Keep Those Cool Compliments Coming!

Would you rather be complimented for the way you look or something you’ve accomplished? Hmm, hard question. Here are some compliments you’ve recently received.

“I was around the corner at a social gathering and overheard some person say, ‘GiGi, she’s such a nice and funny lady.’”
GiGi Hall Rivera

“That I’m a teacher like Mary Poppins.”
Laura Cartwright

“Had a strange man in a restaurant come up to my table. He said to me, ‘you must have had a beautiful mother.’ I was taken aback. I thought that was such a nice thing to say.”
Nancy Austin

“My 29- year old gorgeous daughter told me she really hopes that when she reaches my age she is as beautiful as i am. Not only was I stunned, but got really teary.”
Mokihana Jourdan


Scary Things That Have Happened To Us Recently

Some of us are darn lucky because the scariest thing that’s happened to us recently was misplacing a credit card. Others, not so lucky. Life’s all about perspective, isn’t it?

“I was nearly wiped out on a motorway by a car that spun out of control in the fast lane, missing me only because I touched the brakes gently. It continued to spin, smashing into the barrier in the main lane . The driver was killed. Only time in my life where I know I could have died.”

Debbie Tynan

“My marriage falling apart and having lost our beautiful period home with pool and quarter acre block…for a while it looked like we would be homeless..and losing my son to my husband, as my son had to live with him..horribly scary , heartbreaking, incredibly sad..33 years of marriage meant nothing to my husband.”

Carine Munro

“Menopause heart palpitations.”

Debbee Taylor Melzow

“Losing my nursing job because I became very sick!”

Pauline Green

“My husband died in November.”

Karen Marshall-Salyers

The Most Memorable Thing Your ‘Child’ Has Done For You

Many parents jest that they only hear from their children when they want something. That may be true, but some of our offspring really spring into action to show us their love when it’s least expected. Take these kids, for example!

My son Matthew sent me roses for Valentine’s Day while he was overseas serving our country. I’ll never forget how awesome that was!”
Kelli Wight

“My daughter saved my life with minutes to spare when she MADE a hospital doctor examine me when no one else could see how poorly I was. Then she and my son–aged 23 and 17–spent months visiting me in hospital and further months getting me well again at home. I am so proud of them.”
Jayne Sims


How Often You See Your Adult ‘Kids’

We often can’t wait for our kids to get out of the house when they’re teenagers. But, oh, how we love to see them walking up our front steps once they become adults, with real jobs, actually nice personalities and homes of their own. When we asked how often you see your grown ‘kids,’ your responses were engaging, as always!

“As often as possible…love love love seeing my adult children and their families as much as we can but try hard always not to pressure.. they are all building and living their lives which is just as it should be…when we do get together it’s lovely, just lovely to see them, talk with them, feed them and love them .. aww and then there’s the added beautiful bonus of the grandchildren.”

Heather Hailstone Bradshaw

“Never. I’m in Oregon, one lives in Texas (6 yrs. since I’ve seen him) and the other now lives in Hawaii, but before that Nevada (I’ve seen him once in 4 yrs.). And I hate it.”

Jodi Smith Rasar

My only son moved to Vermont last July for my daughter- in-law to pursue her master’s degree, I live in California. We Skype once seek but I miss him terribly.  I’m planning to visit them in the spring.”

Deborah Lee Wilson

During holidays. We hope to move to be closer to two of them. None is closer than a 10-hour drive. They left Indiana after college to find good jobs.”

Debra Klockow

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What You Are Most Looking Forward To This Year

What does 2017 have in store for YOU?!

“I turn 50 this year.”

Tamara Williams

Staying cancer free, being financially stable and loving my job, just drama free.”

Connie Renee Sargent

“Marriage…Or not”

Linda Diane Ferber

Good health to me, my family and friends! If you’ve got good health, you’ve got everything!”

Karin Anderson Chaves

An opportunity to make a difference.”

Di Kostielney Goodrich


Your Priciest Purchases Of 2016

One FOF did something wonderful for 50 of her dearest friends and relatives. Another is treating herself to the same thing, 12 times! We asked about your most expensive purchase of 2016, and the answers were as varied and interesting as you are!

“I retired and bought myself a horse, brand new truck and horse trailer so we can travel together! All told $62k. Aaarrggghhhhh!”

Shannyn Scassero

“2 puppies @ $300 each. In my defense it was also my dumbest purchase! One would have been enough work but nooooooo, like a genius I had to double that.”

Jodi Smith Rasar


See Life More Clearly In “Manchester By The Sea”

The movie Manchester by the Sea won’t only give you a gigantic lump in your throat; it will make you see life just a little more clearly than you did 137 minutes earlier. And that can be an especially good thing during these unsettling times all over the world.  

Casey Affleck hauntingly plays Lee Chandler, who returns to the community where he was born and raised when his older brother dies, and is shocked to learn that he is the sole guardian of his 16-year-old nephew. We don’t know much about Lee at this point, except that he’s a loner handyman for an apartment complex in Boston; he’s depressed, and he’s terribly angry. But, as the story unfolds, we learn about the unspeakable tragedy that made him leave Manchester by the Sea, and we struggle along with him as he is forced to face his deeply troubled past and decide where to take his future.

Every single character in the gut-wrenching film, as well as the dialog and storyline, are so unpretentious and realistic that it seems at times to be a documentary. I held my breath when Lee’s nephew Patrick (beautifully played by Lucas Hedges) visited the hospital morgue to see his dad, and cheered him when he was clumsily trying to hook up with a girlfriend before her mother knocked on the bedroom door. I sided with Lee’s wife Randi (played by Michelle Williams), when she confronted his rowdy and drunk friends to get out of the house in the wee hours of the morning. And my heart broke when Randi, this time as Lee’s ex-wife, apologizes to him, saying I should fuckin’ burn in hell for what I said” (after their tragedy.)  In the book of most memorable movie scenes of all time, that one definitely should be on page one.

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Making Post-Holiday Cleanup Easy Peasy

It happens the same exact way every single year: The holidays are over but the cleanup is just beginning.

Despite your best intentions, it’s impossible to keep the house organized and tidy once the non-stop festivities begin. But now that the guests are gone, you’re facing everything from a yucky, greasy oven and your toddler grandson’s grape jam fingerprints in the kitchen, to countless dustballs, cookie crumbs and candy wrappers on every floor and rug. And even if cousin Carole’s Chow Chow puppy is captivating, the hills of fur she left behind definitely are not!

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Your Many States Of Matrimony

Some of us have been lucky in love (very lucky); others, not so much. But whether we’ve been there, done that, or swear by the state of matrimony, we’re a resilient bunch of women!

Came within three days of marrying my high school sweetheart in 1988, but we were very young and I broke it off for very valid reasons. I married someone else five years later. That lasted 17 years. I’ve been divorced since 2011 and recently have reconnected with my high school sweetheart. I am very hopeful that the past will be set right. He is my soulmate.”

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15 Life-Changing Moments

Life-changing events, are, well, life changing, whether they’re helpful or heart breaking.  

Here are some that changed FOF lives.

“The day I discovered Chung King was not real Chinese Food! But on a serious note, when I lost my husband to cancer and then lost my younger brother to cancer 8 months later.”
Lori Logan Goniwicha

“With my husband’s blessing, I finally had enough of my bosses BS, got sick of the supervisors playing God in their own little kingdom. I walked into work, collected my things, turned in my badge, drove away and never looked back…Life is good and my husband is wonderful!!!”
Lyn Gunselman

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