I’ve finally figured out why Edward Lewis and Vivian Ward fall madly in love in the 1990 movie Pretty Woman, and why Americans have never tired of watching reruns for almost three decades: While the successful, handsome and rich businessman and the pretty prostitute with a heart of gold surely had abundant sex and numerous relationships before they met, each of them craved a meaningful connection in their lives. Not the connection of intimate body parts, but the deep emotional connection with someone who saw and accepted them for who they really are.
Pretty Woman is a captivating love story because “it’s about acceptance, it’s about trust, it’s about love. I think we’re all looking for that–doesn’t matter who we are,” actor Richard Gere told Us Weekly last year.
If Richard and I sound a bit too Freudian for you about a silly movie, consider what Nonfiction Research recently uncovered when it surveyed 692 Americans about their feelings and experiences on the subject of Intimacy in America, The Secret Story of How Americans Chase Intimacy*:“Lurking behind Americans’ cheerful Instagram images is a secret epidemic of people starving for intimacy in ways they rarely admit in public.” Vivian and Edward gave each other permission to admit their own vulnerabilities without sacrificing each other’s love. If you’ve found your own Vivian or Edward you know just how they felt. If you haven’t you yearn to feel just as they did.
Consider these statistics from the Nonfiction Research survey:
•21% of Americans have no one in their lives with whom they can be 100 percent themselves
“It would be a relief to have someone with whom I could share all things, good or bad, provided they would still be with me,” said a survey respondent.
Although the vast majority of Americans have had at least one deep emotional connection in one area of their lives, most of us are missing it with a parent (54%); with a sibling (63%); with a close friend (45%), and with a significant other (41%).
• 44% have dreamt of having a deep emotional connection with someone, but don’t have one in their “real lives.” Imagine, nearly almost half of us have experienced deeper intimacy when we’re asleep than when we’re awake!
“I dreamed I was in bed with a man, not in a sexual way at that moment but lying in his arms. I remember looking at him and feeling complete acceptance and connection and thinking that I apparently hadn’t even felt true love until that moment. As I was gradually waking up I was trying to remember his face, because I knew I was slipping back into reality where he would not be,” saida survey respondent
•29% are unsatisfied with their ability to open up to those whose company they enjoy and will go to all kinds of lengths to “connect,” including having one-night stands (24%), getting high (23%), cheating (14%), hurting themselves (11%) and toying with the emotions of someone they knew cared about them (10%).
Ann and Harvey still made passionate love in 2004, after 13 years of marriage! Harvey, 62 years old at the time, and Ann, 57, would have rated their sex a solid 10! When Harvey first noticed signs of ED (erectile dysfunction) he wasn’t overly concerned. But, when it reached the point where he’d “go south and become flaccid” during intercourse, he and Ann’s first inclination was to stop trying to have intimate relations as frequently. “We were worried we’d keep having failures,” Ann remembered.
“Even though we intellectually knew what was happening, my emotions kept telling me we wouldn’t be having this problem if I was prettier or younger,” Ann recalled. “I still wanted to have a sexual relationship with my beautiful wife, but I didn’t feel whole because I couldn’t perform,” Harvey added. That feeling not only affected Harvey’s ego; it affected Ann’s and his relationship. “We were still best of friends, but I was, at least, frustrated,” Harvey said.
They both suffered like this for about nine months, while each of them privately harbored their new-found feelings of insecurity and discouragement. “We didn’t discuss the problem together until we realized the situation was becoming our new habit. When we were able to identify the problem together, we became determined to solve it,” Ann related.
They tried all three oral medications for ED that were available at the time. “One would be wonderful for a few months and then it became less helpful, so the urologist would write a new prescription for the next medication. We’d repeat the pattern with that one, and then again with the third,” Harvey said.
They tried a vacuum penis pump one time but “it was cumbersome and left Harvey’s penis cold,” Ann said. “Besides, it wasn’t spontaneous,” Harvey added.
They tried medication that Harvey injected into his penis with a small needle, but that, too, stopped being dependable.
At the close of 2011, seven and a half years after getting on the ED roller coaster, 70-year-old Harvey and 65-year-old Ann began searching for new solutions. They refused to give up hope, even when a urologist advised them to just accept their circumstances. No other treatments were available, he flatly stated. Fatefully, a sharing friend of Harvey’s mentioned that he had had a penile implant and was extremely satisfied with the results, literally and figuratively. That got Harvey’s full attention!
This week we’re feeling intimate and sexy, or perhaps we should say detached and unsexy, based on the gloomy results of a fascinating study on Intimacy in America, The Secret Story of How Americans Chase Intimacy and an exclusive survey of 970 FOFs on YOUR sex life!
Your answers to our study, below, led us to another question: If so many of you want to improve your sex lives, what are you waiting for?
Have you heard the story of the woman in Cincinnati who came home from a party with a shopping bag filled with goodies, which she shared with her husband that night. When he woke the next morning, he turned to her and said: “That was better than any second honeymoon I could have planned.” She wholeheartedly agreed.
The goodies were adult toys the woman bought at a Pure Romance in-home party, for women only! If you’ve used sex toys, you’ll understand how the couple felt. If you’ve never used them, or even thought about using them, I urge you to consider giving one a try, for your pleasure and for your sexual health. I never played with adult toys until I was in my fifties, but once I understood their significance, and found the right ones, they changed my life. You don’t need a partner either.
Below are three best-selling Pure Romance toys and three of its popular beauty products. Each of them will make you feel sensational. What’s more, they’re well made and exceptionally priced. Be sure to read the testimonials from real customers after each product description.
P.S. And, learn about Pure Romance in-home parties here. Once you and your pals attend one, you’ll wonder what took you so long.
SILKY SMOOTH SHAVES
Prevent those irritating and unsightly little red bumps from popping up on your bikini area, underarms, legs and anywhere else you shave with Coochy Love Story, a delightful conditioning shave cream. What’s more, the rich formula will help your skin look sexy, smell delicious and feel super soft. Many women use it as a hair conditioner, too.
“The best shaving cream I have ever used. Been using it for many years.”Talina S.
TWO TOO GOOD
Featuring 10 speeds of independently controlled clitoral and shaft vibration, plus a G-spot-pleasing tip, Main Attraction is a food-grade silicone, dual-action vibrator. It’s a fact that a higher percentage of women achieve orgasm through clitoral stimulation because the clitoris has so many nerves, but it’s very hard for a man to help you do that and and penetrate at the same time. This toy gives you just what you desire.
“This magnificent wonder has paid for itself so much that I owe IT money!!! I’m just saying!!! Get it ladies!! You. Will. Not. Be. Sorry!”L.A.
“No toy has ever taken me to climax on its own, but this thing accomplished the impossible…in 5 minutes flat. And the response was ultra strong. This may be the perfect toy, really.”Storybook Fragments
After a relaxing warm bath or shower, caress your body with a mist that’s infused with sweet almond oil. A few spritzes of Body Dew Love Story and your skin will get back the softness that the cold winter wants to take away!
“10 star really in rating. This is my favorite way to moisturize! Right after a shower spritz yourself with this liquid gold. I can promise you your skin will thank you! Just remember a little goes a long way!”Lindsay C.
EVERY MAN NEEDS A HAND
A silicone clitoral vibrator with six rhythmic speeds and pulsating patterns, Kaia cups perfectly in your hand and can be used while your partner is penetrating. There is absolutely nothing wrong with you if you don’t achieve orgasm through penetration alone. When you introduce Kaia into your relationship, with its uniquely shaped wings, your pleasure and confidence will soar.
“Love love love it! From the material to the fact that it’s water-resistant and the vibration changes – This is awesome!” Ellen H.
“Life Changing. Best clitoris stimulator. Makes your whole body tremble and you finish every single time. Multiple times. Kaia is definitely a life changer!!”JL
NOTHING MAKES MORE SCENTS
A roll-on sex attractant that enhances your natural allure by releasing your unique scent, Basic Instinct can be used alone or layered with your favorite scent.
“I love the scent of this. It makes me smile when I put it on so I always feel good when I wear it. Which is everyday. It goes with my perfume so it doesn’t clash. And even my crabby boss seems nicer when he is around me. That alone is worth it.”Debby F.
WHAT A CLIMACTIC ENDING
Offering 30 vibrations and pulsing patterns, Opening Act is a silicone clitorial vibrator that also can dance down your every curve to provide a thrilling full-body massage. How’s that for complete satisfaction!
“I had this one before, I absolutely love it. It changed the way I climax and it has made sex so much more enjoyable!! Unfortunately my first one died after three years, just outside the warranty… but I can’t live without it. Here’s to four more years!” Shelby S.
“I highly recommend! Gets the job done quickly alone or with my husband. Charges fast and seems to be quiet, although I’m not 😉. Very happy with my purchase.” Jackie E.
Google the words “orgasm” and “masturbation” and you’ll be directed to website after website (not counting porn sites) that offer countless dry and b-o-r-i-n-g written guides on how to master your techniques. It’s like reading a 3,000-word instruction booklet on putting together a piece of IKEA furniture, or a travel guide on Paris, without a single photo. One site attempts to liven it up by using cartoony illustrations. These are pathetic attempts to help us achieve what should be one of the most pleasurable experiences of our lives!
Now go to a new website, OMGyes, and you’ll see genuine, honest and explicit videos of very real women who demonstrate, on their own bodies, how they masturbate to achieve orgasm. The first series of 62 short videos covers techniques called edging, hinting, and layering, with each woman showing and explaining how a specific method of masturbating works for her and makes her feel so good.
Partnering with researchers at Indiana Institute and Kinsey Institute, OMGyes conducted the first ever large-scale studies to understand the different ways different women experience pleasure. The techniques come from the collective experience of over 2,000 women, ages 18 to 95, and OMGyes learned that lots of women share similar techniques to achieve more pleasure and better orgasms. Statistics on the site report the popularity of each style, and a new technology lets you try the techniques, giving you feedback until they’re crystal clear.
You’ll Love The Climax
The videos are sea changing, natural, refreshing, informative and short, designed so that women, men and couples can explore ways to make a great thing even better. It’s never too late to get new tips on an activity you’ve been doing for decades! Believe me. I tried one or two after I watched, and they worked like a charm! Whether you achieve orgasm with a partner, or all on your own, OMGyes will give you a new outlook on a centuries-old practice.
I especially like the section on signaling, which covers how you and your partner can find comfortable and specific ways to guide each other to what feels best. “Signaling isn’t criticism. It’s simply a way to indicate that you want to explore more of what feels good,” the site explains. This might include putting your partner’s hand over your hand while you masturbate or giving him verbal clues. Ninety-one percent of women in the OMGyes studies said the best lovers take the time to learn what their partners like.
Isn’t it odd that we don’t dare discuss the act of masturbation, when most red (and blue blooded) Americans do it? Why does this kind of self pleasure embarrass us? Many of us keep our private parts so private, we don’t even understand them, no less look at them. And why are many of us afraid to tell our partners how we’d like them to touch us.
“The details of women’s sexual pleasure have hidden in the shadows for far too long, and the taboo hasn’t helped anyone. People are ready for an honest, clear-headed look at the nuances that can make all the difference in pleasure. No blushing, no shame,” said OMGyes founders, Lydia Daniller and Rob Perkins.
FabOverFifty partnered with Pure Romance for this giveaway
Fill out the form below for a chance to win a gift set with two products that will make you happy every single time you use them. (Even if you’ve never used an adult toy, I urge you to try it. You WILL like it. It’s never too late to start!)
Product 1:Prevent those irritating and unsightly little red bumps from popping up on your bikini area, underarms, legs and anywhere else you shave with Coochy Love Story, a delightful conditioning shave cream. What’s more, the rich formula will help your skin look sexy, smell delicious and feel super soft. Many women use it as a hair conditioner, too.
“The best shaving cream I have ever used. Been using it for many years,”said Talina S.
Product 2: A silicone clitoral vibrator with six rhythmic speeds and pulsating patterns, Kaia cups perfectly in your hand and can be used while your partner is penetrating. There is absolutely nothing wrong with you if you don’t achieve orgasm through penetration alone. When you introduce Kaia into your relationship, with its uniquely shaped wings, your pleasure and confidence will soar.
“Love love love it! From the material to the fact that it’s water-resistant and the vibration changes – This is awesome!”wrote Ellen H.
“Life Changing. Best clitoris stimulator. Makes your whole body tremble and you finish every single time. Multiple times. Kaia is definitely a life changer!!”said JL.
Giveaway ends Tuesday, January 1, 2019
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Patty Brisben was home on maternity leave from her job assisting four pediatricians when a group of women guests on ThePhil DonahueShow got her undivided attention. “These ladies were no longer living paycheck to paycheck, and their jobs gave them the chance to have quality time with their families, as well as spark up their relationships with their significant others,” Patty said. “What’s more, they were going into other women’s homes and changing their lives.”
If this sounds too good to be true, it sounded “kind of crazy,” to Patty. But she thought, “I can do this. I can really do this,” she recalled. What Patty thought she could do was organize in-home parties to sell intimacy products, just like the ladies on Phil’s show. That was 35 years ago, when Patty was 28. Today, she’s at the helm of Pure Romance, a $220M company, with 170 employees, that sells adult toys and beauty products at women-only, in-home parties. The adult toy category is a whopping $1.58 billion in the United States, and Patty has garnered a significant piece of it. And, just like the women who inspired her in 1983, Patty changes the lives of women all over the globe, every single day!
Whether you’ve never used sex toys, ever thought about using them, or call on them often and eagerly, Patty’s story is pretty exciting (excuse the pun!) It might even convince you to give them a try. Take it from me. I never used a sex toy until I was in my fifties, but once I understood their significance, and found the right ones, they changed my life, too. And, you don’t need a partner. More on that later!
Now, meet Patty and learn about her cool company.
What did you do after watching the segment on Phil Donahue?
“I called a friend, who told me she’d recently been to a neighbor’s sex toy party, where the house was packed and women stood in line to place orders. And this was in conservative Cincinnati! My friend didn’t tell me what she’d bought at the party, but she joked that when she and her husband woke up the next morning, he turned to her and said: ‘That was better than any second honeymoon I could have planned.’
“OMG. I want be involved, I thought, so I called an 800 number and talked to a consultant from a company called Fun Parties, who told me her life had changed, too, just like the women I saw on TV. I worked for them for 10 years, but Fun Parties started floundering when the owner became gravely ill. I didn’t want the business to go away. I was 38, divorced and had four children, so I decided I’d start my own company.
“I set up a meeting with a sex toy supplier I knew in Cleveland, where I sat in a boardroom with 10 men who told me there’s an incredible niche of women who want sex toys. I agreed, but my experience taught me that women like to buy them in their own homes, or in a friend’s home. They want to be in a safe environment, not in a store. That meeting marked the conception of my own company, Pure Romance. Five really good friends stepped up to the plate and each did an at-home party for me, even though they thought I was certifiably crazy.”
Please tell us about the mission of Pure Romance and how you accomplish it through your parties.
“Women need permission to explore and bring new things into their bedrooms. They need to understand that using sex toys doesn’t make them dirty or bad girls. Those days are over. And, they want education about their bodies and how to take their relationships to the next level. Women traditionally put themselves on the back burner, and our parties help them focus on their own needs and sexual health.
“I started building Pure Romance by having doctors train our consultants about the info women need regarding their libido and desire. As time went out, I discovered how little information and research were available about women’s sexual health, and that most healthcare providers get very little training when it comes to the subject. Yet, about half of all women experience sexual difficulties at some point in their lives and need resources to help. Something had to change, I realized, which led me to create The Patty Brisben Foundation for Women’s Sexual Health in 2006. We’ve raised over $4 million to support research projects and educational initiatives on sexual dysfunction and disorders to ensure women have the information, and get the treatment plans they need, to live healthy, fulfilled lives.
“Today, Pure Romance works with awesome doctors across a spectrum of specialties, including urogynecologists, sex therapists, OBGYNs and pelvic floor therapists, to train and support our consultants. Our consultants learn about achieving intimacy after cancer treatment, and can recommend doctors to see if a woman at a party has questions about menopause.”
FabOverFifty partnered with vFit to help educate you about menopausal issues.
I’m not embarrassed to admit what’s happened to my body since menopause. While hot flashes didn’t torment me, incontinence and dehydrated vaginal tissue took the pleasure out of everything from shopping to sex. Now I know that millions of women share my difficulties, and there are ways to deal with them, from estrogen therapies to pelvic floor exercises, aka kegels. If you’re like I am, however, you don’t have the patience to do countless kegels every single day. And, not every woman is a fan of estrogen.
Enter a new device, called vFit, the first noninvasive, hormone-free solution that uses a combination of LED red light, gentle heat and sonic technology to promote intimate wellness. I’ve been using vFit three to four times a week for over a month, it takes no effort, is comfortable to handle, and the experience is enjoyable!
Enter for a chance to win vFit, valued at $495! (Fill-out form below)
While vFit is pleasant to use, it does much more than what you might think from first glance. It’s a fabulous tool to improve intimate wellness. And, it has. I can feel my pelvic muscles working harder to combat my sudden urges to pee, so I no longer have to sprint to the bathroom in seconds. My vaginal tissue definitely is more lubricated.
How vFit Works Its Magic
Just as lasers are successfully used to treat issues on our facial skin, vFit uses the same principle for our pelvic floor to improve the quality of life for millions of women who suffer from common changes to our intimate wellness. The six UV-free red lights (LEDs) in vFit, powered to glow brightly, are completely safe and provide optimal results. While they are based on the same technology invented by NASA in the 1960s, and used in many aesthetic products today, vFit is the first to use red lights (LEDs) to help improve intimate wellness.
vFit emits a gentle heat intended to warm the vaginal tissue to encourage blood flow, as well as amplify the effectiveness of the LEDs. I can report that the the heat is very pleasant and comfortable, but since every woman’s body is different, you should stop the session if you feel that it’s too warm. I was comfortable starting with 10-minute sessions, but you might want to begin with six-minute sessions and work your way up to 10 minutes
vFit offers six sonic vibration modes with different vibration patterns. I usually rotate through the series of patterns while I’m using vFit until I find the one I like best. Some days I prefer the pulsating vibration; other days I like a more steady vibration. The vibration puts mechanical stress on the tissue and muscles. Makes complete sense!
In a third-party study, women who used vFit reported the following results after 60 days: 95% reported improved intimate wellness; 89% experienced increased confidence with intercourse;89% felt increased sensation; 100% reported feeling more emotionally connected to their partner. Based on my experience, I’m with them.
We invite you to fill out the form below for a chance to win one of two VFit units. You’ll also receive an ultra-concentrated, water-based gel–created to be used specifically with the device–that’s infused with moisturizing hyaluronic acid and aloe to help enhance your vFit performance and comfort. Giveaway ends Thursday, November 15th.
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FabOverFifty partnered with vFit to help educate you about menopausal issues.
Leak, Leak, Leak!
Sigh, Sigh, Sigh!
I’m not sheepish to admit what’s happened to my body since menopause. While hot flashes didn’t torment me, incontinence and dehydrated vaginal tissue took the joy out of everything from shopping to sex. But since launching Faboverfifty.com in 2010, and interviewing urologists to gynecologists, I’ve discovered that millions of women share my problems. I’ve also learned about ways to deal with them, from estrogen therapies to pelvic floor exercises, aka kegels. If you’re like me, however, you don’t have the patience to do countless kegels every single day. And, not every woman is a fan of estrogen.
Now a new device, called vFit, is the first noninvasive, hormone-free solution that uses a combination of LED red light, gentle heat and sonic technology to promote intimate wellness. You can use it in the privacy and comfort of your bedroom, it takes no effort, and it’s a pleasant experience!
“Vaginal dryness is caused by lack of blood flow to the area from low estrogen, and it’s prevalent in women in their late 40s and 50s. That’s when they start to complain to me about lack of lubrication with intercourse, even if their libidos are still great,” said Dr. Sarah de la Torre, a board certified obstetrician-gynecologist with a busy practice in Seattle, WA. “The vaginal tissue also becomes thinner, sometimes leading to pain during sex. And stress incontinence, which often begins after childbirth, worsens during the next decade. I talk to women all day long about these health and pelvic floor issues, and I run down their options, including kegels, physical therapy, or surgery,” Dr. de la Torre explained. “I was excited to learn that a women’s wellness product was being developed that would use low-level light therapy on vaginal tissue to improve intimate wellness.”
How vFit Works Its Magic
vFit is the brainchild of high-tech beauty executive and mother Colette Courtion, who designed it in partnership with leading gynecologists and experts in the field of laser and light science. Following the birth of her son, Colette realized there were few options available to help women feel like themselves again after going through life’s milestones. “I’ve spent most of my career working in medical aesthetics, and I thought ‘if we’re using lasers on our facial skin, why aren’t we using the same scientific principles for our pelvic floor.’ It was my ‘aha’ moment,” said 46-year-old Colette. Using personal insights from over 2,300 women about their intimate health experiences, and what they’d like to see in an at-home product, vFit was born. “We’re committed to improving the quality of life for the millions of women who suffer from common changes to their intimate wellness,” Colette added.
RED LIGHT (LED) TECHNOLOGY
The six UV-free red lights (LEDs) in vFit, powered to glow brightly, are completely safe and provide optimal results. While they are based on the same technology invented by NASA in the 1960s, and used in many aesthetic products today, vFit is the first to use red lights (LEDs) to help improve intimate wellness.
vFit emits a gentle heat intended to warm the vaginal tissue to encourage blood flow, as well as amplify the effectiveness of the LEDs. Most women report the heat is very pleasant and comfortable, but since every woman’s body is different, you should stop the session if you feel it’s too warm.
“As we age our tissue loses plumpness and elasticity, and gets more and more thin, so you may be more sensitive to heat than someone whose tissue is not as thin,” noted Dr. de la Torre. vFit recommends that you start with a six-minute session and work your way up to 10 minutes when your body becomes comfortable with the gentle heat.
vFit offers six sonic vibration modes with different vibration patterns. You can rotate through the series of patterns while you’re using vFit to decide which you like best. The last mode that you used for over one minute will be stored, and your next session with vFit will start at that mode.
Vibration, often used in sports medicine, puts mechanical stress on the tissue and muscles. “It’s the combination of that, plus the heat and the light, that make the magic happen,” said Dr. de la Torre. vFit should be used from four to six weeks, at least every other day, after which time it can be used about once a week to maintain results.
The Impressive vFit Results
In a third-party study, women who used vFit reported the following results after 60 days:
95%reported improved intimate wellness
89% experienced increased confidence with intercourse
89% felt increased sensation
100% reported feeling more emotionally connected to their partner
An ultra-concentrated, water-based gel–created to be used specifically with the device–is infused with moisturizing hyaluronic acid and aloe to help enhance your vFit performance and comfort.
vFit costs $495. Yes, the brand acknowledges that it’s an investment, but it’s an “investment in your own wellness, and it’s crucial to prioritize ourselves and our health as women,” Dr. de la Torre emphasized. “If you look at the cost of other items that women are buying, it far exceeds the cost of vFit,” she added. “ If you’re buying incontinence pads, for example, you’re probably spending about $1,000 a year. If you’re using hormone creams every month, you’re spending $80 a month on co-pay, which is average. But these are masking the problems, not really solving them. So again, this is an important investment for your mental well-being and overall health and wellness.”