anatomy. The fact that the vagina has several places that can be stimulated….I was very ignorant about that. It also helped break free of habits from the past. Like, I tend to focus on one part of the body at a time….vagina or breasts. But it showed you to stimulate more that one part at the same time. It seems so simple…I don’t want to make it sound like I’m a prude or don’t know anything, but sometimes you just don’t think of that and it can make a huge difference.

As you get older, you can feel naive or silly when you don’t know things, but the videos are really good about exposing all those ideas in your head. You don’t have to get it exactly right… This is practice.

What else did you learn that really helped you? What do you think you’ll keep using?
Sandra: A lot of things. We definitely took more time at the beginning. And Mark took more of an aggressive, dominant role, which I really liked.

Mark: She really liked that. I didn’t know she would like that! It wasn’t just the techniques… It was the attitude. Also, I learned that she needed three kinds of stimulation. I didn’t know that.

Sandra: For me, it takes a lot of concentration, so I don’t like to talk during sex, but I don’t mind if he does. But I don’t like him to ask me questions…it distracts me. It helped us sort that out.

Mark: She also learned that I like a little lingerie. Sometimes she comes to bed naked, ready to jump in! But I actually like it when she wears something a little sexy. They explain that men are very visual and that can make a difference. That’s part of my foreplay.

FOF: It sounds like those little things can make a huge difference.
Mark: We knew that we both needed to make lovemaking more of a priority, timewise. But we also learned that we need to make the time we have work better. It helps so much to really know what the other person needs. We have a great personal relationship as man and wife. We adore each other. We just know that lovemaking can be more a reflection of that. And now we know it’s a matter of practicing and just going deeper. My wife is very patient with me. She’s been very patient and sensitive about premature ejaculation issues. I need to be sensitive to her as well.

Would you recommend these videos to another FOF couple?
Sandra: We would definitely recommend these. I already recommended them to my sister and even to my older daughter!

Mark: It’s obviously for someone mature, but it’s not like pornography at all. It’s very well done.

Sandra: I’m looking forward to actually ordering more things from Sinclair. They talk about some of the toys in the videos.  I’m going to go online and look some of that stuff up!

{Bedroom Confessions} Can she recharge her batteries?

Last month, we gave 12 FOF couples or singles the chance to win one of Sinclair Institute’s outstanding sex education videos. Sinclair has been helping people rev up their sex lives since 1991 and  is the leading source of sexual health products and videos in the United States.  Its Better Sex Video Series® has sold over four million videos in over 30 countries. Featuring real couples in loving and committed relationships, the videos explain and show us the stuff that turns them–and will turn you–ON!

We asked contest entrants which video they would most like to win. Then, we interviewed the winners–asking them to “bare all” about their sex lives. After they receive and watch the video of their choice, we will follow up and publish the interview here on the SEXcellent blog.

Below, is our seventh installment–an interview with FOF Harriet Samson.* (name has been changed to protect her privacy.)

“I have been without a partner for over 10 years and have not had sex or masturbated during this time. I used to do both, PLENTY. I don’t know what happened. Somehow, my sex drive went south and so did my list of eligible guys. I want to give it a go again. I love oral sex. I’d love to have that video and I guarantee I will write about it—and even find a willing participant. I need something to move the needle. I am 59.5 years old and tired of being outside a sexual life. It’s time to jump start the engine. Send me that video, please. I need it. I want it! See. I can make a move!”                                                                                                                      –Harriet Samson

How long have you been divorced?
I have been divorced for 15 years.

How long were you married?
Over 20 years.

How many children do you have?
I have two grown daughters.

What type of work do you do?
I’m a magazine editor.

Why did you divorce?
My husband was involved with a friend of mine. It was a tough break and it was hard to take the next step.

Has your ex-husband remarried?
Yes, but he didn’t marry my friend.

Have you dated?
Not really. I haven’t had boyfriends or any sexual interests.

Not at all?
I wasn’t a nun, but nothing was stimulating enough that I could have a sexual relationship. The longer it goes the lower it goes for me.

What do you mean by that?
I mean that the sexual drive goes lower.

Did you try online dating?
I did try one of the sites several years ago. I just didn’t find anyone who was sane or anyone I wanted to see. I got all sorts of crazy responses.

So, your husband was the last man with whom you had sex?

Yes.

Did you have a good sex life when you were married.
Yes, for most of our relationship. Yes.

Do you think the divorce was a reason for the lack of sex in your life now?
I’m sure it has something to do with it. My willingness to be open was tarnished.

You mentioned that you used to masturbate and you used the word “plenty.” Why did you stop?
Because I didn’t see a future in it.

What do you mean by this?
I adopted pets and they are in bed with me and I didn’t think the dogs would have dealt well with that.

So you’re saying you’re not comfortable masturbating in front of the dogs?
I think they would have attacked me.

How many pets do you have?
I have two dogs and one cat.

What do you like to do for fun? How do you spend your spare time?
I like to antique and refinish furniture. I like to garden, cook and go to the movies. I also enjoy reading.

Is there anyone who currently interests you?
Yes, I have a long-distance friend and we feel a yearning for each other. He’s divorced. He married when he was 46 and his wife had two children from a previous marriage. The older one, a daughter, died from anorexia and his wife was devastated, so the marriage unraveled.

What kind of relationship do you have with him?
We’ve only spoken on the phone and we e-mail. We’re planning to get together in a month.

Where does he live?
He lives 400 miles away.

How did you meet?
We went to the same college and his sister is a friend of mine on Facebook and she connected us.

What kind of relationship did you have with him back then?

I didn’t really know him. He’s a year older and graduated before I did.

Are you open to having sex with him when you meet him?
Probably not the first time. I first want to see him. We want to get to know each other. After that I’m open to everything.

You said you love oral sex. Would you be open to that with him?

I doubt it. I don’t just want to show up and give him a blow job.

What do you want?
I have been a very sexual person my whole life. I don’t want my sex life to be over. Finding someone I care about has been the biggest obstacle. To meet someone just to get laid is not what I want.

What do you hope the Sinclair Institute sex tapes will do for you?
I hope they will recharge my batteries. Open me up to be intimate with someone again.

“We want it all” ~ Before & After

A few months ago, we gave 12 FOF couples or singles the chance to win one of Sinclair Institute’s outstanding sex education videos. Sinclair has been helping people rev up their sex lives since 1991 and  is the leading source of sexual health products and videos in the United States.  Its Better Sex Video Series® has sold over four million videos in over 30 countries. Featuring real couples in loving and committed relationships, the videos explain and show us the stuff that turns them–and will turn you–ON!

We asked contest entrants which video they would most like to win. Then, we interviewed the winners–asking them to “bare all” about their sex lives.

Here are our first before AND after interviews!

FRAN & PATRICK

FOF Fran and her husband, Patrick, met when she was a young teenager and he was 19. They waited to be married until they were more sensibly aged. After 36 years of wedded bliss, including an active sex life, Patrick is experiencing ED, which is frustrating him. Fran asked for Sinclair’s Longer & Stronger education video.

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{Bedroom Confessions} He wouldn’t put it down!

PUMP PUMP HOORAY!

FOF Fran and her husband, Patrick, received some bedroom supplies from our friends at Sinclair Institute, who have been helping people rev up their sex lives since 1991.  Patrick fell in love with the Endow Vacuum Pump.  Here’s the story!


Tell us how Patrick liked the pump.

He wasn’t really sure about it at first, whether it would work. He became frustrated when the first one they sent had a leak and didn’t work, but the new one was fine and I couldn’t get him to put it down. I actually had to grab it away from him to keep him from hurting himself. The instructions say not to use it for more than 30 consecutive minutes if you have issues with your heart.

Was the pump easy to use?

Patrick experimented with the different size cock rings, and when he found the right size, the sensation was very, very, very enjoyable. The pump sucked him right up to seven inches. When the cylinder is removed, the cock ring stays on to keep the blood in the right place so we can have intercourse.

Did Patrick’s erection last?
The pump enabled him to keep the erection, but his penis wasn’t as hard as it was when he was young.

How long did it take for him to get an erection?
No time at all. It was a lot of fun.

Did Patrick use it manually or with the batteries?

He liked the hand pump because it created better suction than when he used it with batteries. We also used the great lubricant Sinclair sent to increase the suction of the pump. It also can be used without the pump.

Has the pump increased the frequency of your lovemaking?

Yes, we’re having sex more often, which is what we wanted. When we first got the pump, Patrick was so fascinated by it that we were having sex every day. Now it’s every other day, which still is more than we used to do it.

So, overall, it’s worked out the way you had hoped?
Patrick is glad we got the tape and really glad he got the pump. If Sinclair hadn’t sent it, we’d never have one in our entire lives because Patrick never believed that they worked. I want to thank you for expanding our horizons and opening Patrick’s eyes to something he’d enjoy.

Would you recommend the tape and pump to other FOF couples?
Certainly. At our age, it’s fun to learn new things and then to experiment with them and to have them actually work and make things better than we ever thought that they could be.

It makes you realize that you haven’t learned everything already and that there are other things to do out there, even though we’re not as young as we used to be.