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This beautifully designed device, called the Revel Body SOL, is great for intimate body massage and superior stimulation to the most sensitive places on the body.

Featuring a magnetically centered moving part, powered up by a patented Revel Body TrueSonic technology, the unit delivers a wide range of adjustable vibration “never before seen in sexual wellness products,” according to the company. Also, it’s only vibrator that operates at the power of Om, the energy that connects and joins all things together. Om vibration promotes sexual awakening, reduces stress and tension and renews mind, body and spirit.

The tube-shaped magnetic center can easily be popped out when you want to change one of the three tips, each shaped differently to create a unique sensation. The technology also reportedly reduces vibration to the hand by 80 percent, and the ergonomic shape makes the Revel Body SOL feel comfortable and easy to use. A small stand charges the unit’s lithium-powered battery and holds the device when it’s resting.

Made of high-quality, body-safe materials, the Revel Body SOL is completely waterproof and generates vibration and suction when the concave side is used underwater and held again the body. It is a sensation unlike any other. 1 FOF will win.

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What Do Matt Damon And Geri Brin Have In Common?

“I should have done it years ago. It’s amazing I didn’t even want cigarettes anymore.”

Matt Damon [on his experience with hypnosis]

Like Matt, I stopped smoking after being hypnotized, about 30 years ago. I was smoking over two packs a day at that point. The private session lasted about 90 minutes and cost me $250, a hefty sum considering it was 1984. The hypnotist gave me a set of tapes and instructed me to listen to them every night for a few weeks. If they worked as they were supposed to, I’d be able to hypnotize myself, he said. They worked. Even today, I can remember going into a hypnotic state. I kid you not!

I haven’t even held a cigarette between my fingers since that afternoon.

Perhaps I would have stopped without hypnosis. Who knows and who cares? I don’t smoke and that’s what counts.

So I jumped at the chance to interview Colin Christopher, a 39-year-old certified clinical hypnotherapist from Canada, who started using hypnosis and hypnotherapy 15 years ago to help couples reconnect and reignite their waning flames.

Maintaining that sexless relationships are more common than most couples will admit, Colin says that as long as medical issues aren’t to blame, couples can employ many natural techniques to heat things up again. Colin also wrote Success Through Manipulation, which explains what manipulates us in our environment. “You can read each chapter in five to 10 minutes,” he says.

Enjoy my enlightening conversation with Colin.


The 16 Sexiest Women Over 50

Although macho men might disagree, a woman’s sex appeal, at any age, has a lot more to do with her character, confidence and charisma than her boobs, gams and flawless face.

Here are FabOverFifty’s Sexy Sixteen.


{Giveaway} Je Joue MiMi Vibrator From My Secret Luxury

After “taking a lap” through a sex shop in New York City’s West Village, Stacy Rybchin saw a business opportunity—selling sex toys online in a tasteful, upscale fashion. “Where could someone like me buy sex toys without all the nudity and embarrassment?” thought this full-time mother of two boys from Westchester, NY. A few years into her business, Stacy is excited to share her brand, My Secret Luxury, with FOF. Read our interview with Stacy about high quality luxury sex toys and enter for a chance to win the Je Joue MiMi Vibrator!

To enter to win the Je Joue MiMi Vibrator, comment below by answering the question: Have you ever tried a cheap sex toy?


{Test This} Good Clean Love Edible Body Candy

Good Clean Love has a delicious treat for you and your lover. Edible Body Candy ($14 for 2oz) comes in three tempting flavors: Spicy Orange, Cocoa Mint, and Vanilla Chai. “Redefine the meaning of kissable with these natural, creamy edible flavors that will turn your lovemaking an extravagant adventure,” according to the manufacturer. The candies all include avocado oil, organic jojoba oil and candelilla wax. To use, simply “apply to both partner’s lips” and “enjoy on all of your lover’s most kissable parts.”

Will your love life take a turn for the sweet? 10 FOFs will test this.

To enter to test this, comment below by answering the question: Why do you want to try Edible Body Candy?

10 FOFs will win. (See official rules, here.) Contest closes October 9, 2013 at midnight E.S.T. Contest limited to residents of the continental U.S.

“It would put anybody in the mood.”

FOF gave 12 lucky ladies the chance to win one of Sinclair Institute’s inspiring and informative sex education videos. All the winners were interviewed, before and after watching the videos of their choice, about their sex lives.

Enjoy our “after” interview, below, with FOF Renee and her husband, John. We originally learned that they are an adventurous, loving couple but sometimes falls into a sexual rut.

“We can go three to four months without having sex at all,” Renee explained (and complained). Find out what they got out of the video they watched and why Renee says it “wasn’t what I expected.”

Which video did you watch?
Renee: Great Sex for a Lifetime.

Where did you watch it?
Renee: In our bedroom, in the evening.

Did you do anything special to prepare?
Renee: Yes, we made sure the kids weren’t home and that we were relaxed and in the mood.

Did you have any expectations?
John: I don’t think so. I think we were just curious to see if there was anything new that we might pick up.
Renee: I had no idea what to expect.

What was your first impression?
Renee: It wasn’t what I thought it was going to be. I thought the video would have more diagrams and voiceovers. Like, someone telling you what to do. But it was real people– couples. The instruction was by example. You watched what they said and did. I was surprised by how open they were.
John: I thought it would be more like Cinemax, where they don’t show any of the real stuff.
Renee: Yeah, like when they show you a position and then pan to the faces or something.
John: But this wasn’t like that—it really showed everything!
Renee: Everything!
John: You name it, they show it.

Did you like that it was explicit?
John: I thought it was very good. It’s nice that there’s something out there to give us real ideas for new things we can do.

What did you think of the real people?
Renee: I found them relatable. When you watch them, you don’t feel like you’re weird. They all have their own little quirks. They gave you ideas. And they also told us to communicate, which I liked.
John: You could tell that it wasn’t staged at all–just real people relating their experiences.

Was there anything you particularly related to?
John: To tell you the truth, we didn’t see anything we haven’t tried before. I mean, we’ve been together a long time and we’re pretty adventurous. But it reminded us of things that we’d put out of rotation.
Renee: Yes, little clues and reminders.
John: It put things back on the playlist.

Would you recommend this video to another FOF? Why or why not?
John: For sure!
Renee: Yes. I thought that there were a lot of good ideas there. And by using real people it gives you permission. If you’re not normally adventurous you might look at them and say, ‘It’s okay. These are good things to do.’ It would put anybody in the mood.

You mentioned that you have periods when you’re in a “sexual rut.” Is this something you’d use to help you out of it?
John: Yes.
Renee: Everyone looked like they were having a great time. It makes you think, ‘that looks like fun– let’s try that.’

Wake up your libido through scent!

FOFtestburst10To enter to win Good Clean Love’s Love Oil Set, comment below by answering the question: Why do you want to try love oil? 

Our sense of smell is primary in attraction. Love oil is a sensuous commodity. As you rub it on your loved one’s skin, the scent merges with your touch. Touch may be a mysterious language but we all desire to “speak” it. Combining scented oil with the perfectness of naked skin exudes erotica.

My husband, Franc, coined the term “smoking me/you” to describe the practice of inhaling your lover’s scent. Try this: Apply a generous amount of love oil to his lips and face, up to his nose. Move in as if you’re about to kiss, so you can feel his breath on your face, then inhale. Close your eyes and focus all your attention on the scent. Notice how it penetrates beyond your conscious thoughts. Take five breaths. Brush your lips on the smooth soft glide of his chin and cheek. With your eyes closed, search for his lips. See if you can feel the moment when your limbic brain begins to fire a burst of neuron activity. See if you can physically notice the moment when your sexual drive is triggered.

Good Clean Love oil scents are exotic and erotic combinations from across the globe. Our formulations use many of the oldest recorded aphrodisiac oils that have been revered for centuries. Not surprisingly many of these exquisite scents has been more valuable than gold for their arousing properties. Each oil combines the sensuous history of faraway lands and exotic aromas, transporting your intimate experience.

It is hard to smoke your lover for very long, before you are compelled to kiss. Love oil turns an ordinary kiss into an extraordinary exchange. Scent enlarges your sensory experience at least ten fold. Lips, tongue, and breath all are magnified within the shadow of aroma. Paying attention to this most precious and private language of intimacy nourishes your relationship in ways that no speaking conversation can. Let the kiss envelop your body. Be generous with love oil all over your lover’s body. Feel the weight of your hand as it glides over curves. Add pressure to the length of a leg. Try only fingertips down the torso. All the time, keep your mind focused on scent. How does your lover’s body smell on the chest, belly, and genitals? Love oil will continue to change all over the body. You will be inhaling different combinations of scent, like notes of music.

Love oil smells differently on everyone who wears it and creates a unique scent bridge between you and your partner. Knowing your relationship through scent is a unique way to reconsider all that you thought you knew and acknowledge all that remains mysterious about the one you love.

–Wendy Strgar, Lovelogist, Good Clean Love

To enter to win a Love Oil Set, comment below by answering the question: Why do you want to try love oil? 10 FOFs will win!

P.S. Want your love oil set NOW? Visit Good Clean Love’s website and enter code Fab40 at checkout!

10 FOFs will win. (See official rules, here.) Contest closes August 15, 2013 at midnight E.S.T. Contest limited to residents of the continental U.S.

FOFs rollicking in Toyland

I didn’t start playing with toys until I was FOF. Yep, but these toys aren’t Barbie and her “Dream House.” They’re vibrators, dildos and various other sexual stimulators to pump up my sex life, literally and figuratively. I promise you, they’re as much fun for me now as my mini kitchen was when I was 10.

I read that one of the first vibrators was invented in France in the 1700s (you can always count on the French when it comes to romance.) The American company, Hamilton Beach, patented the first electric vibrator available for consumers in 1902, making it the fifth domestic appliance to be electrified, after the sewing machine, fan, tea kettle, and toaster. As a matter of fact, the electric vibrator predated the vacuum cleaner and electric iron by about a decade (I guess that’s when women really stopped having fun.)

The reason why this simple device has stood the test of time is simple: It works. It stimulates the right parts of our body in ways that fingers, hands, tongues, and even penises, can’t always do. And there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that. How is it any different than using a sewing machine to stitch together fabric faster and better than your fingers? If it makes the process more enjoyable, go for it.

Most sex toys are quite reasonably priced, so you can experiment with different styles and functions. You might find that a rabbit-style vibrator (for stimulating the clitoris and vagina simultaneously) is more effective than a bullet shape vibrator one week but that the opposite is true another time. Variety is definitely the spice of life when it comes to sex toys.

These toys also take some of the pressure off your partner to fully satisfy you, which comes in mighty handy when you’re feeling in the mood but your better half is having some issues. And if he hasn’t used any of the toys made expressly for men, why not think about getting him one to try on for size (again, literally and figuratively!) There are rings to help keep his penis erect, devices to help him satisfy himself and penis pumps that do just what their name implies.

“I couldn’t get him to put it down,” Fran told us when we interviewed her about her husband, Patrick’s, experience with the Sinclair penis pump. “I actually had to grab it away from him to keep him from hurting himself. The instructions say not to use it for more than 30 consecutive minutes if you have issues with your heart,” she said.

It doesn’t matter whether you even have a partner when you use many sex toys.

I also recommend having a lubricant in your nightstand at all times, to assure that everything that should be moist is moist. There are scads of lubricants on the market, but just make sure the one you choose is completely free of petro-chemicals and parabens, which have been proven to be harmful to our body’s delicate tissue.

I’m pleased to tell you that our friends at Sinclair Institute are offering FOFs 40 percent off anything you order from their site, through August 31. And that’s on top of the low prices in Sinclair’s current blowout sale that runs through tomorrow/Friday the 26th. That makes great prices even more spectacular.

I urge you to start playing with toys. Feel like a kid again, at least a 30-year-old kid.


Enter code 40FOF at checkout for your 40 percent off.

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“It’s like he’s 16 again”

During the last few months, we gave 12 FOF couples or singles the chance to win one of Sinclair Institute’s outstanding sex education videos. Sinclair has been helping people rev up their sex lives since 1991 and is the leading source of sexual health products and videos in the United States. Over four million videos in Its Better Sex Video Series® have sold in over 30 countries. Featuring real couples in loving and committed relationships, the videos explain and show us the stuff that turns them–and will turn you–ON!

We asked contest entrants which video they would most like to win. Then, we interviewed the winners–asking them to “bare all” about their sex lives. After they receive and watch the video of their choice, we will follow up and publish the interview here on the SEXcellent blog.

Below is our “after” interview with FOF Connie, who watched “The Joy of Erotic Massage.”

What was your overall impression of the DVD ‘The Joy of Erotic Massage’?
At first we thought it was a bit unusual. I didn’t want to watch people doing sexual stuff.

It’s a sex video, so weren’t you expecting to see a couple having sex?
Yes, but I thought it would be more arousing or erotic, instead of instructional. There is a guy with a sexy voice giving instructions.

Did you follow through with it?
We went on a getaway and brought our laptop and watched it in the hotel. We did what we learned.

Did you use the massage oil?
We tried the oil. It’s a little messy, but it was good.

Did the video impact your sex life in any way?
Yes. My husband has become really interested in sex since watching it. It’s like he’s 16 again.

In your first interview you mentioned that your husband was raped as a 14-year-old and didn’t like to talk about sex. Is he more open about it now?
He carried this burden and he never wanted to discuss it. I think the video helped free him up a bit. He definitely talks more. He’ll now ask, ‘do you want to try another position?’ He never used to do that. He also wants to have sex every day. The person who molested him forced him to give him oral sex, so my husband never liked having it done to him. Now he does and has a pleasurable reaction. He’s definitely more sensual now.

Did the video have any impact on your desire to have sex?
I’m not as interested in having sex as frequently as he is, but it makes me happy that he’s becoming better at it and I enjoy it with him more. It was mechanical before and it didn’t take long, now there’s more pleasure to the sex.

What is the overall message of the Erotic Massage video?
The overall message is that you don’t have to have intercourse to have a sensual experience. Knowing how to touch and feel each other can be very sexual. It’s also very important to pay attention to your partner.

Are you happier since watching the video?
Yes. It did have a positive impact on my husband and improved our sex life, but it didn’t do much to change my libido. Sex isn’t as spontaneous after I went through menopause.

Click to see how Connie’s story started.

{Bedroom Confessions} It worked for them!

During the last few months, we gave 12 FOF couples or singles the chance to win one of Sinclair Institute’s outstanding sex education videos. Sinclair has been helping people rev up their sex lives since 1991 and is the leading source of sexual health products and videos in the United States. Over four million videos in Its Better Sex Video Series® have sold in over 30 countries. Featuring real couples in loving and committed relationships, the videos explain and show us the stuff that turns them–and will turn you–ON!

We asked contest entrants which video they would most like to win. Then, we interviewed the winners–asking them to “bare all” about their sex lives. After they receive and watch the video of their choice, we will follow up and publish the interview here on the SEXcellent blog.

Below is an interview with FOF Julia of Atlanta, who entered with her husband, Sam.

How long have you and Sam been married?
Fifteen years. It’s my third marriage and Sam’s first. He’s a bit younger than I am. He’s 51 and I’m 62.

Do you have children?
Neither one of us has any kids.

How did you meet?
In 1985, before I married my second husband, we bought a condo. Sam was the contractor who came to paint the walls. He became a family friend.

When did you become a couple?
Thirteen years later–in 1998. My second husband and I had just divorced, and I moved in with my sister. She was looking for a contractor to do some work on her place, so I called Sam. We started dating soon after.

Had you always had chemistry with him? Even when you were married to your second husband?
Yes. When I met him in 1985 he was a kid–just 38. I was a good bit older. But he was a very handsome young man. There were some sparks then. And I never stopped thinking of him that way. We saw each other reasonably often through my 17-year marriage, and it was always that electricity between us. I knew he felt the same way. It was pretty obvious.

When you called him after your divorce, do you think you were hoping something would happen, or did you just need a contractor?!
I was hoping. I mean, I could have just picked up the phone book and found anyone to fix our roof, but I called him.

How long did you date before you got married?
Seven years.

Did you have good sexual chemistry once you started dating?
Oh yes. Always.

Were you nervous about the age difference?
Not in the beginning. I’m more nervous about it now. I’m a health nut. I run a lot. I used to lift weights. When we met I was in the best shape of my life. But about five years ago, my body started changing. I’ve got wrinkles. I can’t keep up with him in some ways. It bothers me. I don’t want to be a burden on him.

Do you talk to him about it?
He always insists I’m being silly. My family has longevity and his does not, and he’s convinced he’ll die before I do.

Do your concerns affect your sex life?
Every once in awhile I feel ugly, and I feel like my body is not as pretty as it was. It affects how open I am in bed.

What do you hope to get out of these videos?
I’d love to boost my libido a bit. I do everything I can to keep my sex drive up, including taking HRT [hormone replacement therapy]–estrogen, testosterone and progesterone–and exercising. But still, reaching climax during sex takes more time and effort than it used to. It’s so easy just to say, ‘I’m tired.’ We work hard to keep the romance in our lives, but sometimes I fear the loss of libido.

When you say you “work hard”–what do you do?
A lot of little things. I ‘sext’ him, and he does that to me also. We call each other during the day to say ‘I’m thinking about you.’ I buy and wear a lot of lingerie that he likes. We tell each other all the time how much we love each other. We always hold hands–like when we’re sitting in the car. There’s not many times that we’re not touching each other when we’re together. And we have a date night which is really important to me. We make it a big deal, and we both get dressed up and leave our phones at home.

Are there specific things you’d like more of during sex? Things you’d like to try or do?
We’re both very adventuresome and don’t have a lot of barriers. We like to experiment. We’re open and willing to try anything, so I can’t think of anything I want more of.

What about Sam? Are there things he would like to change?
He’s been having some problems with ED [erectile dysfunction] for the last year. And he’s having difficulty facing those problems. I’m encouraging him to go to a doctor. He has no problem with getting excited, but has trouble maintaining an erection. It had gotten to the point where he was nervous about having sex, and I thought, we have to do something. I found this ring [a penis ring] online, and it helps. But I’ve got to get him to the point where he can admit the problem and get it taken care of.

Do you talk about these issues with each other?
Yes–we’re very open. I’m probably the more adventuresome one. But he says he’s so happy. Many friends our age tell us they don’t have sex anymore. Sam always says, ‘can you imagine?’ We still have sex a lot.

What’s ‘a lot’?
Three or four times a week. Sometimes more if our schedules are clear.

When was the last time you had great sex?
Saturday morning.

You two seem to have a very active sex life. Do you feel the need to keep it at this level forever? Would you be okay with less sex?
I would like to keep it at the same level as long as possible. I know age might slow us down, and if that happens, it happens. But as long as we can, we’re going to work on it, because we both love each other and love sex with each other.

How would you compare your sex life with Sam to your sex life with your other husbands?
He is by far my most sexually compatible husband. My first husband was a sexual addict and he kind of put me off sex . . and then he died, so that’s another story. And my second husband was very controlling, so I ended up not wanting him to touch me. With Sam, we love each other, we respect each other, and we are in love with each other. Sam is my companion, my friend–and that’s really what it takes.

What would you tell other FOFs about being with a younger man?

I think that I did it the right way. I think a lot of women marry older men, and it’s more difficult to keep the energy flowing that way. Over time, you can feel like you aren’t desirable and desired anymore. For me, the key to keeping a good sex life has been using HRT. I can understand how women who don’t use it would have a tough time keeping up their sex lives.

It seems like, despite some concerns, you still have a pretty fulfilling sex life at 62.

Yes, it’s not a huge issue yet, but give me another 10 years. Ten years ago I would have said there’s no problem, and now I’m starting to see the issues.


“We are the most adventuresome, sexual people we know,” says Julia. “We have sex three to four times a week. It’s a very important part of our lives.” But in her “before” interview, Julia said she was concerned that she’s losing her libido a bit–especially since she’s older than Sam. Here, the “after,” she reveals what they learned.

How did you watch the videos?
We watched them together, in bed.

Any thoughts before you watched it? Were you nervous? Excited?
We weren’t nervous. We are very open about anything sexual, so we were interested to see if we’d see something we could take away from them .

What was your first impression?
It’s very well done. I was impressed that is was very erotic, but not pornographic. I have no problem with pornography, but my husband I both didn’t feel like we were watching pornography. That said, we didn’t see anything that was very new for us. As I said, we are very adventurous, sexually, and we didn’t think that these videos really pushed our limits.

So you thought they were a little tame?
Well, not that it was tame. I mean, it ‘s really right for most of the women I know. I have so many friends who have walked away from sex as they’ve gotten older. They don’t touch themselves…they don’t have orgasms. I have a friend who told me she wished her husband would hurry up and lose his testosterone so she could stop having sex! She dreads Friday night because that’s their “sex night.” I think these films are very important for people who have lost their lust.

Did you learn anything about how to have a better orgasm?
The biggest thing I got from that video was to communicate. You have to be able to tell your partner what you need. Sex is such a normal part of life—I mean, most of us are doing it. But if you can’t open up to the person you’re having sex with, who can you open up to? There was some very good technical information. It could help you figure out exactly what works for you.

You mentioned that you’ve struggled with low libido. Did the libido tape help you with that?
Yes, well, it can take me longer to reach orgasm because I have some hormonal issues. I had a complete hysterectomy. The libido video really showed you how to have oral and anal sex and how to enjoy it. I enjoyed watching it. It was erotic and stimulating . . . although a lot of it was stuff we already do.

It sounds like you’re already pretty knowledgeable when it comes to sex! Is there information in the videos that you agreed with? Stuff you think other FOF women need to know.
For me, the most important thing it told you was that you need to know how to bring yourself to orgasm. I’ve spoken to women who say they’re ‘not sure’ if they’ve had an orgasm. That breaks my heart. You need to experiment and find out what works for you. Buy a toy!

Also, the video stressed how important it is to tell your partner what you need. I grew up in the Bible Belt south, and when I was a kid–and still, now–sexuality was considered a dirty thing. It was a huge taboo for women to talk about sex. I was brought up to be correct and proper, and it took me a long time to get over those inhibitions. The video really gets at that…you need to learn to enjoy your sexuality.

So you’d recommend it to other FOF women?

I would surely recommend it to other FOF women. I also plan on sharing it with a few younger people. Even though Sam and I are pretty experienced, even we got a good reminder to appreciate each other’s sexuality. It reinforced our need to flirt with one another other. There’s more to it than touching bodies. It’s about touching souls.

Anything else you want to add?
I just want to say that I loved the little BonBon vibrator they sent along with the movies. It was powerful and very fun. We just put it between us and it’s like added stimulation for both. Like having a threesome!

So what did you do after you watched the video?
We had a fun night! We didn’t have to build up to it, because the video had built us up already!