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15May   {FOF Coach} Making her own rules
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All it takes is one conversation with FOF Lin Eleoff to be certain that she can help you “get off the bathroom floor and “seize happiness by the throat.” A former TV reporter and lawyer, Lin is one Smart Ass coach who says she was born to help others “live lives that are on fire.” There’s more to life, she says, than “what women see as their current reality.” Lin talked to FOF about why she makes her own rules and how you can make your own, too.

How old are you?
I’m 55.

Are you married?
Yes, we met on a tennis court and have been married 22 years. I lovingly call him ‘Thurston Howell the 4th’ because he sounds exactly like Thurston Howell the Third (the role played by Jim Backus on Gilligan’s Island). He’s lost his British accent but he was born in Great Britain and he calls me ‘Darling’ and ‘Lovey.’ It’s hysterical.

What does he do?
He's a corporate guy... all business. I'm the entrepreneur in the family.

Kids?
We have four, from 16 to 25 years old.

Where did you grow up and what did your parents do?
I grew up in Toronto. My dad died when I was 17. My mom was an entrepreneur. She launched the first domestic employment agency in Canada.

What did you do before becoming a coach?
My first career was as a TV news reporter and anchor in Toronto, where I won a couple of CanPro awards as well as a New York Film Festival award for news documentary, which delved into the topic of adoption. When my husband's career took us to the U.S., I decided to switch careers and follow my long time dream of going to law school. When my youngest turned one, I applied to the Roger Williams School of Law, which was 20 minutes from our house in Providence, RI. I practiced for several years and then decided I wanted to be a coach.

Why a coach?
I became a coach at the age of six, when I saw my parents fighting for the first time. I remember thinking, ‘I can fix this, if they would just listen to me.’ As an attorney, I always wanted to help people fix their lives so they wouldn't need to hire me again. As a TV news reporter, I was always drawn to the personal interest stories. I'm a big sap, but I’ve come to believe that I have a duty to get my ass to Happy and have learned how to do that. I was born to help others do the same, to get up off their asses to live lives that are on fire (instead of being burnt out).

I think women are coming to realize that there's more to life than what they see as their current reality. Plus, I get to run my own business, work from home, and be the boss of me. It’s heaven. I’ve met women from all over the world and we’re all the same -- we just want to belong.

What kind of FabOverFifty woman can most benefit from coaching?

All women can benefit from coaching, but especially those past 40 and 50, who are ready to plan out their lives going forward (instead of looking back). That can be so exciting and empowering.

What is your mission?

I want to get women up off the bathroom floor (where they hide their sadness, pain and tears) and take responsibility for their lives. We tend to ‘wait’ for happiness to come to us. That won't ever work. You have to go out and get it. Seize it! Claim it! I know how to do that and I love teaching women how to do it for themselves. Some crazy stuff can happen once you take responsibility and seize happiness by the throat!

Tell us about a typical client.
My clients are in their 40s and beyond and most of them want to lose weight, feel normal, not feel deprived, and end the war around food. They're looking for Thinner Peace. I use charts, graphs, lip gloss, sarcasm, and my black belt, Ninja-style coaching skills to show them how to do that. It works like a charm. It's crazy good how well it works.

How did you come up with the Smart Ass idea?

I learned how to be a Smart Ass from my parents -- it's a unique blend of love and sarcasm. I don't think self help needs to be so damn serious. There's no reason why we can't be laughing our asses off while we're bawling on the bathroom floor, right? You see, a Smart Ass makes up her own rules. Like I just did. Smart Ass Radio connects me to other like-minded women who make their own rules, without apology.

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Have you written any books?
I have written Why the (BLEEP) Can't I Lose Weight - Lose the Weight in Your Head, Shrink the Size of Your Ass (available on Amazon), and I’m currently writing a book called Extreme Self Coaching -- it's going to be epically Smart Ass and highly effective for getting out of the life you seem to be stuck with and creating the life you want.

What’s the greatest piece of advice you can give FOF women?
Take seriously your responsibility to the world to get your ass to Happy. Otherwise you'll just have to come back and do it all over again, until you get it ‘right’... kinda like the movie Groundhog Day.

How do women most sabotage themselves?
Women sabotage themselves by not understanding what it means to take care of themselves first. It's not a mani-pedi once a week. Self Care is a full time job. If you're happy, then everyone else around you feels that energy and benefits from it. Otherwise you're just shortchanging the ones you love the most.

What famous women do you most admire?
Hillary Clinton is an all-round rock star in my eyes. She’s a hard-core fighter, she never backs down, and she gets back up off the bathroom floor when she hurts, dusts herself off and moves on.

Stevie Nicks is another real rock star. In a way I see myself in her. I even named one of my daughters Rhianon, after my favorite song. I feel a connection that I can’t explain without sounding woo woo.

Do you have a mentor?

My mom has always been my mentor. She’s a rock of a mother -- fierce, loves unconditionally, always, always, always there to support me and is the best grandmother ever. She taught me how to be a good mother.
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08May   {Aging Well} 100% Fabulous?
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What percentage of FOFs would say “no” to dinner with Kim Kardashian?

Not surprisingly, 87% would pass.

UnitedHealthcare conducted its 8th annual survey about developing healthy, long lives and polled FOFs on our secrets, challenges, and beliefs. While nearly all FOFs agree that physical health is the hardest thing to maintain as we age, are we basically content with our lives? The survey covers anything and everything from health to pop culture. What did they ask us and how did we answer?

01March   Straight talk about invisible braces for adults
10% off invisible braces, a complimentary bottle of Incognito wine and teeth whitener kit when you book a free consultation with Dr. Adam Schulhof in March! See details, below.





A less-than-perfect smile may seem like an inconvenient tooth of aging...but it doesn’t have to be. FOF recently sat down for some straight talk with Dr. Adam Schulhof, a NYC-based orthodontist who specializes in adult braces.

Dr. Schulhof is a pioneer in a special type of behind-the-teeth braces called Incognito™ and is convinced they will completely reform the orthodontics industry within ten years. “They will absolutely replace front-side braces,” he says. “This is the future.” He’s treated hundreds of patients with Incognito™ and had such successful results, that it is now the sole device he offers at his practice.

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31January   {Aging Well} Leave the diaper aisle to the infants…
FOF chats with Bob Deerin, President and CEO of Prime Life Fibers, manufacturer of Wearever Incontinence Underwear.





No reason to get your panties in a bunch any longer over light-to-moderate incontinence. One out of every two women 65 and older experiences the condition, which causes the bladder to leak during exercise, coughing, sneezing, laughing, or any body movement that puts pressure on it, according to the website of the National Association for Continence. Recognizing the need for an aid, other than adult diapers, entrepreneur Bob Deerin created Wearever, a line of incontinence underwear. The panties look and perform just like normal undergarments, but have a sewn-in, absorbent “Unique-Dri” pads to trap liquid. “We want people who suffer from incontinence to be able to not only wear real underwear instead of diapers, but also to have a choice of attractive colors and styles,” says Bob.
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19December   {Health} Keep your New Year’s Resolution to get FOFit




FOFitness guru Margo Kamin says she’s “eliminated all excuses” for not working out. Her fitness sessions don't require any equipment, or even a trip to the gym. She employs the use of resistance training, paired with video chat capabilities like Skype and FaceTime, to train her clients. Margo has clientele all over the U.S--some of which she's never even met in person! Read on to find out more about her video chat training sessions and why video training sessions are the new secret weapon for getting FOFit.

Want to win a 30-minute video training session with Margo? Enter to win by answering this question in the comments below: What are your trouble areas?
21November   {Health} This Thanksgiving: eat to defeat menopause!
This Thanksgiving--eat to defeat menopause. Here, FOF Karen Giblin shows you how.





Karen is the founder of Red Hot Mamas, a menopause education and support program as well as a self-proclaimed FOFoodie. “I wanted to combine my lifelong passions--cooking and educating women about menopause,” says Karen. “It was a natural fit to write a cookbook based on women’s health.”

Last year, Karen partnered up with Dr. Mache Seibel, a leading menopause expert and former Harvard Medical School professor, and the two scoured their own recipes collections, as well as reached out to top chefs in search of recipes with ingredients providing menopause symptom relief. The resulting book, Eat to Defeat Menopause, is part menopause-coping manual and part cookbook. Here, we chat with Karen about symptom-stopping ingredients plus she shares two Thanksgiving recipes sure to dazzle guests while alleviating your menopause ails. Talk about comfort food!

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05November   {Health} Oh say can you see? Should your aging eyes be a cause for alarm?




The bad news: loss of eyesight can’t be reversed. But, don’t panic: the changes you may notice in your vision may be related to hormonal shifts as you experience peri-menopause and menopause. According to Dr. Gullapalli Rao, a world-renowned ophthalmologist and founder of the L V Prasad Eye Institute, these types of changes are typical ails of aging and not necessarily cause for alarm. Here, Dr. Rao shares the different types of eye troubles FOFs commonly experience, which might be a sign for disease and which you can safely turn a blind eye to, so to speak.

As we get older, what are common issues we may experience with our eyes or vision?

  • Glaucoma, which is when the optic nerve is damaged. One of the causes is increased pressure within the eye. Normal, healthy eyes create a clear fluid called aqueous humor. When drainage of this fluid is hindered, this causes an increase in pressure. While the risk for glaucoma increases with age, this is a correlation, not a direct cause.1

  • Increasing need for vision correction (reading glasses) which can be caused by presbyopia, an age-related condition characterized by a gradual loss of ability of the eyes to focus for near work (activities like reading, where your eyes have to focus on near objects).

  • Increase in dry eye which manifests in the form of irritation and the occasional blurring of vision when you stare at an object like the television for a long time. This is caused by a loss of tear production in the eye, often as a result of changes in hormonal balance as people age.

  • Cataracts, or clouding in the lens of the eye, is usually common after age 65 but can occur earlier. Cataracts are most commonly associated with aging. Other risk factors are diabetes, smoking, exposure to ultraviolet light, nutrition and genetic factors.
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18October   {Health} You can wear heels after fifty. (But, read this first.) Plus, win a pair!






Slipping into your FOFavorite pair of high heels may make you feel sexier, but at what cost? Dr. Jacqueline Sutera, DPM, answered our questions about the long and short term effects of wearing high heels. The good news? You can still wear heels after fifty. (But, read this first!)

Enter to win a pair of Gentle Souls (one of Dr. Sutera's recommended high heel brands) by answering this question in the comments below: which pair of Gentle Souls would you most like to win?

Is it true that your feet get worse as you age?
I would agree with that. First, there is general wear and tear on your feet. Furthermore, as you age, especially if you're a woman who wears high heels, the fat pads on the bottom of your feet start to wear away and get thinner. It's a cruel joke, because it's one of the only places in the body where you get thinner as you get older.

What are the short term and long term effects of wearing high heels on a regular basis?
Hammer toes, bunions, pinched nerves, stress fractures, and ingrown toenails can all be caused and made worse by wearing high heels, because high heels shift body weight forward to the ball of the foot.  The shortening of tendons is also a big problem. It mostly affects the Achilles' tendon in the back of the heel.

Bone spurs can be caused by the rubbing and friction of high heels as you walk.  Spurs are extra calcifications that can be very painful because they cause inflammation and irritation to the surrounding soft tissue structures like muscle, tendons and ligaments.

Tendons can shorten, tear, thicken, or become inflamed. They are very vulnerable to injury and inflammation.  When wearing high heels, they are forced to function in a way they were not intended to because of the body weight distribution, pressures and height.

Aside from problems with your feet, can wearing high heels do damage to other parts of your body?
Your knees, your hips, your back are all affected by wearing high heels. When your weight gets shifted to the ball of your foot, your knees and hips shift forward, and your back has to hyperextend backwards in order to compensate.

Is there any safe way to wear high heels?
There are some high heels that are safer. The American Podiatric Medical Association recommends a heel that is two inches or less. If the shoe has a platform in the front of the sole of the shoe,  then you can go a little bit higher. I recommend wedge heels. They’re in style and give you a bigger area to transfer your weight. They’re also sturdier. Gentle Souls offers many styles that are super comfortable with layers of memory foam and flax seed pillows.



Can you offer any tips for wearing high heels?
Alternate your shoes. If you wear three-inch heels today, tomorrow you should wear flats. Then, the next day wear wedges. It's better to switch it up so the tendons don't get too used to one specific heel height, and it gives your foot a little break. I'm very big on ‘commuter shoes.’ Wear flats with an arch support to and from work, and then, once you get to work, switch out of it.  Also, limit high heel use for when you really need it, like at a party or an event, not for every day.

Can you recommend any products or inserts to help make wearing high heels more comfortable and less damaging?
Theres a really cool company called Insolia that makes pad inserts which actually redistribute your body weight back towards the heel when you wear them. Then there are just good old-fashioned Dr. Scholls--they have a whole gel line for high heels. Anything to help cushion and protect from blisters helps.

What are your thoughts on the recent trend of women implanting facial fillers like rejuvederm in their feet to make wearing high heels more comfortable?
I'm not against it, I'm just waiting until we get more data. It's in off label use right now. There are no studies on the long term effects of it, so I am not doing this right now. I know doctors who are, and they're having success.

Is there anything you can do to reverse high-heel damage that has already been done?
Electric stimulation and ultrasound are physical therapies that really help tendons and ligaments when they are injured or inflamed.  They work to reduce swelling, pain that is caused by the inflammation and injury. Strengthening tendons is also very important after high-heel induced injuries.  There are exercises your podiatrist can prescribe that are easy to do at home and are really helpful.   A lot of people end up getting foot surgery, which is an option if you have bunions, hammer toes, or bone spurs, because those don't go away.

What kind of at home treatment can you recommend for your feet after a day of wearing high heels?
Stretching, icing, and heat. When you get home from wearing a high heel for the day, massage your foot with a golf ball to get the circulation back. Icing your feet is important in order to bring down the inflammation. Reversing some of the bad effects of high heels is really important so that it doesn't end up causing other problems. You can start with a small problem on your foot and have it end up causing back pain because you're walking funny.

Enter to win a pair of Dr. Sutera's recommended heels or wedges by answering this question in the comments below: which pair of Gentle Souls would you most like to win?



One FOF will win. (See all our past winners, here.) (See official rules, here.) Contest closes October 25th, 2012 at midnight E.S.T. Contest limited to residents of the continental U.S.
03August   {Weight Loss} This product helped one FOF “shake” her menopause weight
Dear FOFriends,

I am forever astounded (actually, stupefied) by the mind-boggling number of weight-loss plans, programs, blogs, formulas, books, and foods available to us today.  It’s odd, though, that Americans continue to get bigger and bigger despite the myriad of methods we have to get smaller and smaller.

Like many FOFs, I’ve gone on countless diets over the years. Sometimes I’ve found plans that work for me; other times, my efforts have been a complete bust. Surely, there’s no foolproof formula for everyone, so I guess we’ve each got to experiment with those that sound good, until we hit on something that is good.

When Nancy Welk, one of our members, e-mailed me about a weight-loss program that worked well for her--so well, in fact, she’s become a rep for it--I invited her to advertise on the site to tell other women about it. Nancy took me up on my offer, so I also wanted to give her the opportunity to tell us a bit about her experience.

Here’s a Q&A we did with Nancy. As she says, she’ll be happy if she can help even one woman who is as frustrated as she was.

oxo, Geri

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Tell me a little about yourself.
I am 51, a mother of two children in college and married for 26 years. I have always been active and in good shape. I swam as a child. I have gone to the gym my entire adult life. I never liked red meat and was raised eating healthy foods. I’ve continued this with my own family. I kept my shape after delivering both of my children.  Everything started to change when I turned 45.

What happened at 45?
Many things were changing in my life. We moved out of state and I tried to re-establish a new life. My weight started to creep up despite maintaining the same eating habits and workout routine. I also started waking up in the middle of the night. At 47, my menstrual cycle started to skip. By 50, I was officially in menopause, 60 pounds heavier with a protruding abdomen and hot flashes. I was miserable.  I didn't recognize the woman in the mirror.

What did you do to help alleviate your symptoms?
I visited six different doctors during this period. Five of them wrote me off as a middle-aged woman who was trying defy the aging process. One said,  ‘If you're here for diet pills you've come to the wrong place.’ I left in tears. Another said, ‘I have sick people to take care of and there is nothing medically wrong with you.’  Again, I was shocked. Another told me,’ It's just the aging process, just exercise more and eat right.’ One doctor put me on on a compounded progesterone and estrogen pill. Although it helped me with my thyroid balance, hot flashes and sleep, my weight was continuing to rise. I refused to accept this and continued my research.



What led you to find ViSalus?
A friend of mine invited me to a Challenge Party. She knew how frustrated I was with my weight and thought it would benefit both of us. I had never heard of ViSalus before that and the information was intriguing. I thought to myself, why not try it? How can all these people be wrong?

What is the basic premise behind the products?
The company promotes a 90-Day ‘Health Challenge’ and being proactive with your health, before illness strikes. First you choose your challenge, then you choose the kit which is designed to help you reach your transformation. The Vi Shake is a highly absorbable, Tri-Sorb soy protein blend developed by Dr. Michael Seidman, who has over 20 years experience as a physician of Otolaryngology (head and neck surgery) and human nutrition. He’s a consultant to the NFL, NBA and NHL. The product is diabetic friendly and doesn’t have harsh stimulants or caffeine. It’s also free of isoflavones and GMOs (genetically modified organisms.)

Once you started taking ViSalus, what happened?
First, I bought the ‘Shape Kit,’ which replaced two meals a day. Although the scale was not moving, I was losing inches. I also had more energy and was sleeping well. Then I switched to the ‘Transformation Kit’ because I wanted to lose more than 20 pounds. I started to lose weight and inches. I was elated!



Is ViSalus for every woman?
There is a kit for every woman. The ‘Balance Kit’ is for balanced nutrition. The ‘Core Kit’ is for an athlete or if you're looking to improve your health. The ‘Transformation Kit’ is for those who want to lose 20 pounds or more. The newest kit, the ‘Fit Kit,’ is for those who want to build muscle and get proper nutrition. If you’ve never had a protein shake, you may feel full the first day or two, but the body adjusts. The product is lactose free, gluten free, Kosher and heart healthy. It has helped people lose a total of 10 million pounds to date. It tastes like cake and there are hundreds of recipes--you can make Vi-pancakes, protein balls and more.

How can someone purchase ViSalus?
You purchase it from a ViSalus promoter. My website is www.nwelk.bodybyvi.com. If you purchase from my site there is a 30-day money back guarantee.  But, remember, the results are designed to be achieved in 90 days. The cost per shake is $1.70 and the kits range from $49 to $299 for a 30-day supply. If three of your friends join you in the challenge, your kit is FREE! Just for taking it, you’re entered to win prizes such as vacations and makeovers. I hope to help even just one person who is as frustrated as I was.
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02August   Are your mani/pedis sanitary?


Getting a mani pedi is meant to be relaxing, but are you being too relaxed about your spa hygiene?  We spoke to podiatrist Dr. Jacqueline Sutera, and dermatologist Dr. Joshua Zeichner to get to the bottom of nail salon dangers--you'll never believe what they had to say! Read below for their expert advice on how to stay protected while being pampered.

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Do your research.

"When you go to a nail salon, you should make sure it is licensed by the state,” says  Dr. Joshua Zeichner. “You want to make sure that you choose a salon that uses clean instruments [which] should be sterilized between customers. You need to ask the salon what method they use."

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Avoid the "Wednesday special."

"I warn my patients against the ‘Wednesday special,’ or that day where they have a mani/pedi for $20 or $30,” says Dr. Jacqueline Sutera. “There's a lot more traffic through the salon on that day.  If you have the choice, go in the morning when things are a little bit cleaner, and the technicians aren't tired."

"If prices are too cheap, there may be a reason, and it may be too good to be true," says Dr. Joshua Zeichner. I personally recommend quality over a good deal. Do your research on the salon before going to one featured on a website deal.  It may be a quality salon, but you need to research it first."

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BYOT! Bring your own tools.

"I really recommend bringing your own tools,” says Dr. Jacqueline Sutera. “Most places will have a little drawer where you can store them, and sometimes they'll even have a kit they sell. This helps prevent transferring bacteria and molds and viruses from one person to another. If you want to take it a step further, you can bring the tools home and disinfect them yourself. The best way to do that is to use betadine, which is a brown solution you can get over the counter at any drugstore in the first aid aisle. It does a great job of killing viruses."

Dr. Joshua Zeichner agrees and suggests you also bring your own nail polish. “This ensures that it a new, clean and high quality. Old nail polish, or a bottle filled with a no-name brand polish can be drying and can cause damage to the nails.”

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Don't shave your legs!

"If you have any little cuts on you, or if you just shaved your legs a few hours ago or even that day, your skin is susceptible to infection,” warns Dr. Jacqueline Sutera. “You're putting your open skin into water that may already contain bacteria, a virus or fungus from someone else. I've actually seen people get folliculitis, an infection around the pore where your hair comes out; and cellulitis, a bacterial infection of the skin.”

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Use whirlpools with caution.

"If you soak your feet in a whirlpool and it was not disinfected well, you're putting yourself at risk for any germs that are living in it from the people before you,”  says Dr. Jacqueline Sutera.  She recommends spas that use a triple filtration system, like her go-to salon,  New York Diva Nail Salon.  “They filter the water that comes into and out of the basin, so that it doesn't get recirculated somehow, in the drain and in the piping.”

"Whirlpool basins that are attached to chairs are difficult to clean. Bacteria can grow within the jets and filters. It can cause skin infections leading to non-healing boils on the legs,” adds Dr. Joshua Zeichner.

To prevent this from happening, Dr. Sutera suggests using a liner for the basin. Dr. Zeichner says, “It is best to soak your feet in a basin of water separate from the one attached to the chair.”

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Say no to these tools.

"[Turn down] foot files,” says Dr. Jacqueline Sutera. “There's no great way to clean them. Dr. Sutera also advises again callus cutters. “They are actually illegal in the state of New York and New Jersey,” she says. “It's not okay for them to be cutting at your skin with an instrument. There are no real regulations, and nail technicians don't know how deep to go or if that callus isn't really a callus, but some kind of wart, skin tumor or lesion.”

"Don't let the manicurist cut your cuticles,” adds Dr. Zeichner. “Cuticles protect the nails from getting infections at the base of the nail where it grows out of the skin. Instead, have them push back skin."

Furthermore, Dr. Sutera advises against going to nail salons to get ingrown toenails removed. “That's a surgical procedure covered by insurance and needs to be done by a podiatrist," she says.

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See a doctor if...

"The most common [diseases contracted in nail salons] are fungus, warts, and bacterial infections,” says Dr. Jacqueline Sutera. “I get people with ingrown toenails that [are infected] because the [nail technicians] were too aggressive. If you think that you have any of these infections, go see a doctor right away because some of these conditions can be contagious or get worse. In some cases, if you're diabetic, if you have poor circulation, or other medical problems you can actually end up in the hospital with a bacterial infection that started as a little ingrown toenail."

"Any non-healing wound, cut, or infection should be checked out by your dermatologist,” adds  Dr. Joshua Zeichner. He goes on to explain how you might spot these conditions, “Mycobacterial infections look like red, tender nodules on the legs. Athletes foot presents itself with scaling of the skin on the bottom of the feet or maceration of skin between the toes. Nail fungus can look like a white or yellow discoloration of the nail, along with nail thickening.”

For more information on nail salon safety regulations in your area, visit www.files.nailsmag.com.

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images: Shutterstock, Nails In The Key Of Life: A Mobile Nail Salon, eHow.com, The Daily Pennsylvanian

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